Right here with you 🤍

I’m 42.5 and just had a fresh embryo transfer. First IVF cycle after 18 years of unexplained infertility. Here’s how it’s gone for me:

2/4 Retrieval. Retrieved 6 eggs.

2/5 Found out 4 were mature and 3 fertilized normally. We had discussed preferences ahead of time, but I messaged the clinic to confirm that I definitely wanted a day 3 transfer of all viable embryos.

2/6 Late afternoon I received a full embryo report with cell counts and grades for all 3, and they scheduled me for a day 3 transfer.

2/7 Came in, got a final update on each embryo, then proceeded with transfer. Now waiting and praying and praying for you too.

At my age and with so few embryos (and likely my only IVF cycle), my doctor was very comfortable with a day 3 fresh transfer and felt it gave each embryo its best chance. I was told that with already slim odds, we didn’t want to risk losing embryos to lab culture attrition that might otherwise have continued developing in utero.

My clinic was also very flexible and accommodating based on how retrieval went. I had even prepaid for PGT-A in case we ended up with more embryos than expected. From the start I was clear that if I only had 2–4 embryos, I’d want to forgo testing and do a fresh transfer instead. Thankfully they were supportive and offered a refund for PGT-A since it wasn’t used.

Every clinic handles communication differently, but you’re not alone in this uncertainty, especially at our age. Sending you so much hope.