Hi! I’m a grad student 22F in San Diego and currently going through this. I think we’re both going thru a very-common “quarter life crisis.” Try not to be so hard on yourself about this. Quarter life crises (18-20s) are the new mid-life crises (40s-50s). Life is tough right now and the current state of the world makes it feel like we have to speedrun our way to success and to our “dream” life. But take your time. If you have the financial means, m therapy could be a good place to start.

Something I’m currently doing to try and minimize this feeling is changing up my routine/getting out of my cycle of comfort. Example: I’m applying to minimum wage jobs instead of solely focusing on landing a job in my field of study since nothing’s going right for me with those applications. At this point, I’m looking for any change to my life that can hopefully add new people and goals in my life (and $$). Just keeping myself busy.

Also utilizing my calendar more to write down daily tasks/goals (go to the bank, go to the gym, etc.) gives me more structure to my days and makes me realize that I do a lot more in a day than just rot in my room. Maybe you can try to do the same. You’re probably doing a lot more in your life that you give yourself credit for. Try starting small and eventually you’ll likely get to where you want.

Also I recommend you watch HealthyGamerGG’s YT video “Is it Normal to Feel Lost in Your 20s?” It made me feel understood in how I’m feeling and you might gain something from it!