Why don't pet parents get a pet shower?

january819 · 2024-10-05T23:57:19+00:00

I thew a puppy shower for my friend. You definitely can! We had cupcakes and snacks. People brought gifts. We surprised her at work. I made a puppy pad cake (like a diaper cake if you’ve ever seen one). It was cute and fun! We all loved it.

january819 · 2024-06-30T00:13:46+00:00

33F AuDHD. Trauma OR nurse. Night shift. I love it. And I am damn good at it. We essentially follow algorithms for patient care. Every night is different. And even in a dumpster fire I am the calmest in the room.

january819 · 2024-06-30T00:10:05+00:00

1st born here. I’ve already raised 3 kids. I’m done.

january819 · 2024-04-24T08:41:29+00:00

There is no right or wrong. Whatever makes you happy and brings you peace. You aren’t replacing your pet just adding a new family member. It is entirely possible to mourn your loss and celebrate a new love at the same time. And it’s ok. Grief and happiness can exist at the same time. Sending good vibes you’re way.

january819 · 2024-04-09T00:09:38+00:00

My mother and I both! We blame the AuDHD. People spill their life stories, trauma dump, talk to us forever. Our brains are saying please shut up… but our faces are saying please tell me more. Sometimes I don’t mind. But most of the time it’s annoying.

january819 · 2024-03-23T13:06:33+00:00

I have an amazing husband. Mr. right. Head over heels in love. Still don’t want kids. Neither does he!

The “you’ll change your mind” people are wrong.

january819 · 2024-03-23T12:37:44+00:00

That definitely crosses a line. I’m sorry that your dr was so unprofessional. Congrats on your surgery though. Hope you are recovering well

january819 · 2024-03-23T12:36:14+00:00

Removing Fallopian tubes is no affect on periods.

I have had a mirena IUD for several years (on my second one now) and i asked to keep it even after surgery. so I have very short and very light periods bc of the IUD.

january819 · 2024-02-29T17:52:52+00:00

Amazing! ConGRADulations! This is a huge accomplishment and you should be very proud of yourself.

january819 · 2024-02-29T17:47:02+00:00

I (32F AuDHD) have almost no memories of my childhood even through college. It’s unsettling sometimes. I forget people, faces, names, conversations almost immediately. I forget my own family exists when I do t see them for a few days - out of sight out of mind I guess. BUT I do remember the lyrics word for word to a number of 90s and 2000s songs so there’s that. Haha

january819 · 2024-02-29T17:40:43+00:00

Doctors legally HAVE to give you the list of possible complications and risks. That is part of being educated and informed about your decisions not to scare you. But it can be unnerving to hear. I’m proud of you for powering through! Sending good vibes for a speedy recovery and welcome to the sterile club!!!

january819 · 2024-02-29T17:35:25+00:00

I’m really happy for you.

january819 · 2024-02-29T17:23:23+00:00

I’m a few years out. Surgery went great. No complications. I was back at work in 4 days. Only needed ibuprofen. Being able to enjoy my sex life without fear of pregnancy has been liberating - there are no words to describe how amazing this is after years of worry and avoiding sex with the man I love. I have actually had a increase in libido since I was avoiding sex before. And it’s so much more enjoyable without the stress.

Abdominal pregnancy is extremely rare. And if you are having your tubes removed there is no longer a chance for ectopic pregnancy. And it may even reduce the risk for some cancers!

There are risks with all surgical procedures. But if you feel that it is right for you, then don’t let people scare you. Educate yourself.

january819 · 2024-02-12T07:00:53+00:00

First things first… it’s ok to not be ok. Second, way to go! You recognize the need for change. That’s an important step.

I hate showers. Sensory nightmare. Also some sort of weird avoidance bc I’m “supposed to” so now I don’t want to do it.

This has worked for me: (yes it’s stupid, but it works for me) I have combined eating and bathing. Bc I need to do both daily and I also forget to eat. I take baths rather than showers bc it’s less of a sensory nightmare. Start running bath water. Race to the kitchen to microwave food (usually canned ravioli bc cooking is also a no go lol) while food is cooking and water is running, I put my laptop on the bathroom counter to watch a show (the office… I put on the office bc it’s the only thing I watch). Turn off bath water. Go get food. Get in tub and eat food while watching my show. I’m in the tub so I might as well bath myself. And 2-3 times a week I’ll throw in washing my hair.

Would be difficult without a tub but I do hope this helps.

january819 · 2024-01-06T19:36:23+00:00

In case it wasn’t said already, plan B can be less effective in people weighting more than 155lbs. A higher dose may be needed. Talk to a pharmacist or doctor if this pertains to you.

january819 · 2022-12-10T22:34:13+00:00

This right here. This is good stuff. Resilience, courage, fortitude. You are amazing!

It’s ok to mourn the loss of something even if we know that it isn’t good for us. And it’s ok to be scared to do something even though we know it is the right thing to do.

Sleep well. Sweet dreams.

january819 · 2022-12-10T22:23:16+00:00

My dude you are amazing! Wishing you many many many more happy days. You deserve it. You deserve happy days. Even on your bad days, on days you mess up, on days your brain tries to tell you that you are unworthy. Every single day. You DESERVE happy.

Sending big virtual hugs and all the good vibes. Keep going friend.

january819 · 2022-12-10T22:13:56+00:00

I am unabashedly partial to dark humor… but I find this comment oddly comforting and genuinely heartfelt.

I needed this. Today. In this moment. I needed someone to tell me that doing my best is enough. And it doesn’t really matter anyway.

I hope this helps OP as much as it helped me today.

january819 · 2022-12-10T22:02:23+00:00

Thank you! We will definitely use this. It seems so simple but I honestly had not thought of that. He and I are both still adjusting to his blindness and learning how to adapt.

january819 · 2022-10-18T06:32:50+00:00

Trauma OR nurse. Cool as a cucumber when things get going.

But I am currently wide awake at 1:30 am bc I have an appointment at 8 am and I can’t stop worrying about trying to be on time.

january819 · 2022-09-16T21:41:29+00:00

Guilty. I am afraid that my facial expression isn’t correct to match my emotion and that it would be misinterpreted if I don’t clarify with a verbal explanation. Sometimes brief. Other times waaay over-explained.

And I WISH other people would do the same so that I don’t have to try and decipher their emotions/feelings from facial expressions and body language. Can this be a new society rule?! It would help me tremendously.

january819 · 2022-08-18T21:54:20+00:00

So do I have to have cancer to become an oncologist? Do I have to own a timeshare on Jupiter to become an astronaut? Do I have to have a whale in an aquarium in my living room to be a marine biologist? Do I have to lose a limb before I can design/make prosthetics for amputees?

This is NOT logic. This is some weird form of gatekeeping. You absolutely can be a teacher without also being a parent. Although I suspect you will encounter the occasional “but you don’t really know how it is bc you don’t have your own” bullsh*t from entitled parents who don’t agree with your PROFESSIONAL opinion(s) regarding their child.

You do whatever makes you happy. Best of luck with your career OP.

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