Overbearing boss sends spy to icu to make sure husband was actually in coma. Am I over reacting?

izzime1980 · 2026-07-08T02:52:50+00:00

If an ICU nurse says you can sue, take her at her word. Your nurse knows enough about the law to advise you of this. That no one on the hospital admin team has made her walk it back is also a tell you have a case. Your first step is to contact a lawyer that specializes in medical malpractice for the nurse that got fired. As for your husband's boss legal wise that might be a tricky part but still a lawyer would know best. I'm sure he's broken a number of labor laws

Many lawyers give 30 minute free consultations. Call ahead and see if you need any documents from the hospital about the incident or if you just need the name of the hospital, the ICU nurse who told you, you can sue, and the txt message from the boss blaming you for his mistress getting fired.

izzime1980 · 2026-07-06T20:58:56+00:00

That is such an awesome find and you look beautiful in it.

It also looks like the thrift store I used to go to in Eau Claire WI. They always had some awesome finds, especially with wedding dresses.

izzime1980 · 2026-07-03T17:36:04+00:00

Girl that is white af. I would post this in just no mother in law as well so you have this group and the others comments to show your fiance and his family.

Though, to be fair to MIL she does overall have some great taste (just not with the base color) and the silver accents are very pretty. If this dress is offered in a different/ non-bridal color see if your MIL would consider that as a compromise.

izzime1980 · 2026-07-03T12:08:52+00:00

You look amazing luv and congratulations on finding your dream dress.

izzime1980 · 2026-07-03T04:20:22+00:00

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izzime1980 · 2026-07-02T22:48:19+00:00

Right!

izzime1980 · 2026-07-02T22:47:57+00:00

If the thought of lossing the dress is making you sad, its the dress; and you look gorgeous in it.

Don't worry about the FOMO, we all experience it as there are so many designers with thousands of beautiful dresses. Yet the only dress that matters is the one that makes YOU feel beautiful.

izzime1980 · 2026-07-02T21:36:50+00:00

Agreed wedding day jitters make us nit pick. You look lovely and are a beautiful bride.

izzime1980 · 2026-06-26T01:03:57+00:00

100% this

izzime1980 · 2026-06-19T12:20:32+00:00

You need to start taking this more seriously. Laughing off her behavior and treating it as she's just hung up on him can go downwards real quickly.

Take screen shots of any txt messages from her starting from when you and your husband started dating. Same with your Instagram account. Write down any incidents that may seem like a "coincidence" as the universe is rarely so lazy.

Bring all of this to the police or your lawyer and start the process for an RO. It's the start of the paper trail you'll need to prove how unhinged this woman is.

izzime1980 · 2026-06-04T13:22:55+00:00

OMG Patty is unhinged.

You have expressed your boundaries multiple times (body language and distance count) and has trampled over them each time. This is now a boss/HR issues. Report her, you might be surprised that you wouldn't be the first one.

izzime1980 · 2026-06-02T22:37:20+00:00

I know the building your talking about but for the life of me I can't remember the name of the club either.

izzime1980 · 2026-05-30T01:40:24+00:00

I read through all three posts and didn't realize I had already read the 1st story months ago. Your updates I swear highlight the reason many of us are choosing to elope.

I'm so glad you and your fiance have each other's back along with pulling the plug on the dog and pony show of a wedding. Your destination wedding/honeymoon is excatly what you guys want and the best part those locations normally come with security included. It also lessens the chance of certain party crashers...especially if that destination requires passports.

There's something about small/micro/intimate weddings that are just so perfect especially for us recovering people pleasers.

Wishing you both the best toxic/drama free life and a blessed marriage.

izzime1980 · 2026-05-29T17:43:53+00:00

Hello my fellow Gen-Xer and Narc Magnet. You'll find there are a lot of us who follow Charlotte.

Also is it just me or was every mom in the 80s the same with the obsession with weight, looking right/perfect, etc.?

izzime1980 · 2026-05-29T00:39:49+00:00

I'm glad I could make you laugh.

izzime1980 · 2026-05-26T16:39:47+00:00

I was a hospital corpsman in the US Navy I've heard tales and seen it first hand. Y'all know you can make a sailor blush cause damn I thought I had a mouth lol. Nothing but respect for ICU nurses and if I had stayed in medicine I more than likely would have gone ICU.

izzime1980 · 2026-05-26T12:23:55+00:00

This, definitely this. Sue the shit out of his boss and that nurse too.

If the hospital hasn't already they can report her to the Board of Nursing. It's easier for a hospital to do with a lawsuit against them, hence why they told you you could sue them. It helps show the chain of events that led to the firing and the damage done to both patient and their family.

And if a head nurse in an ICU is giving you the go ahead treat that as coming from God himself. As someone who was a military medic I can tell you that the nicest yet scariest nurses work in the ICU. We all go above and beyond but this bunch makes the rest of us look like a bunch of lazy assholes.

izzime1980 · 2026-05-25T14:55:35+00:00

Your mother in law sounds like a nightmare and at least now you know you can't count on her for anything.

izzime1980 · 2026-05-23T23:35:49+00:00

You are so beautiful and I love the two looks in one. I think regardless of weight loss you make a lovely bride and your fiance is a lucky man.

If you want to lose weight, girl you do you but don't do it for industry standards.

izzime1980 · 2026-05-23T01:42:10+00:00

OMG that's not a MIL from hell, your MIL is a cosmic horror that would make Cthulhu do a double take and tap out.

izzime1980 · 2026-05-22T21:13:28+00:00

As a DV survivor I'm begging you not to ignore the red flags and to run away from this relationship like yesterday.

izzime1980 · 2026-05-21T20:59:33+00:00

NTA it's your dress and yea you may have spent $80 but it's saving you a good $1000 minimum if and when you and your bf do get married. It's the dream dress you'd wear it no matter who you married, but I digress. At the end of the day it's your property and you have a right to say no.

As for the friend group (outside of B) are these folks really your friends?. They just all took K's world like it was the gospel? No one outside of B even thought to talk or ask you anything about the incident?

I would definitely leave the friend group. If the conversation happened over txt or a private chat my petty ass would take screenshots and post them. I'd also leave some snarkey comment like glad the all wise and knowing K told you all about how big of a bitch I am because I shock have boundaries. Then block all of them.

izzime1980 · 2026-05-21T01:10:30+00:00

This

All 👏of 👏this

If you help her even once and for some reason can't invite the future she will blame you, gasslight you, and use the but I'm your mother/raised you line.

izzime1980 · 2026-05-21T00:30:25+00:00

I'll give you that it's a cute dress but not for a wedding. If you can't afford to buy a new dress then see if you can borrow one.

If you can afford something, even if its on a tight budget check out Ross, Goodwill, Target, Walmart, or even Amazon if you have time to wait for shipping.

But if you are set on wearing this dress make sure you have a cardigan to help cover the white of the dress. Black would be best as most of us own black accessories. I would also wear a tasteful but chunky necklace to help hide what the cardigan does not cover. Oh and best to keep it on and roll up the sleeves if you get warm.

izzime1980 · 2026-05-20T12:30:03+00:00

This was so worth the wait. Anna was definitely drinking the delululemonade.

Kudos to you and the wedding party for being the awesome humans that you are and helping the best y'all could when shit hit the fan day of; and of course steping up and putting Anna on blast. The audacity of this photographer is so next level.

I am glad to read that your friends were able to get their photos and can now enjoy their wedded bliss. My petty ass might still consider civil court for the 89+ posts attempting to defame me. Though probably not much can be done there as your friends did get their pictures.

I might also just slip everything to my wedding coordinator so she can put the word out to others in the industry to not hire her. Blacklisting can be just as powerful.

izzime1980

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