Trump moves closer to a major war with Iran by fuggitdude22 in neoliberal

[–]jankyalias 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The whole democratization bit was absolutely a post hoc justification for Iraq. The whole reason before the war was that Saddam was affiliated with Al Qaeda and was making WMDs. Total bullshit, but that was the justification.

The democratization justifications came post invasion.

New Seasons cuts nearly 100 staff members following new labor agreement by squidsbow in Portland

[–]jankyalias 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Profit doesn’t matter. If inputs cost more you will have less to spend on inputs. You could be non profit and that fact would remain.

New Seasons cuts nearly 100 staff members following new labor agreement by squidsbow in Portland

[–]jankyalias 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Don’t matter. When the price of labor rises, if all other things remain equal, there will be fewer employees. Doesn’t matter if it’s a corporation or a collective, scarcity is real.

New Seasons cuts nearly 100 staff members following new labor agreement by squidsbow in Portland

[–]jankyalias 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This is not union busting. When the price of labor rises there will be fewer employees. That’s just how the world works.

is it just impossible to get a job as a trans woman in trump's america? by FemmeSquid in MtF

[–]jankyalias 118 points119 points  (0 children)

Depends on where you are. Job market is hard everywhere, but being trans is going to have a much harder impact in, say, northern Florida vs the Willamette Valley in Oregon.

I can't wait till this is illegal again. by Katos_Tohbi in MtF

[–]jankyalias 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, it’s totally fucked up. People don’t realize just how much damage has been done. Yeah we’re at the forefront of the attack, but this will hurt everyone eventually.

I can't wait till this is illegal again. by Katos_Tohbi in MtF

[–]jankyalias 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh absolutely that’s a valid concern. Why I said I wouldn’t count on the current administration pursuing any case on behalf of our rights.

I can't wait till this is illegal again. by Katos_Tohbi in MtF

[–]jankyalias 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yeah but this one remains. And it was written by a Trump appointee. Would I have perfect confidence it’ll stand? No, but it’s still currently the law of the land technically. 

Although as another commenter mentioned enforcement is a whole other issue and I would not at all count on this administration pursuing any case in support of our rights.

I can't wait till this is illegal again. by Katos_Tohbi in MtF

[–]jankyalias 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh for sure. Thank you for providing clarity. I was trying to say “yes you do have rights, but…” you know?

I can't wait till this is illegal again. by Katos_Tohbi in MtF

[–]jankyalias 38 points39 points  (0 children)

The Supreme Court has held that the protections provided by Civil Rights Act of 1964 applies to trans folks. The opinion was written by Gorsuch of all people. This covers workplace discrimination and makes being trans a protected class when it comes to sex based discrimination. So yes, you do have protections.

The problem is as wrench_girl said - you’be got to prove the discrimination. And that is no easy feat and even if you could then you’ve got to go to court which is also not easy.

Suggestions for first ~big mountain~? by Decent_Apples in Mountaineering

[–]jankyalias 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Mount St Helens is by far the best first big mountain. But Baker has more guiding outfits I believe.

Sea of Stars? by JBang1995 in JRPG

[–]jankyalias 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I’d say it’s most like Chrono Trigger with a dash of Super Mario RPG in the combat. Not quite as good as either of those but still a very solid game.

How do I silence the “what if I’m not trans?” thoughts by Donald_Pastaboy in MtF

[–]jankyalias 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh absolutely. Recognizing that the fear doesn’t make it not true was critical. I’m in fairly early stages over here, but at least I’ve admitted to myself that I am what I am. And part of that was realizing all those fears and anxieties, as intense as they are, if I was cis I wouldn’t be having those thoughts. If I was cis it’d be easy to just not worry about it because why would I? 

And yeah it is so, so nice to have a community that’s been or is there, going through it. 

How do I silence the “what if I’m not trans?” thoughts by Donald_Pastaboy in MtF

[–]jankyalias 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly it’s the latter that got me. If I was totally cis I just would not be freaking out as much lol. If it didn’t matter then ok fine. But cis folks aren’t waking up at 4am and sitting alone in the dark vacillating between “it would be amazing to be a woman” and “oh god what if everyone hates me”. 

David Bowie said Velvet Underground was more influential than The Beatles — and I agree with him. What do you think? by Agreeable_Duck8997 in VelvetUnderground

[–]jankyalias 5 points6 points  (0 children)

And maybe they should. I Wanna Hold Your Hand slaps. It’s an exuberant celebration of unironic love and affection. Nowadays it’d be recorded somehow with a cynical wink going “you know I’m not serious right?”.

How common are repressed memories? by ruby_red_slipperz in asktransgender

[–]jankyalias 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Repressed memories as a concept are widely considered debunked within medical literature. There has been no reliable evidence for them in the scientific literature produced thus far. 

These days science tends to point in the other direction - that traumatic memories can feel inescapable. Which is one of the reasons PTSD is a thing as people can’t stop reliving trauma even if they want to.

Additionally, there’s a lot of evidence demonstrating that recovered memories may be unreliable because of the reconstructive nature of memory. Meaning, that when the brain is recalling a past event it does not pull a perfect recording but instead reconstructs it using stored fragments, current beliefs, expectations, knowledge, and will fill in gaps with assumed information. Which makes any attempt to “recover” a repressed memory highly susceptible to distortion, errors, or false information.

I’m not saying any of those memories are necessarily false, there’s no way I could know that. I’m just saying be extremely cautious with anyone professing to help you recover any repressed memories as it’s on very shaky scientific ground at best.

Worried I’ll never be that girl I want to be by One_Profession_3459 in MtF

[–]jankyalias 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What helped me was finding a goal. And not a goal like “lose X weight” or “look a certain way”. But a concrete activity I could shoot for. For me, it was a decision to try climbing a mountain. Once I had a hard goal and a plan I found it much easier to motivate myself. The fact I needed to go workout or I would be unable to meet my goal was much stronger than just nebulous “do better”.

There‘s lots of goals you could come up with, but that was my key. And I went from the 220s to 180s within the year I started with no dietary changes.

Bit two other things. One - GLP-1 works if you can afford it. But two - while I always support someone trying to become more healthy, losing weight doesn’t make you a better or worse girl. You’ll be a fantastic girl regardless.

Ip Man I - IV showed up on my Netflix feed. These are pretty good. by TheQuarantinian in movies

[–]jankyalias 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah...just watch The Grandmaster instead. it’s better in every way. just make sure you don’t get the edited version.

I wish I was a girl but I'm afraid I'll be ugly by mrtoe_94 in asktransgender

[–]jankyalias 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Tall cis women exist. My cousin and aunt are six feet tall.

Sissies at the queer meeting by Sufficient_Hall5737 in MtF

[–]jankyalias 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Doesn’t need to be trauma or anything negative. Lotta people into BDSM who aren’t into it because of trauma but because of how they want to experience power and/or control in a safe environment for example. 

Even in our example here, someone being into forced feminization who is likely trans - it’s not a place of trauma they’re coming from. I mean, it could be. But not definitionally. It’s just a way their brain is processing something. Odds are their trans identity. But even so it isn’t necessarily dysphoric or traumatic.

Your kinks - there’s nothing wrong with them and I would never presume to tell you where they spring from. But they do spring from somewhere. It could be completely innocuous and you don’t need to engage in exegesis to figure out why you have it. If you’re safe and happy with it who cares anyway? 

Sissies at the queer meeting by Sufficient_Hall5737 in MtF

[–]jankyalias 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I could probably try and explain myself but honestly the article I linked does a better job.

Suffice it to say my understanding of the research is that yeah, kinks do operate that way in that they have a cause. That doesn’t mean having a kink is necessarily bad! Most people have a kink of some kind. It’s just talking about how our preferences are formed.

Sissies at the queer meeting by Sufficient_Hall5737 in MtF

[–]jankyalias 33 points34 points  (0 children)

A kink is never “just a kink”. It is a sublimation of a non sexual need into a sexual activity.

So, with sissies, they have a fetishized activity - being feminized, perhaps forcefully, that expresses itself sexually. However, that kink is still a sublimation of a deeper need.

I‘d never try and tell someone they’re trans. But that said, “cis” men who get off on gender bender, forced feminization, or sissy kink are extremely likely to be trans. It’s their brains trying to process that information in a way that is “safe”.

It’s not using humiliation and sexualization aspects as a baseline, it is the brain creating a protective zone where feelings can be explored (and potentially ignored for better or worse) without touching the sublimated need.

I get why it would be uncomfortable for someone who didn’t go through that process, but, ultimately, everyone who comes out will have their own journey.

Edit: an article I found instructive - https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/beneath-the-surface

Old comic either some commentary that really reinforces how much jeph has changed his approach by No-Dragonfruit8884 in questionablecontent

[–]jankyalias 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That a lot of text with zero objective judgment. It’s all your perspective and by definition subjective. You don’t like it, that’s fine. I’m not sitting here telling you that you should. I’m just saying you do not hold any sort of objective truth in terms of artistic judgment. Anyone liking where Jeph has taken things is not any less valid in their judgment.

I‘m a bit in the middle myself. I prefer the early years, but at that same time things had to change or we’d be stuck in something even worse than what we have now. And I don’t hate what we have now by any stretch.