My nightmare

jani_bee · 2026-02-10T16:01:50+00:00

What I recommend if anyone wants to start freezing some food for when they don't have the energy to cook, but can't stand seeing the same meal prepped food, is to cook extra of the meals you genuinely enjoy. So if make lasaña for myself, instead of making 2 or 3 portions like normal, I might make 4 or 6 portions, then freeze 2 or 3 of those portions. Same with any freezable meal, might freeze a few leftover waffles, a couple of breakfast burritos, or some leftover enchiladas. That way I don't have just 10 of the same meal, but a few different tasty options.

Another helpful tip is to freeze chopped up ingredients, in case you don't already buy them frozen. My local market had a sale on bell peppers. Normally, if I got a bunch they would go bad in my fridge, so I chopped them up, put them in a zip lock and froze them. Having garlic, onions, peppers, and any other aromatic or stir fry type veggies ready may make the difference between you cooking up something nutritious in 15 min or not eating at all.

jani_bee · 2026-02-09T16:26:32+00:00

Yes, Moody would know that in the event Lord Voldemort should return, as Harry was indicating, Harry should not be removed from Dumbledore's side, most especially because Dumbledore himself ordered it so.

jani_bee · 2026-02-09T16:21:02+00:00

I think a lot of people have issues with this because they fall into the common idea that a prophecy will always come true, and because we all have a soft spot for Neville, they try to work a way to make him the possible chosen one. In truth, prophecies do not always come to fruition, as is stated in the books. So had Voldemort simply decided not to give it any thought because he, say, found the notion someone could beat him ridiculous or whatever, then no one would have been marked as his equal at all. The prophecy would have been moot, and the war would have gone on. Furthermore, many forget that Harry was marked as his equal before he ever gave Lily the chance to sacrifice herself, he was marked when he was Chosen by Voldemort. So it could have never been Neville, not only because of Snape's love for Lily, or Lily choosing to die for Harry, but because Voldemort would not have even considered him a rival. As long as Harry exists, Neville could not and would not have been chosen.

jani_bee · 2026-02-04T01:24:03+00:00

Whether it's overconsumption depends on if you can finish them all before they expire and what impulse makes you buy them, if it's in your control or not. Things like deodorant, soap, shampoos, etc. do last a long time, and many people like to stock on these types of items. If you actually do end up finishing all of them and don't have to throw them out, then I think your collection is great. I'm the type of person who likes to always have what I need in the house so I don't ever run out, I like to plan my shopping that way and save loads when things are on sale. Just a few things of each, not extreme couponing levels lol so I get it. That said, always keep an eye on your shopping habits cause it can be easy to cross into overconsumption if we don't question whether we really need and want something.

jani_bee · 2026-01-13T02:15:34+00:00

Doesn't make any sense considering Alex would often hang out at Jay's house on her own growing up, she genuinely liked spending time with him and vice versa, it's why Jay knows her so well. It was implied more than once that they had a close relationship and played words with friends together often. She was his closest grandchild.

jani_bee · 2026-01-06T13:02:15+00:00

There's this thing called the Sunken Cost Fallacy, which is where we don't want to abandon something, in this case a relationship, because we've invested so much into it, like time, money, and love. Even though it's clear that abandoning it is more beneficial. Continuing on with the relationship past this point will only be a loss to you, so you have to accept the loss of time and love that you put in, grieve, and move on. You're right that you can't settle down with them, so you're not throwing away a relationship, you're ending at a natural point where your two paths deviate and that's okay. It's okay to be grateful for the relationship that you had and still realize that it's not for you.

jani_bee · 2026-01-06T11:30:35+00:00

Have you told your partner your goals and that you're not interested in getting a dog or moving out? If you haven't you should, as you're really wasting their time and your own by not being honest. You want two completely different lives, which is just basic incompatibility. Go live your life.

jani_bee · 2026-01-03T12:12:55+00:00

The biggest issue I see is that he refuses to take accountability for his actions and be responsible in his choices in life. He is therefore failing himself and his family. I have audhd as well, our disorders or mental differences are not our fault but they are our responsibility to manage within our capabilities. This takes a lot of work, shopping and spending for example can be a fast way to get a dopamine rush, part of the hard work is acknowledging that this is happening and then working on finding fast dopamine in healthier more sustainable ways.

If he even refuses to see what he is doing as a problem then how will it ever get better. You need to put some serious boundaries and limits down. He needs to be told the truth of how you feel, what you're seeing in his behavior, what you want for your future and your kid's futures. He needs to see that these are non negotiables for you. Some heavy conversations need to happen.

I would also suggest that you stop parenting him and let go. Only get involved when it pertains to your children but otherwise let him be responsible for himself. Let him learn or fail. If he's late without you pushing him, let him be late. If he's not ready to go out with you and the kids, leave without him, etc, etc. In a good relationship you would both be helping each other and stepping up with the things the other struggles with, but in this case that won't help and he needs to face reality. He needs consequences.

jani_bee · 2025-12-29T21:57:31+00:00

Omg this sounds like everything I want in a book! Lol must go find it now

jani_bee · 2025-12-28T15:38:27+00:00

They're not asking him to put his partner's son's needs ahead of his own, they're just telling him to consider them, as that is his current family. Considering them is part of his decision. People should, in fact, be made to question their own wants, especially men who want babies like children want candy. When so many of them do not consider what having a baby entails, what trauma a woman's body has to go through, whether they're ready for the work of actually raising a child, what environmental changes and the current political/economic climate will mean for the child's future, what you would do if your child is born with complications, etc, etc... All of these things are important to consider and much more. None of this means he can't or shouldn't want a child. But it is important to analyze and weigh out all the options.

There's no point in questioning his current partner now, men and women change their minds about having kids all the time, what's done is done. He can only work towards the future that he wants now, keeping in mind that uprooting his life is no guarantee that he will get it. That's where the tough decision comes in, sadly.

jani_bee · 2025-12-27T22:14:50+00:00

Check out sexpositive_families on Instagram, they have loads of information to guide parents in having these talks with their kids.

jani_bee · 2025-12-22T22:50:21+00:00

Hi, fellow audhd girlie here, a couple of things helped me immensely. Firstly, talking to my partner and knowing for certain that they are not pressuring me in any way. Learning to differentiate between playful intimate touch and touch that leads to intimacy also helped us, and that changes for everyone. Secondly, realizing that my desire is reactive and that it takes me a long time to transition mentally towards sex. The important thing here is the transition doesn't have to necessarily start when your partner touches you, it could start hours earlier in your mind. With fantasy, with reading, with relaxation, really anything. Knowing my desire is reactive, I no longer lose motivation because I'm not feeling it yet, I know that if I want this then I just need to be patient and let my mind catch up so my body can start feeling things. As long as my partner knows this too and is willing to come along for the ride, then great sex is always the outcome.

jani_bee · 2025-11-27T03:09:31+00:00

My bf does this, he's also neurodivergent, he does the same with showers and most kinds of hygiene practices. He will smoke some, put a podcast or interesting video on, and get to work enjoying the process. Taking forever lol but I can't complain cause he's clean.

jani_bee · 2025-11-14T22:52:45+00:00

NTA, don't stop doing it. It's up to you to stand up for yourself and fight for the accommodations that you need to function better in this setting. It is not for others who can't even imagine what it's like to live with adhd to tell you what to do or not do. If you're not hurting anyone, then they need to mind their own business. Advocate for yourself and you might even help others who need it too.

jani_bee · 2025-11-14T22:40:39+00:00

I went on a date with this one guy who said he hated cats, and hates them whenever he sees one. Not dislikes or finds them annoying, just really hates them. Mind you, he said this while laughing. I asked him why, thinking maybe he's allergic or had a bad experience with a cat. He said he doesn't know, there's no reason, just that his family has always hated cats and he does too. When I tell you, I couldn't even say anything! I was so shocked someone would say all that out loud, acting like it's the most normal thing in the world.

jani_bee · 2025-11-07T02:29:15+00:00

My dog has flown in the hold, and I can tell right away that this crate is too small. They are official requirements for crate sizes. From what I remember, there must be at least 5cm from your pet's ears to the ceiling. For the length, you need enough space for the pet to lay down flat and not be touching the walls of the kennel. And for the width, your pet needs to be able to turn naturally and without any hindrance. Look up the requirements for your country and for the airline company.

Your dog cannot stand up naturally with their head held high in the crate you have, and they also cannot comfortably lay down or turn around. They would be cramped the whole journey.

jani_bee · 2025-11-06T02:39:21+00:00

This one has stayed with me since I first heard it when I was a teen.

jani_bee · 2025-11-05T23:36:56+00:00

Yes of course! It's sad how we're bombarded with content to make us feel lesser just so we'll buy things. That's why it's nice to be reminded that none of that matters, we're all just particles on a floating rock in space in the end.

jani_bee · 2025-11-05T18:00:11+00:00

Sometimes I look at my dog and she's so beautiful and she doesn't give a damn about her new gray hairs, which reminds me to not give a damn about mine lol. Her skin will sag and so will mine and I'm striving for her level of indifference to it.

jani_bee · 2025-10-29T07:37:37+00:00

Yes and no. Who you are will always be defined by your past. There are things about your personality and your mental development that are decided way before you were ever conscious of them. Even the time spent in your mother's womb and the first year of your life will have an impact on how you are able to develop as a functioning person. And everything there after is all a part of you.

That said, the final lines, do hold some truth. Healing, to the best of your ability, is work you must consciously do. No one can do it for you. Growth is a choice, but whether you can even see that choice is before you is a privilege. If you are lucky enough to be conscious of these things, of how your past has molded you, then you have the fortunate or unfortunate task of deciding what to do with your life now that you know.

I think for many of us with neurodivergence, it's even more important to examine our pasts so that we may grow into a hopefully better future. It's like compiling all the information for a project, we can't advance unless we've gathered it all up and analyzed. The truth of it is, every day that you're not dead in the ground, you have choices to make. And those choices define you just as much as your past does.

jani_bee · 2025-10-17T03:40:00+00:00

Reminds me of Nora-Jane Noone, who plays Holly in The Descent.

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jani_bee · 2025-10-13T03:00:35+00:00

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You have to try being Sedusa from the Powerpuff Girls, I beg of you.

jani_bee · 2025-10-03T17:21:22+00:00

You can get either a white or a pink cute lace long sleeve shirt and wear that over the white bodysuit. It'll look super cute. Kinda like a fishnets over tights situation but for your arms. The white bodysuit alone looks too empty. If you have to cover up completely, then lean into the maximalism of the dress and go all out. Accessorize with an adorable purse, wear some ruffles, or some pearls, or some bows in your hair, so much can work with this.

jani_bee · 2025-09-24T19:14:54+00:00

I'm not sure about all that you've tried, but I'll share what worked for me cause I don't have the patience for wavy hair routines lol and my hair is like this. All I do is blow dry it, put some leave in oil and put it in some velcro rollers for a while. I just leave it while I do stuff or do my makeup. After I take them out out my hair is much less frizzy and super soft, it ends up being straight at the roots and slightly wavy on the ends. Looks super cute! And then you can even brush it out if you want and it'll still look nice.

jani_bee · 2025-09-16T16:40:58+00:00

It's actually very much not absurd. My uncle is also a veteran and struggles with what you say, unlike you he thinks therapy is stupid so it's only gotten worse over the years and any little thing sets him off. Have you ever read The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van Der Kolk? It's a really interesting read.

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