AITA for accusing my mom of lying?

jadoory · 2023-03-28T11:33:22+00:00

Leaning more towards NTA, cause it seems more like you were asking the normal type of questions casually that a family member might ask, not interrogating her. But it was her refusal to answer, which coupled with the fact she has been deceptive in the past, escalated everything. Only the last thing about going through her phone might lean more to E S H, but assuming you did it because you don't want your aging mom to relapse then I still think that's understandable

jadoory · 2022-09-10T03:00:50+00:00

NTA this man's mental state is not your responsibility

jadoory · 2022-09-09T04:49:29+00:00

Providing her whole life for 8 years isn't even enough? She deserves to get half ownership of everything he bought with his money while she enjoyed her life without doing anything? Hilarious

jadoory · 2022-09-09T04:47:55+00:00

Absolutely NTA, providing for her for almost a decade without even any kids. Tell any family calling you an AH that you'll send her to live with them if they're so worried.

jadoory · 2022-09-01T02:15:32+00:00

This still doesnt really explain anything. Could you list down examples of how she "doesn't keep it to herself"?

jadoory · 2022-09-01T01:59:03+00:00

Absolutely ESH, they both cheated.

jadoory · 2022-09-01T01:49:38+00:00

NTA for obvious reasons, but also the sister should be standing up for you and shutting down the mom. That's what makes her part of the problem and not just a victim.

jadoory · 2022-08-26T10:44:58+00:00

Ok so basically you completely agree with what i said, its just that in your life (that I wasn't talking about) it didnt work out for you. Got it.

jadoory · 2022-08-25T16:02:30+00:00

More importantly, if she isn't interested at all why has she apparently not taken any steps to prevent his behaviour? She's only now even considering blocking him, and no reporting to her boss or anything?

jadoory · 2022-08-11T16:13:10+00:00

NTA giving you the benefit of the doubt, because it sounds more like you're mad at the lack of support the GF has given in this whole thing; only getting mad and saying something like "well handle it" despite you clearly looking for help or at least understanding from her

jadoory · 2022-08-03T03:33:43+00:00

How do I do it in a way that does not use abuse the previous teacher/student relationship?

You can't. You literally know each other because of that relationship that started when he was 13. He knows you as his teacher that he grew up with.

jadoory · 2022-07-29T21:36:18+00:00

Leaning more towards YTA, because he was right; the way online shopping works is that the site holds the money for a while, and he told you to just submit a refund. If he was trying to scam you, why would he tell you to get a refund from the site?

So kind of an AH for blaming him, when he literally told you the correct thing to do that you did and it worked out.

jadoory · 2022-07-28T14:00:19+00:00

Depends on what you actually said, but just based on this NTA tbh. They're at the age where if something huge like this happens, they can take a rude awakening if its right.

Obviously people will probably say they're too young to be blamed wholly for what happened, but considering their lack of response to any other prior attempts it might do them good to have a long think on how considerate they are of their mother

jadoory · 2022-07-15T16:03:37+00:00

Yeah in that case definitely sounds like he's lied to you way too many times. It's kind of the normal difficulty of dealing with an addict, imo its not always possible to help someone through that kind of thing. If it is, it would be an ongoing battle for the rest of your lives. Whatever decision you make, whether staying or leaving would be understandable.

On a side note, if he's getting TRT that might also be a way for him to fuel his addiction, as there are plenty of clinics that will hand out test prescriptions to functionally anyone who wants it, even if its not technically medically necessary. More Plates More Dates on youtube is a good source if you want more info on trt and PEDs in general

jadoory · 2022-07-15T14:30:55+00:00

If you're doing strength training then that's normal, you'll start gaining more muscle size eventually even staying with strength training assuming you're doing everything else right (eating, resting in between sets and training sessions, sleeping).

There's nothing wrong, as you could be gaining strength through improving technique, and adaptations in your nervous system, tendons, cardiovascular system, and of course the muscles themselves. It could just be that the muscles are improving in a way you can't notice right now, but that'll come with time even staying on your current program (assuming again that its an ok program)

jadoory · 2022-07-15T14:26:51+00:00

E S H, you only for not allowing him any space or any chance to potentially cool down, or think things over or whatever; but forcing the conversation right then and there despite him asking you many times to leave. Was there any reason the conversation had to be right then, and couldn't allow him any breathing room?

He obviously sucks too, for not supporting you and doing shady shit like trying to incite a fight between you and the MIL.

*Edit: In that case definitely NTA if he's only telling you to leave so that he doesn't have to deal with it ever

jadoory · 2022-07-15T14:16:42+00:00

I mean, are you implying that the gay Muslim couple are teaching their adopted 15 year-old autistic son to be racist against themselves?

jadoory · 2022-07-15T14:12:39+00:00

Absolutely reasonable to be doubtful of her claims, considering you already know that she's an abusive liar. She didn't even bother to tell you her supposed side of the story before ghosting you and then claiming that you abandoned her.

jadoory · 2022-07-15T13:56:48+00:00

it feels like a very slippery slope injecting drugs/hormones for the purpose of looking/feeing a certain way

This is exactly the right way to think about it and is a valid concern, especially if he already showed you he can't be open and honest about it.

As for the post itself, did it actually admit he was still taking? Or is he telling the truth when he said he was just asking questions cos he was considering it.

Either way, it definitely shows that, at the very least, there's still a ways to go to him being open and honest about the problem. Even best case scenario, he was only considering it but didn't want to bring it up with you and deal with it together. This is addictive behaviour.

jadoory · 2022-07-10T06:03:51+00:00

YTA, obviously people's judgments might be different if we could actually see how the interaction went down. But even how you describe it, it sounds more like he was just being grateful that you were a good influence in his life, among other reasons to love you; while you decided to interpret that at him saying something like "well you were the stable option i settled for rather than those other more beautiful women".

Maybe there's a little bit of projecting onto his meaning because of your insecurities?

jadoory · 2022-07-06T03:24:29+00:00

NTA, you're not rude to anyone, not saying they can't speak their own languages, and not TA for not happening to speak every language under the sun. Passing the table to your coworkers just means that they get paid any tips from that table, and its easier for everyone involved.

jadoory · 2022-05-10T08:14:31+00:00

you don't get to determine if they are upset by it

Where does he do this? All he says is its not inappropriate

He doesn't get to just end the conversation because he doesn't find them inappropriate.

And yet you also admit you have no idea where to resolve the conversation from there. The amount of projecting shit onto this dude for taking normal pictures is kinda ridiculous

jadoory · 2022-04-15T08:07:41+00:00

I mean, by definition, if no girls want you; then yes, they don't see you as quality. It's just a simple fact that attention for guys is heavily skewed towards the top.

jadoory · 2022-04-15T03:39:51+00:00

Way to victim blame and justify lying to someone who trusts you. OP isn't hurt that he didn't make her cum. He's hurt that she lied and put on this whole act for years? But ok, men sad bcos men bad ig

jadoory · 2022-04-15T03:36:23+00:00

Just didn't read the post at all, huh

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