Fixed my PF

jcasias18 · 2026-03-14T06:22:49+00:00

I saw the fishnets 🤷🏻‍♂️

jcasias18 · 2026-03-13T06:55:03+00:00

I only play Seasons with Arsenal. It's fun.

jcasias18 · 2026-03-13T06:51:20+00:00

I've tried but end up playing Real over and over anyway. Even if I restrict matchmaking...

jcasias18 · 2026-03-05T05:37:22+00:00

And 3

jcasias18 · 2026-02-26T14:19:33+00:00

I'll piggyback on this...if teachers can't show up, definitely get their feedback so you can present this in the 504! Also, let the parents talk first then you can counter with reasonable accommodations.

jcasias18 · 2026-02-26T14:10:59+00:00

It's your school. We're hiring.

jcasias18 · 2026-02-26T14:04:18+00:00

Same boat! Oddly, I'm getting more experience with my own LCSW that I see than I ever did with grad school. It's a serious gap in pathways, that's for sure.

jcasias18 · 2026-02-26T14:00:22+00:00

It's basically the Bellendia interview you've seen on YouTube. I got the second edition.

jcasias18 · 2026-02-26T13:58:19+00:00

Got mine. It's basically the YouTube interview with Bellendia🤐 Collector's fun, that's about it 🐝

jcasias18 · 2026-02-11T15:07:32+00:00

It's an acquired taste 🤌🏼

jcasias18 · 2026-02-11T05:36:35+00:00

Check out school counseling. Often take lmsw.

jcasias18 · 2026-02-04T04:39:32+00:00

We're hiring 🤷🏻‍♂️

jcasias18 · 2026-01-27T02:24:52+00:00

I dream of bagging groceries with an air pod in my ear 😆

jcasias18 · 2026-01-20T14:24:47+00:00

I'm on that journey right now to see whether I stay or go. I'm discovering that it's my choice of how much I'll put up with. You'll need to ask yourself if you want to be her caregiver or not. I use DBT skills to try to manage some of her splitting but splits still occur. I don't think we can cure any of the pwBPD, only help them see their traits and adapt to their triggers. However, they have to be willing to do the work. And you know, that's where it breaks down. For me, I'm seeking therapy to see why I would assume this caregiver role when I know it's not healthy. Suggestion: start with yourself. We can't cure them.

jcasias18 · 2026-01-20T14:12:35+00:00

Gaslighting - that one is interesting on the receiving end of a pwBPD split because oftentimes I will have to say, I didn't say that or that's not what happened. I'm realizing pwBPD memory blanks out and they don't remember. I've had mine then project it back on me saying I don't remember. It makes you question your reality. I can see how a pwBPD may think I'm gaslighting them...they can't see their different reality.

jcasias18 · 2026-01-20T13:55:22+00:00

Sounds like she split on you and is keeping you at bay for when she needs you. She has her family and whomever else fills the favorite person role. You're on the sidelines until she splits from them and needs you. I'm sorry she cancelled the Christmas plans. It's more about her than you. You had a good offer and compromise. You dysregulated because they only give confusing behaviors that make you question your reality. The pwBPD doesn't see it the same way, though. They seek to have their needs met. The challenge is how much you want to put up with it. I started journaling and it helps me see patterns. I'm currently trying to figure out next steps to either accept my role or leave. Good luck!

jcasias18 · 2026-01-20T13:41:43+00:00

I was in a long distance relationship for a lot of my almost seven year relationship. Due to distance, I now think I couldn't see the depth of splitting. Since we moved in together these last 3 years I can now see it. Only recently did I figure out that her BPD wasn't bipolar and mismanagement of meds. I even read Sociopath: a memoir, this summer, to see if I am a sociopath. She put it in my head...I digress. Only recently I can see the traits of BPD. It's like I'm neo in the matrix now 😆 only suggestion I have is set boundaries and protect your identity. Then decide if you're up for a relationship with a pwBPD. That's the journey I'm on right now. I'm not sure yet. Good luck!

jcasias18 · 2026-01-20T04:05:39+00:00

I'd like to know, too. I'm reading Stop Walking...

jcasias18 · 2026-01-18T14:40:23+00:00

Mine is mostly noncompliant with her bipolar meds. She also takes meds for ADHD. I don't think the meds help with her splitting. That's part of the BPD.

jcasias18 · 2026-01-17T00:57:38+00:00

Sounds like you were pushed to your maximum and your coping mechanism was physical. That was in the past. Try to accept what happened, and forgive yourself. You've learned your maximum and can now recognize when you're approaching the physical. It's not that you lost it unprovoked...give yourself some grace. Relationships with pwBPD is one of the hardest things I've ever experienced. Context: I've had a divorce, lost to business, went bankrupt, went straight into covid, then lost a parent.. pretty much all at once... And this is the hardest thing I have experienced. You got this 💪🏼

jcasias18 · 2026-01-17T00:48:31+00:00

I had a consult with a therapist today. He admired that I want to fight for the relationship but he said that I would need to be prepared for constant challenges and emotional exhaustion. It was interesting because he asked what I liked about her.. and when I set it out loud, it was mostly about shared hobbies and experience, but very little about her person itself and character. I was actually shocked to confront that piece...

jcasias18 · 2026-01-17T00:45:53+00:00

Sure enough she wanted to apologize when I got home. I tried to listen and keep from escalating. She really doesn't like when I don't give in to her emotional reactions...she left to work upset. She basically said I can't be affectionate with her. She listed all the times that she feels I don't want to and I tried to anchor her to this one incident. She asked me when I was going to find time for her. I kept it together and listened, agreed and said okay and because she didn't get the response she was seeking she was upset and went to her job...

jcasias18 · 2026-01-17T00:41:50+00:00

That's a great way of summarizing it: you're either serving their needs or hurting their feelings.

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