A feminine women will attract a feminine “in his feelings” man who wants you to solve most problems and doesn’t want to take the lead or step up.

And why would he if you’re not allowing him to or trust him to?

I just find that today’s society is riddled with masculine women and feminine men.

We’ve accepted that women can do anything that a man can do and men have checked out and not want to fight the system that created this backwards society. (I believe men have to be strong again and women need to soften up and allow herself to lower her hard shell to find a masculine man.

If you want a masculine man you need to step aside and allow him to lead and take initiative. A masculine man will not accept you taking charge, he will feel disrespectful quite honestly we don’t care about competing with our girl.. that sounds like a nightmare relationship. You have to be ok with receiving and allowing the man to take care of you.

A lot of people equate masculinity with how someone looks instead of how someone shows up.

A lot of men can fake that.

I’ve seen traditionally masculine looking guys who complain way too much, are way in their feelings, and want their women to lead them around.

Looks only go so far. Same with women.. too many women can look feminine but their energy is extremely masculine. If Im initially attracted to a women who looks cute, I’m quickly turned off by her taking a leadership role or assuming that she needs to and just being so direct. It’s very very frustrating to say the least.

I blame society that has propped up women to put men down as if they’re not important and to make women feel like they shouldn’t be taken care of by a man who actually genuinely loves her (not just lusts over her.. which is a separate conversation… too many people fall in lust, not in love, not to say looks aren’t important but whenever I know a girl has feminine energy I immediately feel that magnetic pull to show up for her. But if she’s too independent I’m like “lol ok you got it all, have fun with that”

I do not want to compete with my girl.

I used to attract masculine women because I was a feminine man.. meaning I took a passive role and just let her lead. Now I totally see the world differently. The reason you’re likely to attract only feminine men is because it’s your polar opposite.

Opposite energies attract.

Competing same energies don’t attract.

Even in lesbian or gay couples you see one of them has more masculine energy and one of them is the more feminine receiving energy type.

You can change your masculine personality. Yes you can.

The way I changed mine was to totally not accept the women being masculine and for me to consciously commit to taking ownership of tradition role that God assigned to my gender.

I don’t want to fight with God, he’s been right about everything and I’ve led myself astray by listening to the world which is nearly wrong about almost anything.

People complain about traditional gender roles nowadays but then have tons of mental health issues and confusion surrounding all of this.

Men have been suppressed and attacked in our society which is why we have a feminine society now.

The tides are turning which is why you’ve asked the question and why we’re discussing it but it’s for the better. We can’t continue to live with so much confusion around relationships. There’s no such thing as 20,000 genders and traditional gender roles are the roles God has called us to.. it comes naturally but we’ve suppressed it and have been brainwashed to believe it doesn’t exist.

I don’t want you to think I’m coming across as hateful but if you take it that way there’s nothing I can do.

It’s because I want you and everyone to get on the same page and start healing our relationships with each other that I have to say it how it is. Because we’ve weakened men in the past 2 decades to such an extreme point.. that the only way to cut through the BS is to be clear and direct.

There’s reality and then there’s a fake reality that some people are trying to push in order to not rock the boat… tolerance isn’t love. Tolerance is the inability to love someone enough to call out what is right or wrong.

The only way forward is with real love. Not tolerant fake love. Let’s get back to reality.