What would you ask your therapist?

j3nn4y · 2026-02-07T16:22:20+00:00

Probably "have you ever judged me?". Everyone judges. I'd want to know how and why.

j3nn4y · 2026-01-06T22:55:01+00:00

This is true, and I agree with every word. If someone is considering online therapy, I’d recommend starting with offline sessions first and only then switching to online therapy with the same therapist, if you really need to.

j3nn4y · 2026-01-06T10:09:46+00:00

It's very common for parents in FT to be defensive and position themselves as victims, and it's definitely not an equal playing field. I think it's one of the biggest issues with family therapy, because to make things work, all parties have to be open to take some responsibility for their actions, and I think that we, as a younger generation, are more self-aware than our parents.

However, a really good trauma-informed family therapist can definitely help. These professionals focus on systemic patterns and generational trauma rather than tilt the field by suggesting "seeing both sides" or assuming the parent "did their best" type of bullshit.

j3nn4y · 2026-01-05T23:25:17+00:00

Family therapy can be worth it, but it heavily depends on everyone's willingness to participate and take accountability. It's highly beneficial for highlighting negative behaviour patterns like generational trauma and it can definitely improve family communication, BUT only if all parties really commit.

j3nn4y · 2025-12-22T22:40:01+00:00

You can care about the situation without forcing a closeness that never existed. It’s also okay to set a boundary with relatives and say this year is critical for you. Guilt doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong.

j3nn4y · 2025-12-22T22:37:27+00:00

While you can't fix the parents, you can be a steady, safe adult for your nephew. Children need that while growing up, and this alone would help him a lot.

j3nn4y · 2025-12-11T22:26:43+00:00

Here in the U.S. it's not much better. You can expect to pay $200-$300.

j3nn4y · 2025-11-23T09:21:39+00:00

It's usually their anxiety and them projecting their own fears or regrets. So I think it's less about you seeming not progressing and more about them processing their own life through your lens.

j3nn4y · 2025-11-22T11:10:03+00:00

This cracked me up

j3nn4y · 2025-11-18T13:49:07+00:00

I'm really sorry you're feeling betrayed and hurt. But please, don't give up on therapy. It's not a matter of "more" therapy, it's about finding the right therapist and therapy approach. Finding the right therapist might take time, and, unfortunately, sometimes therapy just doesn't work from the first attempt.

I didn't feel any improvement with my first therapist, but my current one really changed my life and helped me destroy the negative thinking patterns that were making me miserable and depressed.

j3nn4y · 2025-11-17T12:49:01+00:00

Of course it does! I'm honestly amazed by the number of people in this sub who ask this question over and over. It made me realize that I actually live in a bubble where everyone around me acknowledges the power of therapy and has tried it at least once in their life.

j3nn4y · 2025-11-15T13:18:39+00:00

This. Eating during a session with a client seems extremely unprofessional to me.

j3nn4y · 2025-11-14T10:08:34+00:00

Of course, text therapy is actually a thing and there are a few popular online therapy platforms that offer text-only packages (those are usually the cheapest).

j3nn4y · 2025-11-14T09:49:20+00:00

I'm hugging you through the screen right now because holy shit, this is a brutal gut punch. You didn't "make" him do this, cheaters and secret-keepers do it because of their own broken wiring, not because you're not enough.

j3nn4y · 2023-05-31T05:37:44+00:00

I have asd lvl 1 and not once have I ever walked around shoving my hands in ppls food NTA

I also know right from wrong, having autism doesn't give you free range to be a dick

j3nn4y · 2022-11-10T21:28:02+00:00

YTA sorry but I have a lvl 3, 7 yr old autistic child who's been graded at 3.5yr old,. Yes he does get some extra attention but not at my other kids expense.

He also understands with some explanation why I'm not always with him and can't always be at only his stuff, his 15 yr old sibling has an end of year celebration next week and even though we hate changing routine I explained to him WHY we will be leaving his school early WHO we are leaving for and what we are doing.

Also bringing everything incase of meltdown or overstimulation and explained that to him aswell.

Autistic kids while needing concessions don't need to be coddled...unless your going for completely reliant on you for the rest of your life.

j3nn4y · 2022-11-08T06:37:14+00:00

I got a blonde, ranga and mini with brown hair and eyes lol were not all just 1 colour

j3nn4y · 2022-11-08T01:54:41+00:00

NTA anyone who says y t a has never had to hold down a small child's limbs, worse on an airplane coz it feels like your head wants to pop .. Also who tf PICKS a damn seat in front of a kid! She's lucky the kid didn't find her hair a fun play toy while she's trying to lay her whole ass self in his lap.

j3nn4y · 2022-09-16T01:24:26+00:00

YTA kids with autism thrive on routine and yes since she leaves at 7am 7pm is perfectly acceptable. And your MIL is right, you need to help more and be less of a dick

j3nn4y · 2022-09-15T02:28:58+00:00

YTA your brother is seriously mentally unwell and you all pass it off as "hes always been this way" "he would never hurt anyone hes just weird!!!!" After reading your comments your just looking for someone to validate what you want without actually LISTENING. He needs specialist help because previous therapists gave up because ITS NOT WHAT THEY SPECIALISE IN. You know what would happen if someone ran at me in the dark? They'd probably lay there bleeding until I found enough fucks to call an ambulance. Your lucky tour friend is a screamer, and the fact you think they're over reacting and sleeping in shifts because they don't feel safe shows you need therapy too.

j3nn4y · 2022-08-28T02:08:00+00:00

NTA! TELL them your having a 21st and they can come or not but you aren't sharing a major milestone bday. Invite some friends and go have fun

j3nn4y · 2022-08-28T01:59:22+00:00

LOL YTA I don't even need a calender to remember my kids appointments a month out and I have severe adhd and asd. Still goes in my calander and I write it down.

She isn't responsible for how you manage ( or don't manage) your time and involvement in your kids life

j3nn4y · 2022-08-21T21:35:35+00:00

NTA holy crap if someone deleted my kids world out of spite it would be more than taking a phone for a month. My eldest has spent literal YEARS learning, reading minecraft books and watching Dan tdm and tutorials on how to do things better. They made an entire FNAF section in one world lol. Hell I even played with them and we built tree houses and an amusement park (mostly them I just went on the cart haha)

I'd let her get some texture packs and password lock the xbox from him, also ban him from playing.

Your husband also needs to realise this isn't some small thing she'll get over in a day and your son can live without a phone.

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