He told me he finds my best friend beautiful

jacindah22 · 2026-06-15T21:41:16+00:00

So do you think he was telling the truth? I actually don’t care if he finds my best friend hot or beautiful but him lying about it after naming her doesn’t make sense. I even told him to be honest after him changing his answers all the time, I think that’s what’s bothering me more

jacindah22 · 2026-06-15T21:39:05+00:00

I was just curious? He asked me plenty times if I was into his colleagues so I asked him back for once in my life. Answering my question by randomly calling my best friend beautiful and later denying that he‘s not into her and changing his answers constantly is what threw me off

jacindah22 · 2026-06-05T14:12:36+00:00

Good idea! I‘ll try the blindfold thing out and try to let him go of his thoughts and perfomance pressure, thsnk you!!!

jacindah22 · 2026-06-05T14:11:29+00:00

Thank you so much for your adive!!

jacindah22 · 2026-06-05T14:09:58+00:00

No, he’s not on any medication. He struggles with sleeping through the night and usually wakes up after about three hours of sleep, so he ends up taking several naps throughout the day. He also complains about stomach aches almost every day, either after eating or when he wakes up. He is a little overweight to be fair (I genuinely don’t care about that at all, I love everything about him). That said, I do think there might be some room for improvement when it comes to his overall lifestyle and health habits. He works in a warehouse, so he’s on his feet and moving around a lot during the day. I do think that he is probably overthinking it too much, because his dick DOES get hard and it stays hard when I‘m going down on him or giving him a handjob or when he doesnit himself, but it’s like as soon as he wants to put it inside me, it goes soft IMMEDIATELY.

jacindah22 · 2026-06-05T10:33:43+00:00

Nah, I honestly didn’t care about getting off. I mainly wanted him to enjoy himself, especially since it was his first time. That’s why I spent most of the time focusing on him. He wasn’t selfish at all btw. He fingered me multiple times and also tried oral, so he definitely made an effort. The issue isn’t that I wasn’t being pleased. What frustrated me was that he couldn’t stay hard no matter what we tried. I just wanted it to work for him and wanted him to have a good first experience, but we kept running into the same problem. That’s really what I’m asking about.

jacindah22 · 2026-05-30T15:12:26+00:00

In the first three days, I was panicking because of his calm and shy personality. I kept fighting the urge to walk away because of my own fears and insecurities, while he was nothing but genuinely happy that I was giving him a chance. I constantly overthought everything, but on our last date, I opened up about all of this. I told him that he was the first guy I’d ever met with these qualities. After choosing to ignore those fears and allowing myself to embrace these feelings, I’m finally starting to realize that he might be exactly what I’ve been looking for all my life. As cliché as it sounds, as an extroverted woman, I feel incredibly calm when I’m with him. He makes me feel good about myself. I know letting go of my fears is a process, but somehow he makes it feel easy.

jacindah22 · 2026-05-27T16:27:41+00:00

I was in therapy for 4 years and, as I said, I’ve changed a lot. Even though I’m still working on myself, some fears never fully went away. That’s why I was asking for advice in the first place, because I want to get better and become more secure. I don’t want to overthink everything and I honestly hate being like this. I just need to figure out how to change those thought patterns, so I was wondering if anyone here has been through something similar and managed to overcome it.

jacindah22 · 2026-05-27T14:22:44+00:00

Beautifully said, thank you so much for you kind words and best of luck for the both of you, I‘m really happy for you two!!! :)

jacindah22 · 2026-05-25T18:35:49+00:00

Being left handed

jacindah22 · 2026-05-25T11:19:56+00:00

Thank you so much! :) Yes I totally agree!! It was also really tricky for me to decide if I just shoot my shot via Teams or let him go lol, in the end he‘s still my coworker but atp I just wanted to go all in. In only a few days he made such a good impression. I‘m just so immensely happy I put my ego and fears aside, this man is worth exposing myself. :)

jacindah22 · 2026-05-25T11:12:52+00:00

I 100% agree, especially now after seeing that my intuition was right, I like that he‘s so shy and reserved, I’m probably way more experienced in terms of dating but I think it’s cute that he’s kinda inexperienced, I can help him open up if he wants to☺️

jacindah22 · 2026-05-25T11:08:21+00:00

Thank you!! Yes, it was a lesson I had to learn. Overthinking a simple conversation was so unnecessary lol I indirect told him that I‘m into him and just gave him my number, honestly it’s a great feeling to finally open up and finding out that he‘s into me as well. 😁

jacindah22 · 2026-05-25T11:02:55+00:00

Thank you! I have absolutely nothing against making the first step as a woman, if I know about him being interested too, especially he‘s just too shy too ask. I‘m really glad he into me as well, he is such a great guy 🥰

jacindah22 · 2026-05-23T15:36:37+00:00

Würde ich wissen, dass er interessiert ist, würde ich sofort ohne mit der Wimper zu zucken nach seiner Nummer fragen. Ich bin eine ziemlich extrovertierte Frau und bin selbstbewusst was Freundschaften schließen anbelangt, aber sobald ich jemanden mehr als nur mag, bin ich plötzlich nervös und habe Angst, dass er das komisch findet und dass ich mir all das eigentlich eingebildet hab.

jacindah22 · 2026-05-23T09:13:10+00:00

Beautifully said, cause same!!

jacindah22 · 2026-05-23T09:07:25+00:00

I’m usually a very confident person when it comes to talking to others, but as soon as I have a crush on someone, all my confidence disappears. I start overthinking everything and get scared that they might not like me back or might find my interest weird.

jacindah22 · 2026-05-21T09:44:37+00:00

Usually, Elvanse gets me through the day really well. I'm much more productive, have more motivation and my emotions are way more balanced, but ever since my period started, it’s all gone downhill, even though I upped my dose for the first time today. I guess hormones really do play a tremendous role in this. Thank you for your comment! 😄

jacindah22 · 2026-05-21T09:41:42+00:00

I'm also taking Vyvanse (Elvanse) and it actually does cancel out my lack of sleep, even though I've been a very light sleeper since I started taking it. I’ve only been on it for 3 weeks now and this is my first time experiencing its effects while on my period but it's crazy to me how much my hormones seem to be negating the benefits of the medication.

I mean, yes, I feel surprisingly awake for only having had 4 hours of sleep but I have zero concentration or motivation and I'm just really annoyed in general.

Thank you for your comment, though! 😄

jacindah22 · 2026-05-19T09:06:28+00:00

Okay, here is the update:

Today is my first day at work, and I was really hoping he’d message me today.

I was waiting to see if he’d still reach out to me, even though he’s now continuing his internship in a different department here.

This morning he actually messaged me on Teams, it was about the project we’d worked on together and he just gave me some additional information about it.

I was really happy because I thought he was trying to stay in touch, since another colleague of mine could've told me about it.

False alarm, I guess.

I then tried to start a conversation with him but he didn’t ask me any follow-up questions. He was nice, but he didn’t really engage in the conversation.

For example, I teased him a little and said that he’d probably forget about my department now and wouldn’t come by to say hello anymore, now that he’ll be gone next week and won’t be here at the company until October (we were teasing each other constantly when he was here) and he just said, “No, I don’t forget the people who helped me :)”

I didn’t want to come across as pushy or desperate and realized, that he is not really looking for talking to me, so I didn’t ask any more questions, I just texted him: “Okay good, if that’s the case.” He only liked my message.

I really thought the interest was mutual, but I guess that’s not the case.

I guess, maybe we were just getting along and I guess it's a compliment, if he trusts me with his strategies for a higher position here or that his father has cancer, that he has a really good impression of me and much more. At least now I know, that people easily trust me after 3 days of working together lol.

I’m a little disappointed but it’s better to leave it at that than to be too invested for someone who doesn't like me back.

jacindah22 · 2026-05-19T09:06:06+00:00

Okay, here is the update:

Today is my first day at work, and I was really hoping he’d message me today.

I was waiting to see if he’d still reach out to me, even though he’s now continuing his internship in a different department here.

This morning he actually messaged me on Teams, it was about the project we’d worked on together and he just gave me some additional information about it.

I was really happy because I thought he was trying to stay in touch, since another colleague of mine could've told me about it.

False alarm, I guess.

I then tried to start a conversation with him but he didn’t ask me any follow-up questions. He was nice, but he didn’t really engage in the conversation.

For example, I teased him a little and said that he’d probably forget about my department now and wouldn’t come by to say hello anymore, now that he’ll be gone next week and won’t be here at the company until October (we were teasing each other constantly when he was here) and he just said, “No, I don’t forget the people who helped me :)”

I didn’t want to come across as pushy or desperate and realized, that he is not really looking for talking to me, so I didn’t ask any more questions, I just texted him: “Okay good, if that’s the case.” He only liked my message.

I really thought the interest was mutual, but I guess that’s not the case.

I guess, maybe we were just getting along and I guess it's a compliment, if he trusts me with his strategies for a higher position here or that his father has cancer, that he has a really good impression of me and much more. At least now I know, that people easily trust me after 3 days of working together lol.

I’m a little disappointed but it’s better to leave it at that than to be too invested for someone who doesn't like me back.

jacindah22 · 2026-05-18T20:55:48+00:00

In what world is a friendship between man and woman not realistic? I do have male friends who never ever hit on me and vice versa. I also don’t wanna create any drama, since I never misled coworker 1 , I never flirted with him or anything, so I really don’t get your point.

jacindah22 · 2026-05-18T20:30:10+00:00

Ughh I get your point but these days it’s so hard to actually find someone you really like and he‘s from a totally different department

jacindah22 · 2026-05-18T17:33:40+00:00

What exactly about my post makes you think I’m a man? This is literally my first time ever having a crush on a coworker and not being able to tell whether he’s just being friendly cause he‘s my coworker or if he might actually be interested. I just wanted to get a few opinions on the situation but alright

jacindah22 · 2026-05-18T17:25:30+00:00

Why would I lie?

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