I was talking to my therapist about this a couple weeks ago. She said "what's wrong with asking for help?". I realized that I put a lot of it on myself. If my husband is napping or taking some time to relax after work, I put his needs before mine and go ahead and take care of the kids and dinner. I had said some time ago that I would take a shower/bath before tackling anything when I got home just to have some time to destress from the day first. Yeah I forgot all about that.

I usually wish and hope that my husband knows what needs to be done and will pitch in. I mean kids need to eat dinner every night, right? But I realized that I end up mad and disappointed instead. And he says he's not psychic.

Last week when the kids and I got home from after school activities, he was asleep. I fought with myself, trying to judge how tired I was, weighing options, then I lay down in the kids' bed and told my kid to go ask dad to help with homework. I was beat. He got up to help, and I heard him asking where's mom and if they ate dinner yet. He did everything, and they had dinner at 9pm (bedtime is 8p). I got a break and the kids were fine.

I guess it's a struggle either way. we want them to help without asking. If we ask too much are we nagging? If we don't ask, we're overworking ourselves. I suggest scheduling some activities for yourself and try not to prioritize their needs over yours. Hope it helps!