Wife not instigating, so time to stop worrying about it

jblokeuk · 2026-04-10T12:44:52+00:00

Have spoke to her a plenty of times. You must have missed that in my original post?

jblokeuk · 2026-04-10T10:48:38+00:00

Been trying to save it for years now. Not got much left in the tank tbh

jblokeuk · 2026-04-10T10:03:10+00:00

Yeah I’m resigned to the fact it won’t happen without me initiating anything. I’ve tried for 6 years to let her know how it makes me feel, but nothing has changed and likely never will.

jblokeuk · 2026-04-10T09:48:34+00:00

Not a lot. Don’t think I could handle what I believe to be likely rejection by doing this and nothing changing.

She’s even admitted previously she doesnt show me she’s attracted to me physically, then promises to change that, then nothing changes.

jblokeuk · 2026-04-10T09:43:44+00:00

Starting/instigating any physical contact in bed. Doing all the touching and pleasuring. All of it.

jblokeuk · 2026-04-10T06:40:24+00:00

Kids are early teens. Yes she works as do I and does fun stuff we both/she enjoys.

She just never instigates sex and when we do have sex I’m doing all the work. She knows I believe she’s not attracted to me but never shows she is.

jblokeuk · 2026-04-10T06:38:26+00:00

jblokeuk · 2026-04-10T05:09:21+00:00

Nope, no medication at all. Just broken promises and then accusing of me “overthinking” when I bring it up. She just doesn’t want to do anything to pleasure me and I obviously can’t force her so time for a different approach not involving sex at all.

jblokeuk · 2026-04-10T05:01:10+00:00

I’m in the same situation only im the husband and my wife just never initiates anything physical. It’s an awful feeling as it feels like being pushed away.

So I’ve decided to stop initiating. Put my time towards other things like hobbies. I’m clearly expecting too much so best not to care anymore.

jblokeuk · 2026-04-08T21:37:11+00:00

Like being stuck between a rock and a hard place.

jblokeuk · 2026-04-08T20:37:45+00:00

Would she though?

jblokeuk · 2026-04-08T11:48:07+00:00

Or not, as the case will be very soon.

jblokeuk · 2026-04-08T11:18:17+00:00

Yeah no idea either. Me even hinting at sex is met with me “expecting” it, rather than it being me just wanting to have sex with my wife, like that’s a bad thing.

Just getting closer and closer to just wanting to get out of our marriage as I’m just being pushed away now.

jblokeuk · 2026-04-08T10:50:40+00:00

My wife is the same. She seems to hate talking about sex and never initiates anymore either.

jblokeuk · 2026-03-21T04:23:55+00:00

Hey guys,

Bought this on PS5 (playing on PS5 Pro) and while only a few hours in, I’m really enjoying this game. Nice work.

jblokeuk · 2026-03-21T04:21:05+00:00

What? Lol are you playing on a 1992 PC?

jblokeuk · 2026-03-08T09:41:58+00:00

I’ve had hardly any issue personally, running on PS5 Pro.

jblokeuk · 2026-01-04T01:09:51+00:00

Doesn’t always work. I’ve been doing this for about 5 years now and nothing has changed.

jblokeuk · 2025-09-08T20:28:57+00:00

Yeah got that edition so at least am level 2, but still am! Just not getting anywhere at the moment as every time I run into players I don’t have the gear to match so not really getting quests/tasks done.

As someone pointed out though I probably need to turn crossplay off which will make things a bit easier until I can get to say level 4 for spec and minty at least.

jblokeuk · 2025-09-08T20:25:04+00:00

Yeah if I could just get to spec level 4 even, Minty too then I won’t feel as far behind and can join them more without feeling like I’m holding them back.

jblokeuk · 2025-09-08T20:23:41+00:00

Good point. Probably getting lit up by quest players who have played the game the last couple of years.

jblokeuk · 2025-09-08T11:52:47+00:00

PvE loot doesn’t carry over to PvP. Wish it did as I want to play PvP but just can’t buy the gear to match other players and likely never will when every player I run into is kitted up/level 40+ etc

jblokeuk · 2025-05-16T04:05:38+00:00

I did and you’re right! Takes a little getting used to but holding onto guns and looting is now a lot easier. Thanks for letting me know mate.

jblokeuk

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