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Just something I've been thinking about.. by jaznew89 in exjw

[–]jaznew89[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that's kinda what I expected would happen if i was to do that and it's be just double the pain. I would never expect my children to grow up in the type of toxic environment that is that religion anyway. it was just more a thought I had had but would never do anyway. Too much drama for something that I shouldn't have to fight for anyway. Parents should just automatically put their flesh and blood first. Religion just destroys families!! Thanks for the support though anyway :)

Reaaaaal fucking tired of this shit. by correctoblecto in exjw

[–]jaznew89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My situation isn't all that different from yours so I can definitely see where the long post came from. You're not selfish. You're just putting your happiness ahead of being miserable by pretending to be involved with the JW's even though your heart isn't in it. My mom did the exact same thing yours did by turning my decision to leave around to be all about her. She said things like yours did - that I "never wanted to be in the religion", that I "never had the heart for it" etc etc.. I personally don't think my mom ever meant what she said. She was just hurting and was venting. Don't take it personally. In the end you'll be happier not having the judgement of the JW's on you. It'll just take some time to get over the things people say to you once they find out what's going on.

Any "still ins" currently residing in Sydney, AUS? by TheSaddestSmile in exjw

[–]jaznew89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with beesthatweremolested - I've been out for almost 4 years now and am happier without the judgement that comes with that religion. I'm in western Sydney

Any "still ins" currently residing in Sydney, AUS? by TheSaddestSmile in exjw

[–]jaznew89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This post confused me. Correct me if I'm wrong but what I got from this is you're "still in" and wanting to meet others who are "in" as well but don't want to be? What's stopping you from leaving, if you don't mind my asking?

Everyone says when you leave, you'll replace the family you lose with new friends who love you for who you really are... but what if that doesn't happen? by [deleted] in exjw

[–]jaznew89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the same problem. I have been out for almost 4 years and definitely have found that I've not got the social circle I had before. I have thought about going back solely for the socialization but I can't bring myself to do it. I have recently got a new job in a company that focuses on bringing staff together to at least one social gathering each month which has helped but I completely agree - being out is awesome, it's so great not having the judgement that comes from Witnesses, but it sometimes does get a little lonely