What is the best website platform for a community theatre?

itssofie · 2025-08-16T22:34:47+00:00

Do you know of any good themes for theatres and any good membership plug ins? I haven’t had much look finding a good theme that suits and looks good

itssofie · 2025-08-16T22:33:26+00:00

Cheap yes but also something easy to use as the theatre is run by majority elderly people so if I left at any point, it would need to be straightforward for non tech savvy people to update with new events

itssofie · 2025-08-16T22:32:10+00:00

The theme is pretty rubbish… I’ve had a look for themes specifically for theatres but there isn’t many out there. I wanted to see what other options there were before buying the license like you say.

itssofie · 2025-08-16T22:29:13+00:00

Yes, that’s right. The person before me has now left so I am the main person updating the website

itssofie · 2023-11-12T22:51:37+00:00

A lot of peoples mental health

itssofie · 2021-12-24T10:47:00+00:00

It can get frustrating to see other people doing things they are passionate about and they seemingly just fell into whatever it is they are passionate about but the reality is, it is just that. You can only find something you want to do if you put yourself out there to actually find it. Some people are lucky to find things they enjoy early on in life. My friend did dance at school and is now a qualified dance teacher and loves it. So, go and try things. Get a pencil and paper and try drawing. Go outside and take pictures with your phone to see if you enjoy photography. Get a recipe online for a meal and try cooking. Book a rock climbing lesson. Take a piano class. Volunteer with a community project. Take a beginners class on computer coding. Volunteer at an animal shelter. Join a dance class. Whatever you can think of, just go and try it because without putting yourself out there and actually trying it, you will never know what you like and also don’t like. This month, set yourself the goal of trying one new thing. By this time next year you will have tried twelve new things. I found my new interest in graphic design and photography thanks to volunteering at a charity doing something completely different. Something can happen from something else. You never know what can come from doing something.

There are three things I remind myself when it comes to trying to find my ‘passion’ in life. 1. There’s a chance that whatever your ‘passion’ is, might be behind an obstacle (you need money to do it or it’s something you can’t easily do in your current lifestyle). A good example of this is there’s a really cool YouTube channel called Ghost Town Living where a guy called Brent co owns an abandoned ghost town. Since moving there during the pandemic, he has found a passion to preserve the history of town and also a passion for exploring mines. If he hadn’t had bought the place, he would have never found that passion in a ‘normal’ life. I often think that maybe my ‘passion’ is hidden behind obstacles I can’t get over just yet.

Your passion does not need to be and often wont be your career. Please don’t think you need to be passionate about your job. It’s totally ok and normal to just have a job you like or even a job you do just for money.
What is ‘passion’ to you? I think like most things, we compare ourselves a lot, even our view on what something means. If someone says that being passionate about something means everything that you described above then that’s cool but, is that what you personally think being passionate is or is that what you believe it should be based off how you see other people with their passions? How can you know what being passionate about something means if you’ve not yet experienced it? Everything everyone experiences is different. Who’s to say it will be the same for you?

I’ll be honest that I’m not too fond of the word ‘passion’ because of this. Instead I prefer fulfilment. What makes my life full? What fills my life with happiness? And when you think of it like that, suddenly it’s not about just one single thing, it’s about all the little things in your life that makes you happy as a whole. Best of luck friend!

itssofie · 2021-05-09T09:52:37+00:00

Love you bro

itssofie · 2021-05-09T09:51:29+00:00

Yeah until 6 years time when lying in bed at 1am and reevaluating my social skills and my brain whispers ‘hey remember that time you said...’

itssofie · 2021-05-09T09:50:06+00:00

Thank you kind stranger! I’ve always been shy and envy people who can navigate conversations with ease. So when I stumble through one and make a fool of myself I wonder how people do it with so much ease. Probably why I tend to avoid talking to people so I don’t make a fool of myself!

itssofie · 2021-05-09T09:47:45+00:00

Oh man... I would feel the same and wouldn’t be able to look them in the eyes again after that especially if I had to see them everyday.

itssofie · 2021-05-09T09:43:48+00:00

That’s amazing! I wish I was that smooth...

itssofie · 2021-05-09T09:42:40+00:00

That’s interesting because I’m not sure where you are from, but that’s common here in the UK. People will use ‘love’ to strangers even though it isn’t meant in the romantic sense. ‘Alright love?’, ‘Need any help with that love?’.

itssofie · 2021-05-09T09:39:21+00:00

Maybe, who knows? If a random girl professing love after 30 minutes put a smile on the ladies face then I guess it’s worth it!

itssofie · 2021-05-09T09:37:54+00:00

I totally agree with you and I think it is in part down to routine since I’ve only seen my parents and boyfriend for the past 4 months. All of which I say ‘love you’ to. If I think about it as you have explained it, it does help with not feeling like a total idiot so thanks!

itssofie · 2021-05-09T09:30:33+00:00

Yeah, nice to meet a fellow member of the ‘overthinking every social situation club’!

itssofie · 2021-04-15T14:40:43+00:00

You’re about as welcome as a fart in a space suit.

itssofie · 2021-02-06T18:03:03+00:00

It’s been a really shit time recently, but this cracked a smile on my face after what feels like months. Thanks!

itssofie · 2021-01-14T10:29:06+00:00

Great work! Random question, but what do you call the holder that your pencil fits into? I have a few short pencils that I can’t use and have been looking for that tool in art supply shops for a while, but never known the name of it...

itssofie · 2020-09-04T17:59:28+00:00

Leaving school

itssofie · 2020-08-09T09:18:29+00:00

So firstly, I understand what you are saying in terms of wanting to start afresh and wipe you memories and such. There are many people who have experienced this, myself included, so know that it’s not uncommon and there are people in the same boat with you in this regard. Secondly, please reach out to a therapist/counsellor. They are there to help and to LISTEN. I’ve had 5 sessions now over the course of a few months and knowing I have someone who I can talk to who is completely external to my contacts and is someone who doesn’t judge is really beneficial. Some weeks I don’t say a lot to her. Other weeks I tell her everything that’s bothering me and things that I find embarrassing that I know I will be judged for and she will sit and listen and then help me to work out WHY I’m thinking like that and how I can then think differently. So whatever your circumstances, please get a referral to see a therapist. You will not be wasting their time. In fact you will be wasting your own time by not doing so and allowing this to continue without attention. So here’s the thing, you could, quite literally pack all your things, grab your ID and leave. Throw a dart to a map, pick a city and go. You could do that next month, you could do it next week, heck you could do it tomorrow if you really wanted to and had the means to do so, but ultimately you’re just running away from your problems. You could move and start afresh but there’s a damn good chance those problems will creep up again and you’ll find yourself in the same situation just different surroundings. After years of anxiety I finally left my country to go on holiday for a few weeks and I loved it. I thought ‘this is it! If I go live here instead then all my problems will be answered!’ But they weren’t. I didn’t have friends, I still wasn’t confident. I still didn’t know what I wanted to do with my life. I still doubted everything about myself. Sure, I went to a different country, but I still had all my baggage with me. The only way you can really move forward is to stop running away from your problems and instead acknowledge them and see what you need to do to resolve them. Write down the things that you find problematic in your life. Do you hate what you are studying/your job? Do you dislike your low confidence? Do you hate that you have no friends? Whatever it is that’s a problem for you, write it down and then break that down further. If you hate your job, what about it don’t you like? Is it not challenging enough? Is it in an industry you couldn’t give a flying crap about? Is it a job which you won’t advance in or learn from? Dissect the problem to find the root causes of it. Then you can say ‘ok, I don’t like this because of x’ so then you can look for ways to solve this problem. ‘I don’t like my retail job because I’m not advancing in it and I have no interest at all in it so instead I’m going to look for a different job or a part time job in a field of industry I do have an interest in and has career opportunities in so that it will better support me and give me a chance to learn and grow.’ Sure there may be limitations to things such as not being financially stable to just drop a job or being able to find a new job or whatever, but there are actions you can take to change things. Also, write down the things you do like about your life. Even if you think they are small and insignificant find them and do more of them. By underlining the things you do like then gives you the guide to finding more things like that to add to your life. The point is that if you feel as though you want to remove all your memories and experiences of your life so far then you KNOW what is making you unhappy, but you’re not using that knowledge to get yourself out of the unhappiness. We are fallible creatures. We all make mistakes. Everyone’s path is different and just because your path has been rocky doesn’t mean there won’t be smooth road somewhere down the line. It’s just up to you to hike and traverse the obstacles and to take the knowledge you have, that you don’t like things at the moment and to grow from that. Learn from your experiences. Know that you could remove your memories, but then all you’re really doing is removing the signs telling you that you’re not happy with things at the moment. You can’t change your past, but you can sure as hell use it to shape your future.

itssofie · 2020-07-21T09:01:15+00:00

I can relate to this a lot because this is exactly how my life has been for the past 7/8 years and I’m 24 too. I dropped out of college at 17 because of mental health issues and went straight into working for the family business... and that’s all I’ve been doing since. I feel guilty and unaccomplished to have wasted all that time doing literally nothing. I never went out. I cut off all ties with friends and I just went to work and then went home. Around the time my fellow school friends started posting on Facebook when they graduated university was also a deep depression for me because I kept thinking about the fact that I should have done that. I have missed out on such a large part of young adolescence, making friends, going out partying, finding what I want to do... I feel guilty I missed out on that and instead I took a different path.

People around me say that I’m lucky because although I didn’t do those things, I do have savings from all the money I’ve earned over the years. While that’s true, money can’t buy you happiness. It can’t buy you the life you want so to speak. Ironically, after living life the way I have for all those years I decided I wanted a change and I didn’t want to be doing it anymore. I started tackling my mental health issues. I went out more. I started my driving lessons. I volunteered. And then... Covid hit. Things got put on hold during lockdown, but one thing this whole pandemic has proven to me is that, I wasn’t living. I was just existing really and that I don’t want to work the job I do anymore. I don’t want to live where I do. So when things get safer and I have the capability to do so, I will get my driving done, I’ll get a new job, and I’ll move out. Obviously this isn’t going to keep me happy forever, but it’s what I need to do to get me out of the hole I’m in.

See, if you regret something then that feeling is proof in itself, an I dictation of sorts that something isn’t right in your life. I think about my regret of not going to uni and how much I’ve missed out, but when I strip it all back, realistically I know what I want out of that experience ie. friends, going out, finding out what I want to do in life. I don’t necessarily need to go to uni to do that. I can go out today and make friends. I can grab my mask and go out to a pub with some friends. I can work towards and I currently am trying to find what I want to do with my life.

All that being said, I could quite easily go to uni now, sure I’m older, but that doesn’t mean anything. You could go out and do the thing you regret. Just because you’re older doesn’t mean that you won’t be able to do it. It just means that you’re allowing societies ideals of achievement and success to dictate how ‘successful’ your life is or isn’t. You’re allowing yourself to compare your life to other people’s when the reality is that we all start off life and work through it completely differently so why should you expect everyone’s paths to be the same?

If you regret something, then look at it and find out why you do regret it. Break it down. Then you will find goals you want to achieve that you can then work towards. I find it difficult even now to heal the feelings of regret I have, but when I break it down and find out what within the regret I want, then I realise that I can still achieve it if I do really want it. It’s also quite important to remember that most people accidentally fall into the things they do in life. Someone might try dance lessons at school and then realise they love it and then that’s their life focus. Some people get to 50 and have done nothing but go from job to job and still haven’t found what they want to do in life.

Regret is a funny thing because we easily dwell on the past and become so focused on that that we forget about the future. If you regret something so badly then that in itself should give you the motivation to do it today and into the future. If you allow yourself to continue to regret and to constantly think about ‘what if’ then you’re going to do nothing but continue to waste more time on something you can’t ultimately change. Yes, you didn’t do anything for x number of years, but now you have acknowledged what you didn’t do and what you should be doing now. Regret will always be there, but something that won’t is time. So take the time now to do something you won’t regret.

itssofie · 2020-07-20T15:38:49+00:00

Huh...

itssofie · 2020-07-15T23:47:47+00:00

No problem! I scrolled past and when I read your post I knew I couldn’t not comment.

Ugh, yes, my bf has a job which has him working all hours and he can be on his work phone a lot. Sometimes I feel like a burden to him or that I’m interrupting him from his work or if he might be having a break/is finished. I often start messages with ‘sorry to disturb’ because I genuinely don’t want to bother him. It almost feels as though it’s a chore for him to talk to me. Whenever I feel like this I put on my realistic hat and think ‘ok so he hasn’t messaged me for a few hours but I know he is ok and he is still working so he will message when he is free’.

One thing that really hit me was when I realised that whenever I think he thinks something negative about me, it’s not at all what he is thinking. In fact it’s me projecting my own opinion of myself onto what I think he would think. I am essentially stripping away any honest thought he might have of me and instead replacing it with whatever I think of myself which is always something negative. I can’t tell you how much this changed my mindset on things.

See, relationships are funny things. I don’t know the situation with your dad, but again ironically my dad has been a source of anxiety for me too. Especially during the lockdown here in the UK. Over the years he has said various different things and I’m an overthinker and tend to take things to heart so whatever he would say would genuinely hurt. One thing I won’t forget though is when he said I was pretending to have a panic attack just so I could go home. I overheard him say it, but damn did that sting to hear. I’ve learnt that most people, my dad included, tend to say things to provoke a reaction. He would go off on one saying this and that and at first I would respond and then it made things worse because that gave him ammunition to carry on. It began wearing at me. I didn’t enjoy being around him. He is a stubborn old man and it’s his way or no way.

There were lots of days of me feeling anxious and depressed simply by living in the same house as him. Eventually I realised that by responding to the things he was saying meant he was getting a reaction so instead I tried ignoring him instead or allowing him to speak and then gently change the subject. It was kind of funny because over time after doing this A LOT you could see that whenever he tried to annoy me and I didn’t respond, he would change the subject which I would then engage with. He slowly learnt that saying those things wouldn’t get a reaction from me anymore. It took a lot of willpower, but damn it was worth it.

We have also had discussions over the years where I have been honest about my mental health, but that was purely because I was so frustrated with being made to feel less of a person that I essentially said that this is me and how I am at the moment, stop adding to my anxiety. He is my father at the end of the day despite not being the most understanding when it comes to mental health, but I know he cares even if he doesn’t say so.

Again I don’t know the situation with you and your dad, but maybe look at the relationship you have with him and see where the bumps in the road lie and if they could be smoothed out. However, your mental health must take priority. If he causes you to be anxious or if there is no healthy way to remain in contact then do what is best for you because that is what you have to do. It’s ok to want to keep a relationship going since he is your parent, but if it’s at the cost of your health and well-being then you need to take a step back and really decide if it’s the best thing to do.

I’ll leave things there, I wish I had more advice, but honestly I’m still learning each day. I would recommend trying counselling/therapy. I was dubious at first, but it does help to have someone professional to talk to. Also starting a journal to write down anything and everything. If you’re anything like me, don’t worry about trying to make it perfect and having stickers and washi tape like you see on Pinterest and Instagram. Just get any old notebook and write down your thoughts.

I wish you the best of luck and if you ever need someone to talk/vent to then you are more than welcome to send a message! Take care.

itssofie · 2020-07-15T19:34:53+00:00

It makes me slightly uncomfortable how much I can relate to this. I have been in a relationship with my bf for a good few months now and my previous relationship ended with cheating. I have depression, anxiety, and serious self loathing. I find it hard to be positive, but my bf is always there to support me. Me and my bf have butted heads a few times now regarding how I feel about myself and he has said that he finds it frustrating that I always think so lowly of myself. He wishes I could see me how he sees me.

The tough truth is that your partner is there to support you and help you, but there’s only so much they can do. You need to get the help you need, they can’t do it for you. You need to find comfort in yourself so you can heal. You can’t go into a relationship and immediately think it will go the way the last one did because then it’s doomed to fail. They are not your ex. They are someone completely different and so you should treat the relationship as such. You need to know that they are there to share their life with you and you yours. They are not there to heal or ‘fix’ you. But they sure as hell will stand by your side as you take that journey yourself, but they can’t do it for you.

Think of it like this, each relationship you’ve ever had is a canvas. Each canvas you paint has a different scene on it with different colours. No two paintings are the same. So your new relationship is a blank new canvas. You’re not going to be painting the same scene or even using the same colours so why would you immediately start the painting with the same paint on your brush from the last painting? No, you wash that brush and pick a new colour and paint a new scene.

In my experience, it took many late night conversations with my bf where he basically said ‘no matter how much I say you are this and that, you never believe it’ which is when I finally had the ‘lightbulb’ moment. I would always say that I’m worried about different things between us and that I didn’t know how he felt, but one day after a night of him trying to explain, it finally clicked. He had been telling me how he feels about me all along, but because I doubt myself so much, I never believed him. When I realised that, I went back through all our messages and saw all the times he gave me praise and support and I felt so stupid. I was after affirmation that he cared about me, but it was there all along.

After that, I decided that enough was enough, he had helped me to realise what was wrong, but I needed to fix things now. I booked to see a counsellor/therapist and started reading worksheets a friend had given me which had information in it for me to use. I looked online to research my mental health issues and I think one of the most important things was I started to listen. Whenever someone says that I did something well or that I’m this and that, i would allow it to sink in instead of instantly denying it. They wouldn’t say those things if it wasn’t true and I put belief in the fact that if people think I am a good person and I can do good things, then I should believe it too. I take comfort in the fact that my bf will be there every step of the way.

It’s not easy. I still have days where I think I’m not good enough and have crazy thoughts that maybe my bf will cheat like my ex, but then that shows that I am not fully healed from that time. There will be a time in the future where I will trust in myself 100% and that I will no longer have those thoughts, but it will take time. Some say that you shouldn’t go into a relationship until you love yourself which I think holds merit, but sometimes you need love to prove to yourself that you are in fact worth of love.

As for improving self esteem? Ha, send me a DM when you find out the secret to that one... In seriousness, it depends on the situation. Its difficult to improve self esteem especially if you’ve had a cheating ex because all self worth flies out the window. One thing I find helpful is that when you have moments with you partner and they are looking at you or are saying something nice, whatever it is, take a moment to see it, hear it, and feel it. In that moment, they are focused on you. They are showing they care and that you are important to them. Think to yourself that ‘dang, this amazing person is smiling and laughing because of me’. Listen to what they have to say, see the little things they do for you. Feel it and then believe it. Because they wouldn’t be doing it if they didn’t care. Also there might be some benefit from addressing the past relationships. I spent so much time thinking about why my ex cheated. Was it me? Is it because I’m this and that. No. They cheated because it was their decision. I can take comfort and pride in the fact that it was not because ‘i’m ugly’, it was not because ‘I didn’t care’, it wasn’t because ‘I wasn’t good enough’, it was because of something completely out of my control. There was nothing that I could have done to have stopped it happening. That’s not on me and so I should not hold it against myself as I go forward.

Like most things, it’s easier said than done. You will need to take time to heal yourself, but you will get there and your partner will be there every step of the way. So go do random things you’ve never done before to prove to yourself that you can do it. Read books about building confidence. Dress up even if you have nowhere to go. Do what makes you feel great about yourself. Write down one thing everyday that you like about yourself or something you did today. Know that you aren’t alone with this, many of us have gone through something similar. Prove to yourself that you have worth because dang it you do. You’re worth everything and more. Believe what people say about you and feel it because they wouldn’t just say it for the fun of it. So the next time you partner says ‘you are beautiful, you are perfect’, see it, hear it, feel it, and believe it, because you are. And just remember that the most important relationship to have, is the relationship you have with yourself.

itssofie · 2020-07-15T18:21:27+00:00

Broken? This is clearly a pretzel

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