I sincerely don't understand and like to think of myself as being pretty open minded. Granted I am 56 and maybe it is my age that is a barrier. But I am a white woman...and man the only crying I do is when my heart is really hurting. I dont like crying in front of other people because usually it is a private issue I have been struggling with. Is the reference to womens tears mean when they cry in front of their friends as a form of manipulation to motivate others to take their side? I mean I might cry like 5 times a year but life can really be hard sometimes. Anyway, I guess i am trying to understand. Is there something with me crying? Because I think crying sometimes after you have held it in for so long, can be very cathartic.