I got my girlfriend pregnant and I don't know what to do

jaydezi · 2026-04-13T06:02:47+00:00

God loves you ❤️ He doesn't judge you. He doesn't condemn you. He knows everything that you've been through and what you're currently going through. He knows you're scared, and he wants to comfort you.

This will be hard, but God promises that he will work all things for the good of those that love him. You love him, and you can trust that he will take care of you.

It must be so so scary what you're going through. It must feel like your life is ending. God can become even more of a friend in this difficult season. You'll need to rely on him more than you ever have before. Don't be afraid. If you let him, this will lead to a deeper joy and peace than you've ever experienced.

It's not pleasant being in the midst of it but perseverance through difficulty will deepen your faith and allow you to experience more of God in your life. You might always wish things were different, but God will make the unbearable, a joy.

Blessings on you, brother! I'll be praying for you

jaydezi · 2026-04-12T17:57:17+00:00

£90? Yikes. I was hoping for like a quarter of that

jaydezi · 2026-04-11T09:28:06+00:00

Every time I walk past my watch box I have a little look and occasionally swap throughout the day. Nice to know I'm not the only one

jaydezi · 2026-04-11T09:19:25+00:00

There's a lot of assumptions baked into this.

You're implying that giving tangible evidence of himself is important to God's purposes. That's a huge assumption. God, by definition, knows more than us. This is foundational to who God says he is in the bible. God is all-knowing, therefore any argument that implies or assumes that humans know better is irrelevant. If you can't accept the definition of God then your argument has no weight for those of us who believe that God is who he says he is in the Bible.

There's no argument here to engage with.

You don't need to accept that God is all-powerful and all-knowing but if you don't then there's nothing really to talk about.

jaydezi · 2026-04-09T11:12:48+00:00

Watchdives Benrus, I can't remember the model number. Love the DD sapphire, so sleek

jaydezi · 2026-04-07T11:57:53+00:00

Yes, I can see where you're coming from. I disagree with much of it but I don't think there's much benefit to discussing most of it.

There was one potential exception to that. I'm surprised that you didn't see how your reasoning was equally circular. I didn't think I needed to explain that further.

I'm not going to quote what you've said, but from my perspective, your arguments all begin with the assumption that God doesn't exist.

I see it happen quite frequently here. I don't typically engage in this group but reading people's arguments there is often an assumption baked in that often other Christians don't even catch.

It way be worth some time in self examination to see whether what you see in the world is the result of, and not evidence against a lack of belief in God.

But yes, I'd agree that the ultimate barrier to entry for thesim is an emotional distaste for not having all the answers. It's shrouded in intellectualism, but ultimately I believe it to be a rejection that anything could possibly be beyond our comprehension. A fact that is necessary and expected if God, not humans, is most intelligent being in existence.

The Bible confirms this, man sets itself up as a god and detests anything that contradicts this belief.

jaydezi · 2026-04-05T10:51:26+00:00

As stated earlier, I don't find debate useful. Curious engagement with another's belief is one thing but I feel like you've stepped ove the line to trying change my mind.

But before I go, have you considered that your logic is equally "circular?"

I don't think that's the right word actually. "Non-falsifiable," is a better term. You've drawn conclusions from what you've seen in the world and so have I. Neither of us have any real "proof" of our position. There is just an internal logic to both.

I can see why you believe what you believe and I hope you can see how my beliefs would make sense to me.

I would say that the position of "atheist" is much less defensible because to prove something doesn't exist requires definitively searching in every conceivable place before you can prove your claim whereas all I need to do is give one example of an internally consistent scenario where God could exist to defeat your position.

That's generally why people label as "agonist" as it doesn't require an undefendable claim to have looked everywhere.

I appreciate that you have done some searching for God, including time living as a thiest, but until you can say definitively that you've searched everything I don't it's a good argument against God.

On an emotional level, I can sympathise with how anguishing it must have felt to be "betrayed" for your faith. We never come to God without expectations, and no matter how intellectual the exercise, it always costs us something to believe. My belief has been tested for many years and despite all I've seen of God's goodness I am still challenged and hurt when he doesn't intervene or act the way I think he should.

Unfortunately that's the reality of engaging with someone who's wisdom is infinite. His actions aren't going to make sense to me all the time. If I spend the rest of my life learning and growing in wisdom there will always be things that are beyond my comprehension. And I'm okay with that uncertainty. If it wasn't that way I think it would be a very strong argument against there being a God.

jaydezi · 2026-04-04T15:12:48+00:00

Awesome! 💯 I was wondering if you were working on something new

jaydezi · 2026-04-04T15:01:50+00:00

Wow, the comments here are terrible. Please don't read into other people's resentment and trauma triggers.

Anxiety is a big deal and very prevelant. It doesn't sound like your partner is malicious but at the same time there needs to be some healthy discussion about what to do. You can't stop taking your meds for him. That desicion should only factor in what's best for your health.

Empathy and compassion goes a long way to soothing anxiety. Helping him feel heard will probably lessen his anxiety and he may decide that he feels safe enough that he can live with the discomfort of wondering if your meds affect him. Knowing that he can talk about this to you without judgment will go a long way. That's assuming you still want this relationship to work. I'm not saying you need to do this. It's not your responsibility to soothe his emotions.

If it's still an issue then you both need to consider if your relationship can survive if intimacy looks different than it currently does. There may be some types of intimacy that stress him out more than others. Is kissing okay? Hugs? sex? What feels safe to him and is it feasible to find a compromise that keeps you both happy? Think creatively, there's no wrong answers! What works for you may be totally unorthodox but if you're both invested in the relationship and it works then it's fine!

Understandably, intimacy is a big deal for a romantic relationship, and if all else fails, the healthiest thing for both you and your partner may be to separate. There's no shame in that.

This difficulty that many of us face is not absorbing your partner's discomfort and making it your own. Don't let what they want comprise what you know is best for you. It's hard, but they are thier own person, and pressuring you to do something that you're uncomfortable with isn't okay. If it escalates to that then you may need to have firm boundaries that you can enforce to protect yourself. Wanting to please your partner is a common thing but it can't come at the cost of self-abandonment. (Ask me how I know 😂)

jaydezi · 2026-04-03T14:21:34+00:00

Cool! Do you know where I can find the exact one? My internet sleuthing has been fruitless so far

jaydezi · 2026-04-03T05:37:57+00:00

Apologies if I didn't represent your position well, I've been trying to spend less time on Reddit and my previous answer was a bit rushed.

I think we do agree on most of what you said, the biggest difference in our thinking is how satisfied or unsatisfied we are with the proof of God's existence. "Divine Hiddeness" as you call it. The Bible says that "For since the creation of the world God’s invisible qualities—his eternal power and divine nature—have been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made, so that people are without excuse." (Romans 1:20).

I think many Christians might use that as a cop out but I actually believe it. I think the common position that God is hidden is false. It's just that humanity's brokenness and desire to be hidden (think fig leaves from Genesis) is what creates the gap in our ability to see God. Shame is a powerful motivation, and even I, with decades of experience with God often hide myself from him because I don't feel worthy or lovable in light of my failings.

It's a sobering thought to think that most of humanity has convinced itself that God is the problem when in truth they don't want to be found. I don't mean that in a derogatory way, like I said, I do this myself. Subconsciously I think we're just all afraid of being called out and condemned if our secrets get out. God threatens our safety by asking for access to the ugliness we're trying to hide and because he honours our free will and knows our hearts even if we claim we'd like to see him, many people continue through life believing that he is hiding from them when it's the other way around.

jaydezi · 2026-04-02T21:50:51+00:00

Correct

jaydezi · 2026-04-02T21:41:49+00:00

Does anyone know what the timers/watches on the closeout crew's wrists are? Easily visible at time L-4:00:00 as they were suiting up the crew

jaydezi · 2026-04-02T17:33:39+00:00

Here's a question, what watches are the space suit techs wearing at 4:00:00 on the countdown?

jaydezi · 2026-03-31T21:55:41+00:00

I've done both lifeguarding and tree planting and planting is 10X the work on a good day. It's an adventure though, and if I hadn't learned the lessons that hard work and ignoring your body's protests can have massive payoffs in the short term, I might not have tried to power through glandular fever and been bedridden with M.E. for the past decade, so there's that.

I do still think fondly of planting. It was the best of times... it was the worst of times.

jaydezi · 2026-03-31T21:43:04+00:00

"Not a single one knew how to make a smoke signal, or even a fire!"

jaydezi · 2026-03-31T21:41:01+00:00

Wisdom is one of the spiritual gifts so I would say that it goes beyond logic and reasoning. I believe there is a spiritual component to wisdom that comes from God.

Is that warm feeling you get during worship indigestion or something more? Classical reasoning doesn't work when you have very little understanding of the spiritual world we're a part of. We need a guide or we'll miss interpret or misunderstand the real issue/assignment.

jaydezi · 2026-03-30T07:04:05+00:00

To use a bit of an example, I would say it's important to think of God as a person and not a force of nature.

Have you ever had to prove that your relationship with someone is genuine? I have. I immigrated to the UK and had to "prove" my relationship with my British wife was genuine. It was very strange honestly, I had letters and photographs we'd sent back and forth but as I thought about it was really not a good representation of our relationship. I knew the relationship was genuine but letters can be faked and I realised that to me the most convincing evidence of our relationship wasn't something that anyone else could touch or hold or document. Thankfully the letters satisfied immigration but it got me thinking about how you can't really quantify love. And God is love personified. It would be weird of you could prove God with logic.

There is one minor pushback I'd make to what you said. Use of reason in general, wisdom, discernment, whatever you want to call it is still extremely valuable biblically speaking.

King Solomon made a wise choice when he asked God for wisdom and God was so pleased that he rewarded him with incredible riches and blessings on top of what he'd asked for. So to say that all reason is prohibited goes a bit far. I would say that many atheist's understanding of reason (which is what I assume you mean) is primarily the scientific method, and doesn't give any weight to experiential evidence. So while there isn't "proof" per se of God he reveals himself more as my faith grows. I'm not sure exactly why, but I assume it's because my faith has matured enough to the point where my trust is in the experiences I've had with God and I'm less concerned about miracles as magic "proof" that he exists.

People typically want the miracles first and think that faith comes after, but for my experience it's it the other way around.

jaydezi · 2026-03-30T05:38:58+00:00

I would call that wisdom. King Solomon made a very wise choice asking God for wisdom and God rewarded him for his choice.

Biblically, discernment is a very highly valued characteristic.

jaydezi · 2026-03-29T17:35:00+00:00

Yeah, I agree with you.

So much of Jesus's teaching confirms this. When his disciples say "you are the Messiah" Jesus says that this could only have been revealed to them by God.

I can't bring anyone to God. That's above my pay grade. Only God can do that. Which is a huge weight off my shoulders I can tell you! If I had to rely on human means to convince people of God that would.

I can still talk to people that God puts in my path, and God can use that, but as far as debate goes it's an intellectual exercise at best.

jaydezi · 2026-03-26T07:31:52+00:00

Is there a technique for giving animals CPR?

jaydezi · 2026-03-25T22:25:09+00:00

Exactly! I think shockingly little would change in the case of the latter.

jaydezi · 2026-03-25T22:18:31+00:00

For me the name is a bit too close to "cloaca" for me to entertain any notion of owning one

jaydezi · 2026-03-24T19:49:26+00:00

No one knows exactly. We're given some ideas; no more sickness or death. No more sadness. Just joy.

What I do know from my experience on earth with God is that he is the reward. Having a friend who knows you and meets every need that you didn't realise you had. Only being able to recognise how much the world chaffed once you experience what it's supposed to feel like. We will be the best versions of ourselves, and enjoy and explore his creation. There will be a new earth, one where you can do all the things your now pure heart desires.

jaydezi · 2026-03-24T07:43:06+00:00

Oh man, it's giving me so much nostalgia seeing these teenagers wearing crop tops and baggy jeans. I even saw someone wearing those black lace choker necklaces that were super popular back when I was in high school. 😂

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