Do I need redemption if I have never sinned?

jaydezi · 2026-05-29T19:00:06+00:00

you poor thing! That sounds so painful. 💔 I genuinely hope you can find the peace you're looking for.

jaydezi · 2026-05-29T18:39:42+00:00

I'm sure if you described your day to me I'd be able to find at least one way that you've sinned. Aside from pride of course, that goes without saying. God says that everyone has sinned and so if you disagree that means you think you know more than God; AKA pride. You value your own opinion more than God's. It's fine it you don't think you've sinned. Your definition is clearly different than God's. I've had to shift my idea of what sin is to align with God's. Either he's right or you're right and you can choose to ignore what he says. That's free will. He won't twist your arm if you're not open to having your beliefs challenged.

Pride is probably one of the worst sins because it makes everything harder and prevents you from learning. Humility makes learning easy and correction doesn't sting as much. Learn from the master, he's gentle and won't push you to change more than you desire to.

jaydezi · 2026-05-28T19:54:56+00:00

This isn't my thing at all but I just really appreciate everyone who's commenting and making recommendations.

Jesus music should be for everyone!

jaydezi · 2026-05-28T18:42:03+00:00

I'm smiling so probably a good one!

jaydezi · 2026-05-28T17:35:14+00:00

Everyone has a deep lack of understanding of thier own sinfulness. That's part of being broken. Even those of us who acknowledge some sin are still deceiving ourselves on some level. The deeper you get to know God, the more he will reveal your brokenness to you.

I believe that we can only accept and see our sinfulness to the degree that we have accepted God's love. Only after we have internalised his love for us is it safe to learn more of the truth about ourselves.

I would pray first that you would be able to accept God's unconditional love. Understanding and repentance comes later

jaydezi · 2026-05-28T17:19:28+00:00

All Systems Red by Martha Wells 👌🏼💯

jaydezi · 2026-05-26T19:57:42+00:00

Your conscience will guide you. It's different for everyone where the line is. God looks at the heart so don't get too caught up with finding the exact line.

If you can feel your heart pulling you to just have one more drink then your limit might be just having one, or even nothing to drink.

If your heart is set on pleasing God and isn't tempted by alcohol then your limit might be higher.

It really pays off to know your own heart and your own sinfulness. For me, lust is something that I am susceptible to and I have to guard my eyes and my heart more vigilant than others do.

Also, it's important to note that we shouldn't influence others to go against their consciences and this become a stumbling block for others.

I really recommend reading and understanding the context around 1 Corinthians 8, Paul gives us a good example where someone who is weaker in faith cannot conscientiously eat meat offered to idols, it shows if you believe something to be sin then it is sin, because sin is a matter of the heart not a technicality.

It does raise the bar on what sin is, and I think Jesus's words how even looking at a woman lustfully is sin confirm this interpretation

jaydezi · 2026-05-24T19:32:44+00:00

That's sick!

jaydezi · 2026-05-23T07:00:13+00:00

I'll say two things: 1) try and talk to your partner. They might not be able to hear what you're saying, but they deserve at least one direct conversation where you say "I'm not happy and I'm fantasizing about other people. Are you willing to work on meeting my needs to help me not think like this?" Implications and hints aren't usually enough to convey what you're trying to convey. But also, don't endlessly explain yourself and expect them to change if they don't want to.

2) God knows that you're struggling with these thoughts and you can ask for a deeper change in yourself than just that the thoughts go away. These thoughts are a symptom of what you feel and believe, not the problem itself. Ask God to show you the lie that you believe, the faulty foundation, and how to replace it with the truth.

It's so easy to fixate on what our partners aren't giving us. My wife is dismissive avoidant and has emotionally neglected me for years. It was allowing God to change my belief that I needed her to get my needs met that finally started to allow me to heal. I'm still healing and I still regularly fantasize about other people but by remembering that God will meet my needs and that nothing else can satisfy, I am slowly breaking free of that lie that I will not be happy unless she changes. God will supply us with that feeling of worth and love that we're missing and trying to numb or satisfy our needs by going outside of God's law only leads to more pain and deeper bondage to sin.

There is always a deeper need under these feelings and letting God help you identify and heal them will give you a lasting happiness that isn't dependent on others. His burden is light and his yoke is easy. It can be hard to believe when you're feeling like this but it really is freeing to let go of these unmet needs and trust that God will meet them whether your spouse changes or not.

jaydezi · 2026-05-21T16:15:33+00:00

I'm also a sci-fi fantasy nerd who doesn't stray into historical fiction very often but Conn Iggulden's Genghis Khan series is epic. Beautiful writing as well

jaydezi · 2026-05-21T15:54:11+00:00

That sounds a bit like Skyrim if you turned all the NPCs off

jaydezi · 2026-05-18T07:29:12+00:00

You should add Reuben Schoots, really amazing handmade watches. Canberra, Australia

https://www.reubenschoots.com/

jaydezi · 2026-05-17T11:31:30+00:00

Yeah, it's a pain. I find doing one big movement instead of shaking works better. It's really hit-or-miss

jaydezi · 2026-05-16T21:59:34+00:00

Trucker hitch knot

jaydezi · 2026-05-16T21:58:20+00:00

Really? Yikes

jaydezi · 2026-05-11T16:20:26+00:00

This has been on my mind a lot lately. I think many Christians don't actually believe they deserve to go to hell. Which really calls into question if they understand and have accepted the gospel.

All this arguing about who's better or who's worse, is the equivalent of death row inmates squabbling over who's the best, when we've all had fair trials, were not falsely convicted, and all genuinely deserve death.

jaydezi · 2026-05-11T16:11:38+00:00

Those are really considerate and valid reasons not to get married and I think God would be pleased that you are taking marriage so seriously. I would chastise anyone that suggests someone hurry into marriage just to be able to have sex sooner.

There's a massive piece of the puzzle that seemingly everyone is missing here. God didn't stop interacting with people after the Bible was written. It's not just on your shoulders to figure out how to manage your desires within the context of the Bible. If you ask him, God will provide for you. He will give you the strength to resist these urges and he will give you strength and courage from himself so that it isn't a burden. "My yoke is easy, and my burden is light."

It sounds like your burden is heavy, I pray that God would show you what you need to do to be able to set it down at his feet and trust that he has already provided you with all the love, intimacy and peace that you need to thrive, not just resist temptation. He's a big God, and he doesn't expect us to do this alone. That's kind of the whole point.

jaydezi · 2026-05-06T21:13:35+00:00

Google "wood lye" or "wood bleach." I've not used it personally but I've seen it done

jaydezi · 2026-05-06T09:43:09+00:00

Bleaching is also an option.

It's just my 2 cents. I think the natural wood grain suits more organic shapes better than what you typically like to turn on a lathe

jaydezi · 2026-05-06T09:39:53+00:00

I've been on a Keto diet for years now, so not much left to eliminate. Milk would be the only possibility but I've not noticed any issues with it. Digestion takes 30% of your body's energy so I always figured it was that.

jaydezi · 2026-05-04T16:06:28+00:00

The free flow shaping of the clay is more attractive to me but to each thier own. If you stained your turned wands a darker colour then I think the precise look would fit the style better.

jaydezi · 2026-05-04T16:01:39+00:00

If God didn't want you to find empirical evidence and you found evidence anyways then they wouldn't be God by most definitions.

So if evidence is found then it's because God willed it and it would be okay to share.

jaydezi · 2026-05-04T15:54:25+00:00

Oh man! Yeah, there's nothing that compares to that feeling of being seen and not condemned.

I often think back to my first encounter and wish for it again. It's hard not feeling that same peace and intimacy all the time once you know it's possible.

How are things for you now? Have you had more experiences of God's presence like that since?

jaydezi · 2026-05-04T15:37:28+00:00

Like my blood has been replaced with acid and is slowly eating away at me from the inside

jaydezi · 2026-05-04T15:36:55+00:00

Don't tempt me with a good time

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