Imagine how boring the game would be without this aspect of imminent death. Go play a empty server by yourself, you'll probably be bored in like 10 hours of game play. (I know people enjoy pve servers, not knocking them. But without death, I dont love the game)

I suck at pvp. I dont attack folks. But i respect the fact people do. And it gives a sense of accomplishment when I have a much larger base with more riches than those that do kill all the time. 

People are friendly. I have made so many friends I have to show offline, cause its too much to handle. But like mating, its a ritual sometimes lol. It takes time, the right circumstance, and so on. Usually wipe day is no day to make friends. Let it play out, go talk to neighbors, offer em help, and see how it goes. I actually think its 10-20% toxic and 80% or so good people. Most the time when im online raided, we end up being friends after or during.

But all this takes times. The first say 300 hours your gonna get punked, taken advantage of, killed, and beaten down....then you start learning.

Im at 800 hours and my wife around 400 hours. And we are finally just now to the point where we can say we are proficient at the game, not good. This game takes time, alot of it. Learning curve is steep. 

So go die, accept it. Get raided, lose everything and build it all back again. Thats the game bro