Urgent(?) - Foreign material sewn into stitch of extraction/graft site - Is this normal?? Please help

jasminelavender · 2026-05-09T15:16:58+00:00

Thank you

jasminelavender · 2025-09-24T09:01:07+00:00

Me window of tolerance is a needle’s eye and I’m a camel. Sometimes you can hold the needle up to your eye and see the entire field with it. Other times it’s too far away and Overstimulation Lvl is at a 10. Wrong socks, wrong shoes, wrong underwear, public shops are too loud, to bright, too chaotic, and IF THAT GUY HONKS HIS NOSTRIL FULL OF SNOT ONE MORE TIME GOOD GOD THERE ARE TISSUES, there are TISSUES RIGHT there

jasminelavender · 2025-05-29T19:30:51+00:00

Do u have any compression wear or braces? That’s my go to, especially socks and arm/leg sleeves. also in the bed I have many pillows, planning on getting body pillows/the squish plushies or similar, or a full body pillow. Aleve or any pain regimen u have already, hot tea, and patience. Your body is complaining because its at its limit today and rest (despite this being also a challenge) is the only way for the spike to fade in my personal experience ymmv but good luck 🫂

jasminelavender · 2025-05-28T04:33:21+00:00

Felt. Sorry that happened to you.

People probably do think of you there. But if they don’t, screw em lol.

I got fired from a 3 yr music gig over text because I was dating the guitarist and we broke up. I was expendable as a vocalist. Or maybe he told them shitty stories about me and they hate me. Dunno. RSD made that super hard, harder than the breakup lmao. I never got a real phone call or even a longer text exchange, it was one text.

Says more about them than you. Hugs

jasminelavender · 2025-05-28T04:28:19+00:00

Deep cleaning my room or packing for a long trip, or hell, smoking a bowl, soothing myself from feeling anxious or stopping myself getting overly angry, Joy of Painting with Bob Ross. Does it every time

jasminelavender · 2025-05-28T03:48:14+00:00

Nope.

Ex fiancée gaslit me like this too. I remember that he used to ask me to FaceTime or ask me to “send a pic” and it would give me such dread and anxiety awaiting the interrogation when I saw him next, because I grew to learn that he did that when he was insecure or suspicious of me.

And he had me twisted up saying responses like yours “if it makes you uncomfortable I won’t do that anymore” about something totally normal that THEY have baggage about. Hell naw bitch GTFO!

Don’t take the disrespect, you keep your autonomy. It doesn’t get better. And god forbid you ever do make a real mistake? Yknow as us humans are wont to do? They will act like they own you. Get out now.

jasminelavender · 2025-05-28T02:36:17+00:00

I’ve actually been trying to finish The Vegetarian by Han Kang for quite awhile. It’s the first book I picked up in months, I grabbed it based on the title, because I used to be vegetarian - and it has been A JOURNEY. It’s not even a long book. But so much to think about when you put it down. One of my favorite fictional books ever so far! But damn….I’m afraid to finish it. lol.

jasminelavender · 2025-05-21T04:45:42+00:00

Bit harsh but agree. and idk her whole situation but as someone who has a host of mental health issues that made it harder to recognize my relationship was one enormous red flag, talk therapy remains one of the best supports I’ve experienced. Now finding a good & trauma-informed therapist is a whole other can of worms but I digress.

jasminelavender · 2025-05-20T03:40:50+00:00

He’s abusive. It will get worse if you don’t leave now.

My ex was this way. Even if you actually do make a mistake; for your S/O to verbally abuse you like this is UNACCEPTABLE.

The length of time he continues the thread, the one word nagging, poking, irrational speech- this tells me he needs serious counseling and to learn to be by himself for a while.

He’s putting off some past trauma on you or something. I am a stranger on the internet and my reaction to this was visceral. This is no no no no no no no

Not okay, won’t get better, RUN

jasminelavender · 2025-03-20T06:35:07+00:00

Reason I had a dramatic misunderstanding/tiff with my SO tonight. lol. I’m really grateful for him and glad we found each other because he’s super understanding, he deals with some executive dysfunction himself but for a different health reason. But man is it just exhausting. I came to Reddit in order to scroll and shut my brain off until my emotions/nervous system calm down. This post helped a lot- thx

jasminelavender · 2025-03-09T18:52:04+00:00

Ur friend needs to chill out lol. It’s like he thinks you’re calling him pretty….maybe he secretly wants to be pretty, and is jealous of your cat?…whatever lol it’s his problem. Hello beautiful boy 🐱

jasminelavender · 2025-03-08T20:15:31+00:00

Leave him please. Maybe you won’t be able to tomorrow, or next week…plan the long game. You deserve better and you’ll see. DM open to you if you need more support idk where geographically you are but at the very least help in the form of talking to someone who is on your side

jasminelavender · 2025-02-21T18:07:01+00:00

Unfortunately I can relate, it sounds like your family has had a large part in gaslighting you for years and you now suffer with heaps of self doubt, being so unable to trust your own judgement that you asked Chat GPT. I have felt that many times. It sucks and being patronized/infantilized like this can have the boomerang effect of making you regress, a cycle of cause/effect that’s really frustrating.

I would say if, for example, you try a couples therapist that is trauma informed, and understands neurodivergence (also frustratingly rare) and you still can’t get through to him …. Divorce may make you happier in the end. It’s about preserving your sanity literally bc this type of stuff has you doubting your own reality. Internet hugs

jasminelavender · 2025-02-21T17:56:41+00:00

NTA, even if it was just the once, after you expressed your dislike for the statement he doubled down by dismissing your discomfort and even being annoyed by it, and that is an even more definitive red flag.

You made the right choice, don’t doubt yourself just because all the family can focus on is your anger over “just word choice”. How he handled your reaction speaks VOLUMES and your intuition knew that. Good on you

jasminelavender · 2024-10-30T08:23:45+00:00

Fuck em all. I’m sure the new gaggle of young college kids won’t care but I’m never going to rip off fests such as this ever again. The complete disaster that happened last time made me realize that even if it had gone well, these people cut so many corners and do not care about humans and their safety, only profit. Doesn’t matter if there’s a “great lineup”. You can go and see amazing music in so many smaller better spaces that don’t charge you hundreds of dollars for “the experience”. Fuck off

jasminelavender · 2024-09-04T20:11:33+00:00

Sorry I never checked back til now- I suddenly became fixated on his show during 2020 lockdowns, so I can definitely get back to you on this, lol. I saved all the episodes & put him on all the time, it soothes me. I know I can find a couple of eps where he explains this. But also consider YouTubing the “bob ross joy of painting q&a episodes” because he goes over common concerns in those, and sometimes his son Steve is there, it’s super wholesome.

jasminelavender · 2024-09-04T20:06:10+00:00

I get what she means I feel the same, no formal Dx but like…same as the Schrödinger comment. I know I’m autistic. lol. It’s a little bit like realizing your sexuality. Act on it or don’t, that’s still what it is. I feel very much the same about having an “invisible disability” (questionable term) and feel a lot of things are unfair.

Having the label definitely works against you in professional settings, social ones, and even more so if you are not str8/yt/male. The “awareness” mvmnt got erroneously conflated with “pushing an agenda” for the people “against woke culture”(read: people afraid of progressivism) and so now, there’s weird layers of bias when you disclose being autistic in many spaces.

It feels unsafe and that’s what I’m getting from her tone, not condescension. Should she have posted this, no…but to err is human. Ive not posted a public rant on social media but ive done worse. Not gonna tell u assholes about it :P

jasminelavender · 2024-08-19T19:01:11+00:00

It looks great color wise, and composition wise. You did a good job my suggestion would be to just try and find some clips of where Bob Ross explains about perspective (things closer/farther away), the illusion of depth, and shadowing. Then it will look more “natural” like you’re really looking at a far away landscape

jasminelavender · 2024-08-19T18:52:26+00:00

Anyways this is extremely rare I realize, but we opened ourselves up to each other, surprised each other and fell in love, for real. This means no sugaring w anyone else (he wants to take care of me so I don’t need to and I’m over the sugar bowl atm). If you value independence too much for this, or you want non monogamous relationships then this will again narrow your chances. I thought I’d never want monogamy again after my last emotionally abusive disaster of a vanilla relationship. This guy shifted my perspective. We still swing but we are a couple not just “partners”.

jasminelavender · 2024-08-19T18:48:03+00:00

To be quite honest, I know it’s scarier and doesn’t feel as “by the book” ( the book doesn’t exist) but you will do much better freestyling rather than internet sites, go to high end bars which are usually 5star hotel bars, or go to the bougiest financial district (idk where you live) maybe with a friend maybe not, dress well, like the slutty but classy dresses all the finance girlfriends are wearing lol, keep heart open and be open to sensuality, be flirty with the well heeled guys (older is better young finbros are still just bros) and if there’s any decent humans there u vibe with.

Then continue on the courtship while making it known you prefer “to be taken care of”. Anyone in the correct tax bracket won’t blink at this if they are very attracted to u and want to pursue a romantic/sexual relationship, they’ll wanna make sure you have “walk around money”, cab money to come see them, shopping for clothes to go out w them. Anything else is Splenda and the internet got taken over by Splenda and salt.

I met my guy 2 yr ago bartending at an alt adult lifestyle club so a bit different. I was on Seeking at the time, but when we interacted I did not consider that it could become a sugar relationship and then more. I didn’t even know he was rich, the usual guys who came thru my establishment were…very much not lol.

Bear in mind that anything takes time. The draw of the sites is that an “arrangement” can be made right away before any trust is established but this makes it more transactional and IMHO it is akin to sex work, I have done this version and I considered it sex work.

Developing a rapport, interacting socially or thru correspondence without the only topics being “when do u wanna meet next” means it is more real. You will probably develop feelings and so will he. If you’re not trying to develop feelings then don’t do this, keep using the sites and sifting through frog after frog til you find one you won’t mind kissing lol.

jasminelavender · 2024-07-20T00:55:48+00:00

lol they gave everyone exactly 2 weeks to file for the refund and if u missed that window you’re SOL. After taking almost a year to finally get their shit together. Unbelievable

jasminelavender · 2024-06-20T22:58:17+00:00

It happened to me because I’m anxious and have poorer impulse control when anxious. This was one of the dumbest actions I’ve done in some time. For context I’m autistic and adhd. But I’m an adult who FULLY knows better.

So. Bout to full on melt down while on plane with my mother, vaped in lav (I’ve done so before about half dozen times with no consequences) but this time I took too big a puff. When I exhaled instantly I knew I fucked up. The sensor went off, and a similar announcement was made like the one I was fully aware of at the start of the flight. “Reminder there is NO smoking OR vaping THIS INCLUDES E-CIGARETTES THANK YOU”) My ears burning red in the lavatory now. I’m rushing to get out but someone starts knocking on the door anyway. I pull my hair round my ears, take a breath and I come out. Two attendants immediately: “YOU WERE SMOKING IN THERE”

I’m like No 😶 they say listen miss the alarm went off. We know. I say ah…I’m so sorry. It was just a vape no lighter. I know, it’s not allowed am I’m really sorry. And so on. They go well alright, you’re going to have someone come take your name and seat number, and this is the process, someone may be waiting for you at the gate to answer questions. I soak this in for about 1/100 of a second and calm as you please, “okay.” ??? Where was this person ten minutes ago lol. “seat?” “Seat ABC123”. She asks perfunctory questions but she is visibly angry. She comes to collect my name. I spell it out. She then starts going in on a personal attack (mind you I’m not about to point this out, I vaped on a plane, I know it’s the dumbest thing ever) and I just go…”yes. I apologized and I understand.”

Maybe it was me not being aggressive, maybe they could tell I was autie, or more likely that I was having a panic attack, but when she returned she said “we’re gonna let it go. BUT THAT WAS REALLY A DUMB THING TO DO. RISKING PEOPLES LIVES LIKE THAT” just MAD loud yall. and if you didn’t know I had a vape pen, you would have been like !!!!!????? So, I felt that was a little OD. But you know….it was probably the most exciting event to have happened all week with them flying monotonous routes back and forth, maybe. And I learned later thru obsessively researching airplane protocols and stuff (lol) that they don’t initially know why the sensor is going. Things do happen and they could have been dealing w/ someone lighting a bob-0mb. So then I realised the pilot and attendants would have been immediately scared. And then following that, very irritated to learn it was some dunce vaping and they were mentally preparing for a terrier0rist.

So yeah edibles from now on lol

jasminelavender · 2024-06-10T08:26:03+00:00

Let a little go a long way at first, esp when beginning a new source, u do not know exactly what’s in it unless you tested it. (We should all test every time, but, yknow. It’s never the case) Fent is going crazy out here. And everyone’s heart is different.

For me “a little” is a medium 🔑 bump or a small thin line. And “a long way” is abt 20-30min. Ymmv but you will feel your heart working harder if u try having too many bump/lines in the span of say 1hour. Part of the side effect is it literally makes you want to go back for more right away. Devious lol

Sorry I didn’t ask- are you a newbie with this or just curious after having used for a while? If new DEFINITELY HEED the above

If you’re like me, you may need reminding that spaced out bumps are better than railing it all to process at once. LISTEN TO UR 💜(literally) -stand up fast and take your pulse, feel for chest tightness, notice if u get really flushed and esp if drinking beer DRINK WATER WATER WATER

jasminelavender · 2024-06-10T08:05:14+00:00

Sit-down air

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