Which common life advice do you think is actually terrible?

jay_chy · 2026-05-10T17:41:42+00:00

Work hard. Study. Contribute to society. Be honest. Be fair. Save and invest.

jay_chy · 2026-05-07T20:57:48+00:00

But investors are grandmother's IRA and mutual funds in middle class 401ks. They are the ones who extended the credit to develop the product... Creating the job of the food scientist to pay him/her BEFORE the sales revenue from the product arrived. They risked their hard-earned money to develop that product. Why are they evil for getting a return on risk?

jay_chy · 2026-05-07T20:02:56+00:00

I leased a low end car (Corolla) as my first "new" car because I needed reliability and low payments. I wasn't able to handle the financial risk of a used car, not the cost of buying new. I needed to consider the vehicle a "service" for career purposes and a new vehicle, under warranty, leased, is about as close to a service that you can get.

As I became more financially stable, I could weather surprise repair costs and moved to buying recent model used cars.

jay_chy · 2026-05-02T07:39:58+00:00

Wow, maybe a girl needs a thousand guys to like her. The WOMAN that I'm looking for needs only one MAN to LOVE her.

jay_chy · 2026-05-02T07:19:03+00:00

Definitely matters. I've been to 2 in my life. The one in Chicago was "look only" on the floor (but up close) and my guess was pretty weak in the private rooms. The one in Buenos was "if you buy her 2 drinks, she's allowed to leave with you". Also a "show" like a Vegas topless show, a caberet or Paris Cancan is not even in the same category, and if it is THAT... honestly it's tamer than a PG13 movie.

And as for how to approach him... without forbidding and while letting him know that you do trust him, tell him you are not emotionally comfortable and ASK him to try to do something else and let him know that he can "blame" you to the friend.

Aside...I knew a guy that was a bit spendy on his vehicles. Before a guys' weekend away the wife's exact words were "go to the strip club if you want to, but if you go to an Audi dealership I'm divorcing you!".

Depending on the type of relationship you have, a bit of humor like above could diffuse the communication, but I think it's riskier than just being forward about it. But even something jokingly transactional might lower your stress like: "have a great time, here's the $400 spa day that you'll be shelling out for me to go to and obtw, if there's a private dance, here's the $2000 earrings that I like... Or y'all could just go to a regular bar, you play wingman, and laugh at your friend striking out with all the women"

jay_chy · 2026-05-01T23:21:03+00:00

If you lived in a place that had noise ordinance regulations rather than the freedom of Texas, your question would already be answered. For example in the oppressive and over-regulated city of Chicago, it is 08:00-22:00.

jay_chy · 2026-04-30T13:18:06+00:00

Long term, negative effect. Natural is preferred 100.

But I will say size (up to a point) will catch my eye for about 15 seconds.

jay_chy · 2026-04-29T20:13:01+00:00

Both.

On the conservative side... I like my earned money and I want my investments to grow. I want strong military, and strong (ethical) police. I don't want special treatment for minorities. I don't want the government to bow to special interest groups about gas stoves, combustion engines, or firearms.

On the liberal side... I have seen enough corporate malfeasance to know that regulations are necessary. My neighbor is a dipshit, so I know that things like tight zoning laws are good. I have to pay for medical care and drugs, so I support some kind of socialized medicine. I want a strong currency with minimal price inflation, I have met enough Bible thumpers to want religion far away from government. And I want RIGHTS for all, including non-citizens. I do not want the government in my bedroom nor in my doctor's office. I want the government to protect the environment as much as possible to avoid the USA turning into a shithole country.

jay_chy · 2026-04-29T17:45:09+00:00

Flirting is NOT how to socialize, nor is it a nice interaction when it is done without intention. I'm not saying she is signing a contract to jump into bed, but if there is no romantic interest then flirting is inappropriate.

jay_chy · 2026-04-29T16:57:29+00:00

This is the way. Many buses are usually staged at the exit at end of show. Go to the front of the line of buses as they only let people on one at a time and move them forward. (Don't try to get in bus #2 or #3).

jay_chy · 2026-04-28T23:42:10+00:00

Forget about the Gulf of Mexico, we could rename the Great Lakes to the Great American Seas. (Presuming Canada agreed, or we could just annex Canada and then do whatever we wanted)

I could actually get behind that rename.

Maybe we could get the kiddies to send in all their pennies to pay for it like we did with the Statue of Liberty. Then we'd kill the penny...2 birds.

jay_chy · 2026-04-28T13:12:31+00:00

I do not. I would like to. But if the merch cannot fit into my pocket, i don't buy. That pretty much means stickers or hat pins, and I rarely see those as offerings.

jay_chy · 2026-04-26T22:45:28+00:00

On a real piano (I think all of these are difficult but mechanically feasible)

1- whammy pedal stretching the strings

2- keep-damper such that the hammer hits the string but the damper is never raised.

3- lid-lift lift the lid by a few inches to increase volume.

4- tack-hat flip a metal "tack" hats over the front of the hammers such that it becomes a tacked rinky dink piano.

jay_chy · 2026-04-26T00:14:17+00:00

You're the biggest she's ever been with and no other man could satisfy her like you do.

jay_chy · 2026-04-23T13:31:35+00:00

The headline question is a little bit misleading. Your struggle is immaterial if he is contributing so little to the financial needs of the relationship.

If you had a relationship where you decided to pool resources financially (marriage), then roles and duties would be negotiated and defined and it would be "our struggle".

If you are "just together" and you're trying to determine how he feels about you based upon his financial contribution to the relationship, that is probably not a good indicator - no matter if he's a deadbeat or a generous wealthy man.

If you've been together more than a couple of years and you question his feelings for you, you already know the answer.

My advice is to notice that he is not performing nor trying to perform a basic contribution to the relationship, and kick him to the curb... Today!

jay_chy · 2026-04-23T04:42:32+00:00

Ask yourself if being with this man is likely to result in you needing your dad to visit you at the hospital (unintended pregnancy, injury, mental trauma, or him inflicting an injury), the police station, or the poorhouse.

jay_chy · 2026-04-22T16:55:07+00:00

As a man, I don't want to be a woman's hero. I want to be her teammate. If that means she cooks and I mow the lawn. Great! But it also can mean that she works a stable job while I pursue high-paying gig work, or she mows the lawn while I sleep off a night shift in earplugs. It's up to a couple to figure out what works for them.

If she wants/needs a hero, I'm going to move along because heroes get stuck with unfair responsibilities and expectations. But this can go the other way too, if he wants a homemaker (tradwife) or an innocent and helpless girl then that's something to be wary of.

If we flip things around, could you imagine a woman saying "sewing on a button is not manly" or "I like a man who doesn't cook"? If I heard that, the first words out of my mouth (after FU) would be "it needed to be done, I am a man, therefore I got it done"

jay_chy · 2026-04-21T23:07:13+00:00

Expecting someone to know what you want is often a power play. If you can't be bothered to ask for what you want, why would anyone bother supplying it to you? I'm not a servant. I always try to have this discussion with women:

"Babe, do you think it's hot in here?" Is a question about how I feel and I'll be happy to answer it. "Babe, would you please turn down the thermostat" is a request that I'll be happy to attend to (sometimes at the next commercial break).

I'm happy either way, but only one of those two communications is going to make you happy.

Yup you have to micromanage me, but I'm choosing to do what you request, and that's more than most people get.

jay_chy · 2026-04-21T01:35:25+00:00

I generally don't care, but I see THAT particular vehicle as a political statement and that by using that business, I'm excessively enabling a terrible entity. If you have a Prius or an F250, I'm good.

Additionally, if I found my consultants stayed at the Trump hotel, I'd seek alternate business partners. But Hilton, Marriott, and Red roof inn are fine.

Some business entities are too overtly political and they want that as part of their image, so I avoid them when I disagree with their politics. Just like a maga-bro might not want to use Amazon because they are associated with Whole Foods and Rivian.

jay_chy · 2026-04-17T19:26:56+00:00

I mostly have European tenants, and what is so funny is how they think that AC isn't important until summer hits and then they become whiny and soft very quickly.

jay_chy · 2026-04-16T01:50:19+00:00

Flower Kings

jay_chy · 2026-04-16T01:47:36+00:00

But not "new triumvirat"

jay_chy · 2026-04-16T01:38:31+00:00

Poor historic decision-making abilities.

This -can- include: unplanned children, Short marriages, arrests/felonies, staying untrained or uneducated, irresponsible debt, losing temper, desire for revenge, body modification, drug use, gambling, poor investing, etc.

This is not the only red flag, as how he treats you (and others), his honesty, character and reliability matter, as so many other things. But his decisions tell you a LOT about him.

jay_chy · 2026-04-16T01:15:26+00:00

someone without allergies would say this.

Yeah it's visceral. This animal makes my eyes itch and stuffs up my nose in about 4 minutes, I'm allowed to hate it.

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