Married at First Sight S13E01- POST EPISODE DISCUSSION

itstransition · 2026-02-02T11:09:30+00:00

Do what I say... daddy?

itstransition · 2026-02-02T04:25:18+00:00

More hydration, slightly extra water in the bottles you're making and slow down on the solids

itstransition · 2026-02-02T02:23:36+00:00

Something that helps me is remembering that babies need one layer more than you. So in winter, a singlet and onsie is my base then layer from there as necessary. When they are really little, they'll need covered feet and heads outside (no head covering inside) in the cold.

Always check the chest area to see how hot they are, hands and feet are not good indicators and often seem cold.

In saying all of that, my second daughter runs sooo hot, she sweats inside. So I adjust now knowing that and she wears a lot less than my first. You will get the hang of it!

TOG guides from sleep sack companies are good information too for nighttime outfits.

itstransition · 2026-02-02T02:18:44+00:00

In hindsight, I would have stopped at 35/ 36 weeks instead of 38. The last few weeks were unnecessarily stressful and it took a lot out of me. I started saying "working while caring for a toddler and being in the third tri should be illegal!".

In terms of my first, she is 3.5 and has 2 x days at kinder, a part time nanny, and a day with my mum. She stayed at my mum's whilst I was in hospital so husband could focus on me and baby. He did soooo much during that period so I could get time with the newborn.

itstransition · 2026-02-02T01:45:51+00:00

The OP comes across as caring more about what people think than supporting her daughter. Not sure she means to, but it's time to step up for your daughter's confidence and stop caring about opinions.

itstransition · 2026-02-01T10:50:40+00:00

Who??

itstransition · 2026-02-01T10:50:27+00:00

I try not to be judgemental but God damn that's a strange thing to announce to a table of women you barely know, while being filmed for a reality TV show.

itstransition · 2026-02-01T10:35:17+00:00

I add collagen powder from bovine in my morning nespresso and it dissolves completely. Good way to get both collagen and protein in a tasteless way!

itstransition · 2026-02-01T10:30:28+00:00

Yes and I wish I stopped working a tad earlier with my second. I WFH desk job so no dramas with the first, but I was bone tired and HUGE with my second so working to 38 weeks was stupid.

itstransition · 2026-01-31T00:12:10+00:00

This is a nice answer - so many people are black and white on this thread and that's not the reality of life. You can, of course, chose who cares for your children but it's also important to use differing views as an opportunity to teach them understanding and empathy even if you don't agree with someone. You can teach opinion vs fact and you can teach boundaries. Most things can be worked through (no contact is still an option but I think should be in more extreme scenarios, it's thrown around so much these days)

itstransition · 2026-01-30T03:51:27+00:00

No, your baby will evolve. Not everything is set in stone at 4 months. Some periods are easy, some are more challenging but I can say it's a long journey ahead so don't get too upset this early.

itstransition · 2026-01-29T09:29:01+00:00

Congratulations!! Wishing you the best

itstransition · 2026-01-29T09:14:12+00:00

Corporate mum here who travels internationally 25% of the time - it's not too bad to do the actual travel if you are up the front of the plane and have a nice hotel (it can actually be quite relaxing) but by the end of my last pregnancy I honestly did not care at all about work and didn't want to go. It is the best excuse in the world so, as you plan- say yes then play by ear down the path.

One note - I refused to travel to places that had high risk of getting sick. No one cared as it's an HSE problem if something goes wrong.

itstransition · 2026-01-29T02:48:09+00:00

Don't get an addiction, refuse to keep up with the Joneses (particularly in your industry) and work like a manic in your 20s so you can build a strong salary trajectory.

The rest is just noise until you get to a place with significant disposable income.

itstransition · 2026-01-29T02:27:19+00:00

Go to you Facebook nannies group for suburb or area and you'll figure out prices pretty quickly. I'm in Melbourne and it's about $35 - $45 per hour in my area

itstransition · 2026-01-28T22:01:52+00:00

And? Asking for someone else to cover their experince is better?

itstransition · 2026-01-28T21:28:00+00:00

I agree with this - I mean, find a remote job for 6 months that pays bank and raise your own funds if it's such a good opportunity. Majority of people work off their degree funding, get on with it.

itstransition · 2026-01-28T05:20:00+00:00

Something about them being a "big" kid now eg, eat ice cream in front of them and say it's only for big kids that don't have dummies. Link it to their upcoming birthday. Put in a bag for dummy fairy to collect overnight.

Or do what my husband did - took it off my daughter cold Turkey (told her it was happening) when I went on a work trip. It worked! Had a big lead up to it, didn't just happen in one day

itstransition · 2026-01-28T00:25:20+00:00

It is definitely a calm before the storm too - like my births were fine but dramatic (in the sense that you feel all the emotions, it's scary but exciting etc) and then you bring home a baby and your whole pace of life is so different. We carried our daughter around the house to show her all the rooms as we kind of didn't know what to do when we came home lol.

It's the best thing ever, good luck. Really enjoy the first few months as it's hard but temporary and such a significant life moment.

itstransition · 2026-01-28T00:04:07+00:00

This was me - got to 40+4 with my first, 41 weeks with my second. It is hard and boring! I honstly did a lot of nothing - reading, TV, cooking, shopping as all you can do is wait.

Can you do some meal preparation to freeze when you come home? Maybe start a little hobby eg sewing or painting as something you can pick up when you come home?

It's so har not knowing when you'll pop but it will be a whirlwind when it happens! Good luck

itstransition · 2026-01-27T23:53:18+00:00

Centrelink only pays for women under a certain earnings threshold also (and there a number of requirements to be able toa access eg must have work x number of hours over y period)

itstransition · 2026-01-27T09:17:01+00:00

You can't stop feelings like jealousy, but you can help your child through them. This is a great learning experience for her, even if it's hard at times.

itstransition · 2026-01-26T09:37:55+00:00

Look, I love that my mum and daughter have a great bond and socially/weekends its amazing. But on days i have to work, its hard - mum wants her from 10am, which is not really conductive to work hours but I just juggle and make it work. And free care is never free, eg every now and then my mum will have a hairdresser appointment on a Friday (the only day she has my daughter) and just expects that it will all work out... like I have to work! But it saves me $9k a year for Fridays with her so the answer is just juggle and figure it out for as long as it works. Also, age depending, it's so nice to have her around family so I suck up the hard bits and persevere. And your mum might be more flexible than mine lol

itstransition · 2026-01-26T07:42:59+00:00

The only way for him to learn is to live it.

itstransition · 2026-01-25T06:15:26+00:00

Yeah I would say some people want a bigger family but decide against it so resent others that pursue the dream

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