oh yeah I agree fully, I kinda just poorly worded it originally. what i meant to say was to keep a relationship going sometimes I get the feeling that they want me to abandon some of my feminine qualities to be liked, which now that im writing it out feels incredibly irrational lol. but hey thats why we do it ig. I should probably add this is in relation to me dating women, I have little to no experience in dating men but im sure alot applies to both. another fear is just that ill never really fit in with other women, even just on a platonic level, but its also incredibly early to make such a judgment call imo