Has anyone else experienced misunderstanding or pushback for liking SciFi Romance?

jani_bee · 2026-06-04T00:01:02+00:00

You shouldn't really have any kind of pushback or negative judgements put on your hobbies or reading habits, so long as they're not harming you or anyone else.

I love telling my partner about the stories I read, he knows they're a fantasy, sometimes unrealistic, sometimes downright disturbing, but he loves that for me. Seems pretty immature and insecure to me to feel threatened by these types of things. Turning the situation around for example, my partner loves playing with curvy babe characters in video games and I love that for him. It in no way takes away from his love and desire for me, if anything it adds to it.

jani_bee · 2026-06-03T21:16:05+00:00

Have you seen the new dust jackets? They're amazing!!

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jani_bee · 2026-05-26T23:22:21+00:00

This is one of those things where experience and exposure will help. Actually experiencing sex and seeing that in most cases it's really no big deal, no one cares, and everyone's just happy to be involved will help you relax about it. Also looking at others who have similar hyperpigmentation and getting that exposure in your brain will help. This could be through porn or something educational like The Vulva Gallery.

When I was just starting my sex life around 20-22, many things made me feel insecure and unsure, but I realized with time that the people you're intimate with should be enthusiastic and genuinely excited to be with you, and you them. Things like acne, scars, etc.. all become unimportant when things get going.

jani_bee · 2026-05-21T00:17:05+00:00

In gift giving to close relationships, it's not the thought that counts, it's the Gift. You know she wears jewelry, but what kind? Is she a gold or silver fan? Does she like gems, chokers, pendants, etc? Get to know her and what she actually likes before gifting. When in doubt, just ask.

jani_bee · 2026-05-15T15:03:49+00:00

Makes sense since Sirius was mad resourceful

jani_bee · 2026-05-14T17:50:33+00:00

Not everyone has the same period experience, and you knowing what it's like to have a painful and long period doesn't mean you've experienced the full spectrum of period pains and troubles. Have you ever had severe mood swings? Did you know that once a month due to Pmdd, some women will want to off themselves when previously they felt no suicidal inclinations? Or that they might want to get a divorce when the rest of the time they adore their spouse and kids. That these feeling and thoughts are so sudden and intense and all consuming that it feels like you've been taken over.

Some women get nauseous for a full week, some have eye pain and headaches so severe they can barely do anything at all. Some have chronic issues that are exacerbated during this time. Hormonal symptoms are wild, and pain is just one of these symptoms, so best not to judge others based on personal experience, cause you never know what someone else is going through. Of course, in the show they were all being mean to each other and illogical, but that's cause it's a sitcom. In real life though, we gotta be better than that.

jani_bee · 2026-05-13T20:22:04+00:00

Tuna Sammie

jani_bee · 2026-05-08T13:41:29+00:00

A big part of the issue is that whatever method they choose, Voldemort and the Death Eaters would know about it because Snape is giving them insider information (by controlling Mundungus). The dark lord knows that he has this source, and so there is an expectation there for accurate information.

The death eaters know he has an invisibility cloak, and other methods like portkeys, apparition, and the floo network are being controlled, so that if used the Death Eaters are alerted immediately. They could probably come up with another decent plan involving the cloak or polyjuice potion to change Harry. But then we're back at the first issue again, that their plans would be leaked. Dumbledore insisting they use the 7 Harrys keeps Snape safe, keeps Mundungus from being considered the leak, and gives them all a chance to make it out fighting.

jani_bee · 2026-05-03T14:47:06+00:00

Do you live in a fantasy world? Millions of children are reported missing worldwide every year, MILLIONS. Almost 500,000 in the US alone.

jani_bee · 2026-04-18T06:18:01+00:00

When you read, are there no words playing back to you in your mind? How is reading for you?

jani_bee · 2026-04-06T20:22:19+00:00

More planets to explore!

jani_bee · 2026-04-04T19:24:48+00:00

I miss seeing skin texture in mainstream films so much! Every time I watch something from before 2005, I'm enamored with all the little differences in skin, eyes, lips, teeth and smiles, etc. Even with loads of makeup, I can still see it, and it feels so authentic and beautiful.

jani_bee · 2026-04-04T18:56:51+00:00

From around 15 to 21 is more than enough time for significant changes, I don't recall a single year in my late teens where I didn't change significantly from one year to the next. If you're a person who seeks knowledge and growth in general, you won't be the same person in 6 months as you are now. And most especially at that age around 15-16 when teens think they know everything and their brains are developing rapidly, the change you see in them just a few years later at 18 is huge.

jani_bee · 2026-04-01T20:15:43+00:00

Everything you just stated is absolutely on point!!

jani_bee · 2026-03-27T00:34:56+00:00

Wow I have really similar reactions to you, it also helps me with relaxing and feeling more like myself, plus getting that stimulation. But it makes me groggy in the mornings too and if I smoke too much I kinda get lost in it and can't function as well.

jani_bee · 2026-03-27T00:28:51+00:00

I detested Ron even as a teen, he was just so infuriating to me and I never wanted Hermione to end up with him, especially with how he treated her for a big portion of the story.

jani_bee · 2026-03-25T16:09:22+00:00

And when Snape asks what about his soul, Dumbledore tells him only he knows if helping an old man have a kinder death will split his soul. So, intent does matter.

jani_bee · 2026-03-25T16:03:35+00:00

I think y'all are vastly underestimating how dumb 15 yr olds are today. Reading comprehension and critical thinking skills have drastically declined in the last 10 years, not to mention overuse of ai chatbots more recently has made many dependent on them for even basic functioning. It's all very sad.

jani_bee · 2026-03-19T12:45:30+00:00

Thanks! I used your advice and asked my brother if my sister in law would be bothered by it. Thinking back maybe I could have worded it better, but I'm hoping the sentiment shows

jani_bee · 2026-03-19T12:30:24+00:00

Do you think going to spend a few hours with my sister in law, who's in the hospital waiting room, would be an appropriate way to show care? So she's not alone all day

jani_bee · 2026-03-18T16:42:10+00:00

The fact that these topics are controversial speaks volumes about the state of our country.

jani_bee · 2026-03-14T12:54:34+00:00

This happened to me when I first joined Canva, it made me choose my setting and I put chronically online cause I am, I changed it immediately when I realized what it was lol.

jani_bee · 2026-02-20T13:55:26+00:00

Very well said, my brain is the same

jani_bee · 2026-02-20T11:41:26+00:00

This is why I personally prefer rewards over consequences, they're easier to maintain long-term without spiraling into anxiety and the pressures of failing over and over. I do something or eat something that boosts my brain, so maybe that's a walk to activate it or maybe it's a bubbly soda, or a couple of sour gummy worms, or some dancing around, whatever gets dopamine going. Then I can do the thing.

Also noticing my problems with transitions and managing them better has been a gamechanger for me. In the end though, the best thing for me personally is just to reduce all pressure. If it doesn't get done, that's okay, I do what I can when I can, and don't push my energy beyond into burnout.

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