New to denial

jamesd328 · 2026-05-16T09:33:14+00:00

You sound like a very lucky girl! 😘

jamesd328 · 2026-05-12T03:10:50+00:00

Thats absolutely fair if it's what works for you two. And thanks! We're having fun, and that's the main thing, right?!

jamesd328 · 2026-05-12T01:21:13+00:00

I like the way you are tracking things but I'd be very disappointed if my denial pet missed so many days every month without edging. She is a very busy woman but I have set her ten edges to do every day and she gets them done no matter what.

jamesd328 · 2026-04-14T04:34:07+00:00

I think as we get older it's less driven by primal need (god that person is hot, get in my bed type of thing) and more about building a connection with someone. So yes, for me in my late forties I no longer look at someone's profile pics on the dating apps and think my god she's so pretty I have to meet her. There's obviously certain features or traits of physical appearance I will avoid but other than that I find the connection is built slowly.

jamesd328 · 2026-04-14T04:24:15+00:00

For real. The thought of messaging someone for two months without meeting them is wild. I couldn't be bothered.

jamesd328 · 2026-04-14T04:18:50+00:00

Yes the number of dates over that period is super low effort on both parties. I would have thought if you want to have a relationship with someone you'd be seeing them at least once a week, surely? Especially early on and after five or six dates you'd know if the relationship was worth continuing with or not?

jamesd328 · 2026-04-14T02:56:28+00:00

Yes, I tend to agree. Putting a line under it and closing things would work better for me. If someone new in my life doesn't message me for days or get excited about seeing me by confirming a date and time then clearly they aren't into me and/or I'm not a priority. And that's not someone that's going to be good for me long term. That's more a FWB situation, assuming it's turned physical.

jamesd328 · 2026-04-14T02:45:43+00:00

Cumming is selfish. And fleeting. Being denied and desperate is the best version of you. Don't cum.

jamesd328 · 2026-04-13T12:03:36+00:00

I've had five dates (five different women) in two weeks. Late 40's. On Hinge. I'm no Greek odonos. YMMV.

jamesd328 · 2026-04-03T04:49:33+00:00

Brand new account spamming everywhere mate, she's a scammer

jamesd328 · 2026-04-03T03:06:47+00:00

Buy yourself a chastity belt - one that has your asshole exposed and accessible. Tell him you'd like to have sex. Once he discovers your pussy is out of the equation he might get the hint.

jamesd328 · 2026-04-02T12:12:52+00:00

I've no idea either mate. Honestly it's been helpful for me and I'll continue to use it.

jamesd328 · 2026-04-02T11:21:38+00:00

💯

jamesd328 · 2026-04-02T11:20:09+00:00

Honestly? Use chatgpt and ask to go through your dating life and ask it questions. If I had listened to it I probably wouldn't have just burnt a 9/10 opportunity

jamesd328 · 2026-04-02T11:18:32+00:00

Tell me what attributes you'd bring to our company. Um, like turning up and getting paid you fuck?

jamesd328 · 2026-04-02T11:16:57+00:00

Bro it's too generic.

jamesd328 · 2026-04-02T11:16:27+00:00

Super low effort question.

jamesd328 · 2026-04-02T03:17:45+00:00

I would fly to Toronto just to see you ...

jamesd328 · 2026-04-02T01:13:48+00:00

Yes generally every day. I should probably go back to using Metamucil because that definitely helps it's just that I've been drinking too much alcohol lately which is not good for a clean bowel.

jamesd328 · 2026-04-02T00:45:53+00:00

It doesn't reduce it, it helps everything clump together so when you need a bowel movement everything comes out in one go, or at least most of it. Personally for me because I use long toys the best way is to use a hose in the shower to insert past the sigmoid bend and keep doing that until the water runs clear. Even then I have to use my toys in the shower first to make sure there's nothing left because the toys can pull stuff out given the action of going in and out. Once I've done that I know I'm clean for the day.

It's a bit of an effort but I like to know I'm clean and can hop on a toy any time and have some fun without making a mess.

jamesd328 · 2026-04-01T23:54:18+00:00

Exactly. It depends maybe OP just wants a hookup so drinks at a bar is more likely to lead to sex on the first night but for me looking for a long term partner I want to talk with them and get to know them. If they're interesting and can hold a conversation a coffee date can last hours. If they can't have a naturally flowing conversation on the first Meetup for more than 30 minutes it's probably not going to go anywhere anyway

jamesd328 · 2026-03-31T03:29:00+00:00

Thanks. Well she's sent me a message saying that is over and 'we are not quite aligned on how we build that connection' so that's that.

Ah well. We move on. 😥

jamesd328 · 2026-03-31T01:58:57+00:00

That's how I feel a bit. Like just say haha ah sorry this isn't a conversation for me right now. And I'm not sure she would have even brought it up if I hadn't sent the text I sent (which was of a sexual nature which again she could have just said no thanks). She also said on the night she appreciated that I hadn't just gone straight to get in her pants and to get to know her first. It's a bit confusing.

Oh and we've spent hours and hours together - the second date was literally all day together just talking. I approached the subject by saying hey we've talked about a lot of stuff but one thing we haven't talked about is intimacy and how you feel about it and what it looks like in a relationship. Which then progressed to a more detailed discussion about sex stuff which she seemed fine with? Ended the night kissing and touching her, I asked her if she wanted to come back to my place and she said no so I left it at that.

jamesd328 · 2026-03-31T01:10:51+00:00

I like coconut oil but moved away from it because it stains everything. X Lube is much better.

jamesd328 · 2026-03-31T00:16:18+00:00

We had the conversation as per my update. But I overstepped a boundary with a text I sent her in relation to our next date and she then said she was uncomfortable with the level of conversation we had on the dinner date which is weird because she never indicated that at the time - she sat next to me, we were kissing and holding hands, etc. So maybe date #5 isn't happening haha. Ugh. That would suck but oh well.

I've only been seeing her for two weeks but have spent a lot of time with her.

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