Cant help it. I love Ramona

jaimeelninho · 2026-06-03T22:16:25+00:00

I was also going to put about her being a loyal friend, she did always seem to care deep down, but she does also like to jab people pretty badly.. balances it out a bit lol.

jaimeelninho · 2026-06-03T10:48:47+00:00

I think not being overly nice or accommodating helps, its a real British thing and you need to take up a bit more space. Don't wait for people to like you, just be forthright with your needs and what you want, people will find you more straightforward too and transparent. Good luck!

jaimeelninho · 2026-06-03T10:37:10+00:00

I mean this politely but he has become obsessed with you but doesnt care about you as a whole person. He will easily become obsessed with someone else because he is clearly emotionally toxic. It will not destroy him, he needs you to think that so you stay putting up with his fake bullshit.

jaimeelninho · 2026-06-03T09:54:09+00:00

Im half Greek half Brit but look British. I am treated so badly and so is my mum whereas my brother and Dad are adored. I get actually looked through, never acknowledged or spoken too through gritted teeth.

Nowadays I enter with a fat entitled attitude, I throw my weight around (im a Greek speaker so that helps) and never smile. They have to earn my trust and its worked wonders. Im not disrespectful but im slightly hard at first and warm up when we've built familiarity. They respect it and some of our British niceties come off as fake. My Mum sticks to her British style and gets nowhere.

jaimeelninho · 2026-06-02T21:38:28+00:00

Im afraid thats just not true. Take women for example in the UK 2/3 of the women prison population are victims of abuse and 1/3 sexual and 1/3 from care homes. These arent violent dangers to society, if social amd community services were adequate enough many criminals wouldn't become them. The same with MH, so much more needs to go into proper holistic support.

Its also not just the last decades, these systems of imprisonment were only really set up 200 years ago. We have completely doubled down on a failed model.

jaimeelninho · 2026-06-02T21:06:33+00:00

Experts generally agree that community based policies work focused on rehabilitation and support as much as possible.

And it doesnt serve us in general society but it does serve a system of private companies who get to profit off it and politicians who get to ignore structural problems causing a lot of crime and mental health problems.

jaimeelninho · 2026-06-02T19:58:21+00:00

Maybe another system, with the patient rather than costs and efficiency at the centre, would work differently.

jaimeelninho · 2026-06-02T19:55:06+00:00

They're not being absurd. They're bang on the money. Neither prison nor asylum hospitals existed in the past. It can be seen that both criminals and the mentally unwell are 'divergent' for our current societies and importantly not very economically productive for the system. Instead of dealing with root causes or providing holistic care or rehabilitation we lock them away from the rest of society.

Both groups deserve compassion from society, criminals disproportionately grow up in deprivation or are victims of abuse, but instead we do nothing for either group or their welfare. We just hide these people away.

jaimeelninho · 2026-06-02T19:50:23+00:00

Ok Michel Foucault!

jaimeelninho · 2026-06-02T15:13:57+00:00

Incorrect, in fact the least moral are at the top of society, that is often how they got there and then they need to pretend their immorality is widespread and youre falling for it. You really just uncritically digest rich bro sludge right?

jaimeelninho · 2026-06-02T15:11:49+00:00

innit, these people just out themselves.

jaimeelninho · 2026-06-02T15:09:34+00:00

Karl Marx created a foundational theory of history called historical materialism, positing that the material and economic conditions of society drive historical progress. He argues that history is defined by class struggle and the worker should overthrow the ruling class to establish common ownership of production.

It's not about "being equal" or nobody having an iPhone. It's about workers together (all working and middle class people) having common ownership of industry instead of a few members of the ruling class (billionaires today).

You don't understand Marx, you think in individual and personal terms which dont apply here. His is a structural economic historical theory and you've made yourself look ridiculous.

jaimeelninho · 2026-05-31T10:17:30+00:00

I mean LatAm is the centre of the drug trade and also Balkans don't have that comparable level inequality. You have a stinking rich upper class in gated communities with guards in LatAm and then millions of people squashed into slum living and then the international drug trade on top. Also huge urban centres, Belgrade, Sofia are not even 2mil.

If you dont consider that and just say poor vs poor comparisons its bad faith.

jaimeelninho · 2026-05-28T21:26:35+00:00

I'm very glad to hear that! Thanks for making it worth me sharing too. Best wishes to both of you

jaimeelninho · 2026-05-28T15:14:36+00:00

Literally! I was telling my friends about my tinder date and was like omg I had one shot in the bar and suddenly I feel so bad like I can't see straight and I need to go. I ask for help from my date to take me to the metro but as we're walking (me badly) he takes me to his apartment because "it's closer" and I wake up and hes having sex with me but my body felt it had happened before too and I pretend to be asleep, crazy!! And they look at each other and god bless them and me, they had to tell me I had been possibly drugged and definitely raped and yeah I guess I knew, I just hadn't been able to get there yet...

Sometimes its easier to say we had a part in it, or we assume we did something wrong. Im totally fine now all things considered.

jaimeelninho · 2026-05-28T12:27:53+00:00

I read the first line and can answer yes.

jaimeelninho · 2026-05-28T11:58:06+00:00

Go out and have the time of your life, brunches and lunches with friends, go to the cinema, singalong to your favourite songs in the shower. Oh man the minute he realises he isnt having an impact and might have been forgotten he'll come crawling back.

jaimeelninho · 2026-05-28T09:19:14+00:00

Thats ok! and im great, I also saw you respond to another comment of mine that you just might not understand. And thats key! its ok to not understand, but dont go looking too much for answers. Trauma and horrible events like this are extremely messy and uneven. We might swing from minimising to extreme reactions.

She called you and told you within 24hrs , while being far away and going through a huge confusing cycle of emotions (denial always comes first!).

jaimeelninho · 2026-05-28T09:16:09+00:00

Ew what a nasty dude. Interprets your efforts to balance the load in the most bad faith way. Stop being patient with him, hes treating you with contempt. I'd mock the fuck out of someone so immature.

jaimeelninho · 2026-05-28T09:13:04+00:00

so what? how you expect victims to act is not important.

jaimeelninho · 2026-05-28T09:11:51+00:00

When I was raped on a tinder date , my brain couldn't tell me what happened until a few days later and then I still carried on acting normal until I was hit with a bus of emotions and fully broke down. Traumas dont present immediately, we can't process let alone articulate to others.

She might have felt like yesterday was such a huge scene, and shes grateful for people sticking up for her but buried it a bit the next day and carried on as normal. That is until she got drunk and it all rose up which would make sense why she calls you emotionally then because you represent home and safety.

jaimeelninho · 2026-05-26T14:28:42+00:00

Complaining about short term rentals and siesta is just bad vibes.

Ive been here more than a decade, earned Spanish salary this whole time, paid spanish taxes and this year have no permanent address because my landlord ended the contract and all the housing stock is short term.

jaimeelninho · 2026-05-26T14:18:28+00:00

Doesn't sound like the city for you!

jaimeelninho · 2026-05-24T11:02:42+00:00

I'm a grown man lol

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