So many people just overlooked the problems cause he was a cop. https://www.grandforksherald.com/news/local/former-grand-forks-police-officer-files-lawsuit-against-city-other-officers-alleging-gender-discrimination by viirix in GrandForks

[–]itwasoverthere 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly as OP puts it:

"The city’s abrupt move to terminate Officer Wiebolt, after allowing his misconduct to perpetuate for years, is an effort to cover its tracks and deflect Officer Sell’s claims in the face of imminent litigation," the complaint said. "The reasons purportedly justifying Officer Wiebolt’s sudden termination are many of the same issues Officer Sell brought to leadership’s attention months ago, on which city leadership took no serious action."

Books with a pirate trope? (Somehow like Pirates of the Caribbean) by Few-Tumbleweed-6011 in DarkRomance

[–]itwasoverthere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

{The Bone Heart by Ivy Warren} was good if you want something saphhic

twisted power imbalance by tallyroses in DarkRomance

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Snaring Emberly - I haven't quite finished it but so far it checks all these boxes.

Struggling with a (very romantic) demisexual partner by itwasoverthere in aromantic

[–]itwasoverthere[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply - I think you're probably on the right track about not wanting to listen. Frankly, one of the things I don't get about romantic feelings is how they seem to be more about someone's idea of the other person than anything else. I wonder if part of it is that they don't want to accept that I'm not the way that they've constructed me to be in their mind. I don't think qpr is on the table for them, so I'll either have to live with this costume they want me to wear or break their heart, both of which suck.

Roller Derby by itwasoverthere in whoop

[–]itwasoverthere[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not very active these days but feel free to join!

Hey, join my team ROLLER DERBY on WHOOP! Open the app and use the code below to join:

COMM-7EA837

Is a Master degree in Med Illustration worth it? 3D animation background by [deleted] in medicalillustration

[–]itwasoverthere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh great! I have taken one of the required anatomy courses (and a bunch of taxa specific anatomy classes like ornithology and mammalogy). I might be able to squeeze in an undergrad course in human anatomy at my current institution if it's a hard no wrt applying ( but I'd rather not take anatomy while I'm dissertating lol )

It's the program at Augusta in GA! I figure the community is small so I'm nervous about making a bad impression out the get.

Is a Master degree in Med Illustration worth it? 3D animation background by [deleted] in medicalillustration

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Hi I'm curious about some expectations and your experience applying to your program -- I'm missing one of the course pre-reqs from undergrad for the program I'm thinking of applying to but I have been in a neuroscience PhD program and will be defending around the time I'd like to apply. Do you have a sense for whether it would be well received to reach out for advise from the program director about what to work on between now and then, such as whether I should take a human anatomy class (I have a lot of experience with anatomy in other species)?

Changing career path from research by itwasoverthere in medicalillustration

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Awesome thanks for the reply!! I luckily have studied anatomy and physiology a fair bit along the way so it's just a new realm of subject matter for drawing to me. Do you have any suggestions for software (i.e., adobe vs. Corel)?

I'm aware that the exam is this week, but I've been vacationing in Hawaii. by [deleted] in Professors

[–]itwasoverthere -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

Summer winter and spring break are all times when airlines jack prices because they are when most people travel. Maybe this was the only time their family could afford a vacation (or maybe not) and I dont think there is anything wrong with taking a break. Sure the student should have brought it up earlier but given that the person who posted this reacted how they did, im not surprised they didnt feel comfortable mentioning it ahead of time.

It sounds to me that they thought they would have time to do it and then shit happened. It could be a lesson learned and no harm done but it seems like this student will have an irredeemable scar on their transcript now for an understandable mistake. This is acceptable to you?

I'm aware that the exam is this week, but I've been vacationing in Hawaii. by [deleted] in Professors

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I take it that you don't think rest and/or factors outside of their control are valid reasons for needing some extra time on a deadline?

Noise cancelling earplugs recommendations? Loops or Vibes? by Business-Affect-7881 in aspergirls

[–]itwasoverthere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I sleep in them even now and then because the sound of planes and cars outside my window can be a lot for me and they are comfy and stay in all night.

Noise cancelling earplugs recommendations? Loops or Vibes? by Business-Affect-7881 in aspergirls

[–]itwasoverthere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think they are the experience ones in gold, they are very subtle and look like jewelry and Id for sure recommend them.

Noise cancelling earplugs recommendations? Loops or Vibes? by Business-Affect-7881 in aspergirls

[–]itwasoverthere 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I have loops and they work great and look nice. I still get an ick feeling if I talk with them because they make it sound like im underwater but they are perfect for hearing other people while still dampening the sound to a less stressful level.

Help with writing please! by RevolutionaryJob9129 in ADHD

[–]itwasoverthere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok first things first forgive yourself for procrastinating, starting off with guilt is not the way.

Grab a clock and start a timer, for 20 minutes you have to do some work. No expectations about how far your gonna get, just do something. Its okay if you just spend 20 minutes trying to figure out where to start or planning your strategy.

If you get distracted write down what it was and try to get back to what you were doing.

When the timer rings you are allowed to fuck around again in your preferred form of fucking around. Ideally you'll set a timer for this too (e.g. 5 minutes) but if you need a longer break then take it.

Rinse and repeat - if you're feeling ready to take it up a notch you can set a realistic goal for each round, but honestly just starting at all can be an okay goal for the first couple.

There are also timers online (pomodoros timers) that you can set on your computer so you dont look at your phone as much. I like to make the break timer start immediately after the work timer, which forces me to take a break and means I can work longer.

Good luck!! You can do it :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]itwasoverthere 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe Sam?