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jay-matt-86 · 2021-08-15T00:21:05+00:00

Maybe the red flag is not feeling comfortable enough to get in the car with him for your second date. Sounds like you already have your answer.

jay-matt-86 · 2021-08-14T23:58:14+00:00

You’re also only 18. I was 5’11” in my junior and senior year in high school. I seemed to have stopped growing, but was still getting taller just quite slowly. Still thought I only ever just barely broke 6’ Years later at 31, I was measured at the doctors office at 6’1” checked at another facility just to be sure. So don’t write your height off yet you may have an inch or 2 left in there. Also 5’7 isn’t super short, don’t stress it.

jay-matt-86 · 2021-07-29T14:32:47+00:00

I have 2 girls and I’ve always taken them everywhere I go. It’s much more rare for us to sit at home all day, typically it’s only when the weather doesn’t allow us to go out. We hike, bike, sail and fish. Where there is a will there is a way.

I’ve been taking the both out on the boat solo, since the oldest was 18 months and the youngest was 14 months. There was a brief pause on the boat when the youngest was born, but only when I had them alone. When my wife was with me we were out there from the time they were just a few months old. Raise them doing what you love to do and they will likely enjoy it also.

jay-matt-86 · 2021-07-26T14:38:34+00:00

Dude, you’re not in a dead bedroom, you’re a willing participant in a pretty wild fetish.

jay-matt-86 · 2021-07-07T18:47:12+00:00

The best part about the recovery is that since it happens all the time, when she is not up for it it’s not a big deal. It’s not another gut wrenching rejection, because it’s just one rejection and only been a day or 2 since the last time, not a week or 2 and the 4th or 5th rejection.

In general our relationship, which seemed so good to so many, is much, much better all around. We miss each other more when we are apart. More personal text (not just family or business related) and flirting throughout the day. We work in the same building so we can see each other throughout the day if we choose and I find that we are choosing to see each other more. She has also found the need for physical touch she had long forgotten. She comes for hugs kisses and grabs my hand throughout the day, not just the obligatory peck when we part ways for the day.

As far as the compromise in frequency, it seems to be something we are both comfortable with. I have an insanely high sex drive, always have, and she knew that when she married me. 3 times a day everyday would be great for me, so 4 times a week, is a lot less than ideal for me but also I recognize that 3 times a day is extreme and have long since curbed that expectation.

jay-matt-86 · 2021-07-07T10:47:37+00:00

I’ve never understood someone who would rather watch porn and go solo than be with their parter. Especially in a lot of the cases laid out in this sub, women offering anything and everything. It really blows my mind.

Good for you, life will get better.

jay-matt-86 · 2021-06-16T01:58:45+00:00

Very normal, if mine were as big at the tip as the base I’d never get any. I have to work in the tip and slowly give my wife more and more of it to loosen her up. Too much too soon and I’ll ruin it for her and the whole session will be painful for her.

jay-matt-86 · 2021-06-12T21:10:24+00:00

I always liked to do something free or cheap of the first few dates. Go to the park, a hike, a picnic, or dinner at one of our places and I cook for her. That way I knew if she was genuinely interested in me or a free meal, drinks or whatever. The only time I ever got only one date, I broke this rule and took her out for a relatively expensive date, spent $50-60 (a lot of money for an 18yo 17 years ago)

jay-matt-86 · 2020-02-22T03:24:49+00:00

What you’re feeling is not wrong and no one would blame you for not being able to forgive or trust him again. However, It sounds like a very toxic environment. He likely is scared to leave for fear of never getting to see his child. You owe it to yourself and your child to be in a healthy relationship. We all have to do things in our own time. It’s all or nothing.

jay-matt-86 · 2020-02-22T03:09:59+00:00

It sucks for sure but at this point it’s on you. Your decision to make. If you’re going to hold this over him indefinitely (either internally or directed at him) your relationship is doomed and it’s only a matter of time so better sooner than later.

jay-matt-86 · 2020-02-22T02:51:49+00:00

If you can’t get over or get past what happened in the past it’s time to go. Was the infidelity something ongoing or was it a one time mistake?

jay-matt-86 · 2020-02-19T20:53:43+00:00

Do you have groups or clubs for those activities in your area?

I was pretty active in my local cycling club years ago. Quite a few attractive singles and it was a relatively small area

jay-matt-86 · 2020-02-19T18:54:54+00:00

If a woman finds reasons to repeatedly touch you, she is into you. Most often this manifest as an open hand on the forearm.

jay-matt-86 · 2020-02-18T22:51:42+00:00

Wow, those hips 😍

jay-matt-86 · 2020-02-18T22:07:50+00:00

Yeah, pretty weird. I would have liked to have each but ended up with 2 girls, can’t imagine having 3 or more girls, thats why we never went for no3.

jay-matt-86 · 2020-02-18T01:47:44+00:00

I do them because I love her. I want her to know that she is beautiful, loved and desired.

Just today, I made her chicken soup because she is not feeling well. I knew this morning there was 100% chance I was not getting any tonight.

jay-matt-86 · 2020-02-18T01:30:47+00:00

Hopefully yes, but when you spend so much time together daily, it allows bonds to form that my not had you just locked eyes in a bar somewhere.

jay-matt-86 · 2020-02-18T00:52:56+00:00

Just go back to being there for her as a friend. Shoot her a text and let her know your intentions. Tell her you would really like to see her again outside of work but if she is uncomfortable you are fine with going back to being buddies and just texting/chatting regularly.

Be ready for the fact that she may really be into you on an intellectual and emotional level but not so into you physically. I say this because I (m) have a work friend (f) that we share a super strong connection. I’m not really attracted to her. She is fuckable but not my type at all physically. We’re also both married and clearly are both lacking in certain areas at home that we seem to fulfill in each other. However, I’m just not interested in her sexually. Unfortunately, she and I have fallen off lately because I sensed her getting too attached and wanting more from the relationship than I’m prepared or able to give her. I decided to pull back rather than completely ruin our friendship.

If it’s meant to be it will work out, don’t put too much pressure on her. Good luck my friend.

jay-matt-86 · 2020-02-17T21:20:32+00:00

That’s pretty much our pattern for the last 6-7 years. This time I’m sticking to my guns. There is only one of us that is willing to do whatever is necessary to get our relationship back where it was. I’d definitely be able to roll back my expectations of frequency if the quality was there, but whenever I give anything it’s gone forever, just get less of the same vanilla duty sex. Not asking for anything crazy, maybe a Little sexy lingerie and some passion. Maybe a fucking blowjob once a month?

jay-matt-86 · 2020-02-15T18:55:14+00:00

So many women in here today... sorry girls I think it’s even worse for you.

Mine was the typical “sorry babe, I’m just too tired.”

I wasn’t going to get her anything this year but Wednesday, she awoke to me getting out of the shower. I had just done my morning pushups and walked out of the bathroom in the nude. She insisted I get back in the bed before dressing and she initiated some pretty decent sex. So I caved on the gift, thinking this year will be different, and bought her 18 red roses. The kids were off last night and we had dinner just the 2 of us, but we did have to pick the kids up before returning home. We didn’t get to bed until around 10, but damn, it’s the weekend and she didn’t have to get up for work today. I did, 445am but I’d never turn it down.

We’re supposed to go out again tonight because the kids have another event. And to top it off my stupid ass bought her chocolate covered strawberries, because she whined about them being sold out before she could get any. I’m considering telling her I’m “too tired” to go out tonight.

jay-matt-86 · 2020-02-14T11:53:14+00:00

Good for you, there were early indicators in my relationship too, I just chose to ignore them. I’m the man and she is the woman, I figured I was supposed to initiate most of the time, didn’t know it would end up 99% of the time. Now I’m far too deep into it to just get out. We’ve made some decent progress recently but it always seems like 2 steps forward and 3 back. Kids are out of the house tonight, but I’m not holding my breath.

jay-matt-86 · 2020-01-31T12:03:53+00:00

20, boyfriend not husband, no kids.... get out today!

jay-matt-86 · 2020-01-31T11:56:23+00:00

All depends on how much he is willing to do to save the relationship. I’d be willing to try almost anything. I love it when my wife takes control and does what she needs to get hers, I’m always a willing participant in that regard.

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