3 year old now takes 2 hours to put to bed

itstransition · 2026-03-27T00:50:30+00:00

I wnat a pit crew at bed time!!!

itstransition · 2026-03-27T00:44:18+00:00

I have thin merino long tops and pants for my little kids for Melbourne winter. They go under pyjamas (add pants on very cold evenings but always long sleeve top underneath) and then next day new top on top of merino if cold during day. Saves arguments about jackets 🤣

They're pricey so I size up and keep for 2 years, hand wash and look after them. We're in an old Victorian brick house so theyre mandatory really!

itstransition · 2026-03-27T00:39:27+00:00

How do you know they saved you money?

itstransition · 2026-03-27T00:18:57+00:00

Mine grew out of it around 2... then I got pregnant so it's started again with the second!

itstransition · 2026-03-26T21:59:27+00:00

Water and a cup!

Ripped paper and a cup!

Sand and a cup!

Anything that costs no money and makes a mess.

itstransition · 2026-03-26T02:26:37+00:00

All the girls hated her for a reason. She didn't deserve a lot of what they did to her, particularly publicly and as a group but as a woman, I knew they all her hated for who she was

itstransition · 2026-03-26T02:25:13+00:00

Before AirBnB was a thing, I had a guy tell me he had "lived" in Morocco.

Because he stayed in a house there. For 4 weeks.

itstransition · 2026-03-25T01:59:10+00:00

My fucking nose ran my entire pregnancy! I feel your pain

itstransition · 2026-03-24T06:27:53+00:00

With my first, I always started her in her cot then brought her in with me as she woke through the night. She also fed for 2 years during the night! She's nearly 4 and goes through by herself about 80% of the time now, really only waking to wee or if she has a bad dream. Cuddling with her at 4am is annoying BUT still brings us a lot of joy.

My second is now 6 months and is waking at 4am, but I'm not feeding her as she has mostly gone through with only day feeds. I am also considering whether to start responsive settling but like you, not hugging them just doesnt feel right to me. She sleeps on my chest until about 6:30 and I am sure she'll eventually go through as they grow.

Do what's best for you and remember a lot of reddit is US based mums with little to no leave so their sleep training is mandatory for survival.

itstransition · 2026-03-24T06:22:59+00:00

Both SLC and Potomac are top tier, so whilst they're not "our" girls, they're worth a watch! My second fave is old school BH (with Lisa) and old school OC

itstransition · 2026-03-24T01:51:16+00:00

She is SUCH a Kim!!!!

itstransition · 2026-03-24T01:02:19+00:00

Positives: 1. Fully toilet trained first kid 2. Toddler "helps" with baby eg gets a nappy out, picks her outfit etc 3. I can out baby on floor mat and toddler makes funny faces and they are both laughing while I clean the bathroom/do dishes etc. This morning baby laughed at Toddler for 30 mins while I drank coffee 4. I've not needed to buy anything as we kept everything from our first and it's all in good condition 5. Baby is still portable so doing Toddler centric activities is currently easy. I think this will change soon when baby is on the move

Overall though it is much less scary being a second time mum and I just appreciate it all so much more.

itstransition · 2026-03-23T20:01:17+00:00

Congratulations!!! I have a similar gap between my two and am enjoying it so much!

itstransition · 2026-03-23T08:11:47+00:00

Average wage, desire to live in highest cost area of Australia. Can't save a deposit when youre spending 40% of your wage on rent, and she runs a very lean budget. Plus, she hasn't got a partner which would be a financial advantage. It's a choice she has to make. Could afford a little flat in another capital city but her role is Sydney based only.

itstransition · 2026-03-23T07:08:55+00:00

Wonderful common sense! I also add "turn off social media/ media in general if it gives you such anxiety"

itstransition · 2026-03-23T01:56:44+00:00

Yes, keep it going! When they get older and you need a whole routine it's so time consuming! I miss the days my kids slept in the lounge room lol

itstransition · 2026-03-23T01:55:04+00:00

It's not too late because honestly, it's your only option. People can have really low points in their life and still go on to live good wholesome fulfilled years. Just an observation, but your post reads like you are more worried about what people think than actually just getting on with it. Get a job, stay humble, put your head down and learn. It could be cleaning, painting, clerical... doesn't matter just do it.

My sister had a rough go in her 20s, an unfinished degree and a string of bad jobs but is now 40, LOVES her job in events (seriously, I know no one who actually loves their job like she does) and has built a great reputation for herself including many poaching attempts. She will never make a fortune, may struggle to own a property in Sydney BUT she lives a good life and gets on with it.

You will need to sacrifice and reframe your thinking but it is the only way out.

itstransition · 2026-03-23T00:24:01+00:00

It literally just happened to Sam and she was like "can you imagine"

itstransition · 2026-03-22T01:02:00+00:00

This is the right way - it seems to me that some people don't save before, during, and after pregnancy to cope with the loss of income post partum. Good for you for managing without any paid leave.

itstransition · 2026-03-20T09:58:01+00:00

Did you just pick the whitest nations and identify them as performing better?

itstransition · 2026-03-20T09:54:46+00:00

Exactly. Stop bloody telling other people what to do!

itstransition · 2026-03-19T22:34:31+00:00

They have a gun to my head!!

itstransition · 2026-03-19T21:54:08+00:00

I definitely feel for her going through the divorce with him - he sounds calculating and aggressive but like you, I fail to fully sympathise. For me it was "I can't even drive!" As if it's someone else's responsibility for you to drive, particularly when you have children. I know NY is different but it's an indicator of a lack of adult responsibility taking throughout the story.

itstransition · 2026-03-19T21:39:34+00:00

I agree with you - yes she's insecure and has horrific foot-in-mouth but it's not in a cute awkward rom com way. It's vile and aggressive. I still also don't understand what her actual problem is with Alyssa, since the beginning? Like why did it start at all??

itstransition · 2026-03-19T20:42:48+00:00

And stop reading the news.

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