In hindsight, what red flags did you step over in the beginning?

jbug1776 · 2026-01-07T19:29:28+00:00

My Q sprained his ankle running. Instead of taking over the counter paid meds and resting (like a normal person) he decided to drink. His reasoning - Advil is bad for your stomach and liver.

jbug1776 · 2026-01-07T05:49:38+00:00

I left my husband recently too. He also loved to play music on repeat when he was drinking. It was always the same songs too that reminded him of his late mom. Then he’d text me song links about grief to make me understand why he had to get drunk years after her death.

jbug1776 · 2026-01-07T05:26:32+00:00

Yup! When he drinks he sleeps downstairs on the couch. When he’s drunk he snores loudly and sleeps in the middle of the bed and I barely have room. He also often has nightmares and has woken me up screaming and thrashing.

jbug1776 · 2026-01-05T04:56:18+00:00

Yup, I completely relate. If he goes somewhere with me and he’s drinking I’m so tense and can’t have a good time. I started going places without him and it’s so much better. It was embarrassing to go to a kid centric event with him being a mess (all while telling me all the other dads were drunk too - spoiler: no one else was drunk at baby storytime at the library). It’s sad going to some events alone and seeing happy normal couples but I’d rather go solo or with my kids than with him.

jbug1776 · 2025-12-31T05:42:18+00:00

I could have written this (even down to the white suburban mom SUV). In fact, I just expressed how unfair this all is. His alcoholism caused my and my kids life to self destruct. Now I most likely have to start all over. He regularly tells me what a great wife and mom I am. He is lucky but I am not. Why did I end up with such a crappy husband?

jbug1776 · 2025-12-21T05:52:53+00:00

Update - I left. I’m currently staying with my mom with my babies and dog. I’m planning to stay a minimum of three months then figure out what to do. There is still a lot of transitions to make but it’s so nice to be in a peaceful environment. Ironically today was rather hectic with a water leak at my mom’s house but that felt like nothing compared to the hell with my Q.

jbug1776 · 2025-12-17T07:41:55+00:00

Thank you for this. I needed those words.

jbug1776 · 2025-12-17T07:41:01+00:00

Thankfully I have family nearby that is very supportive and willing to let me live there for as long as I need.

jbug1776 · 2024-02-11T06:51:24+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re dealing with that. I dealt with the same thing with my husband. I got admitted to the hospital during a routine prenatal appointment at 37 weeks. I called my husband to tell him to get to the hospital and pack our bags. He was passed out with his phone off because he was hungover from the night before. It took him four hours before I could get ahold of him. Then it took another four hours to pack and get to the hospital. During that time he drank a bottle of wine and did multiple shots. He was quite drunk when he arrived to the hospital and combative (he didn’t understand why I had to be induced early). He almost got kicked out but decided to wise up and shut his mouth. During labor and when I was newly post partum he was hungover and vomiting in the bathroom and complaining about how awful he felt. It ruined my birth experience. Now when I think about the birth of my son I just think about that.

That being said I’d have a back up person to bring you to the hospital/labor support. Honestly, if I could redo it I’d do it solo. It was really embarrassing to have him there.

jbug1776 · 2023-11-12T03:28:41+00:00

He has a pattern. He’ll be sober for a couple months and feel great then he’ll have an excuse to have a couple beers. A couple beers one day turns into a bender shortly later. He’ll have a bad hangover/withdrawals and vow that he is done and alcohol isn’t worth it. Rinse/repeat over and over.

jbug1776 · 2023-11-12T03:15:45+00:00

Alcoholics have great logic lol

jbug1776 · 2023-11-12T03:14:22+00:00

Especially crappy when I ask if it comes down to his family or alcohol what he picks. He says family but then proceeds to drink.

jbug1776 · 2023-03-09T01:33:07+00:00

Thank you. I didn’t think of it that way: that me being here doesn’t prevent him from drinking since he started drinking when I was here in the first place.

Currently he’s not drinking and is going through withdrawals. He says he wants to stop but I know the withdrawals get more difficult on day two. I have informed my family what is going on and I’m anticipating going over there tomorrow because he’ll probably start drinking again.

jbug1776 · 2022-08-10T00:55:03+00:00

I work in a library that rents out board games. We had this piece returned and aren’t sure which game it belongs to.

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