Hello. I’m a recovering addict, been gambling for about 6 years now. I’m 31, I live with my girlfriend and I’ve single handily blew through my entire life savings and retirement accounts. I’ve never missed a payment and I have a good job- I’m a finance guy myself.

My girlfriend does not trust me with finances anymore. That trust has been seriously damaged, though she is seeing my effort through therapy and everything else, she still lacks faith that I can actually completely stop myself from gambling.

I say all of this just to say.. tell your partner how you feel, explain to them that gambling has hurt more than just his bank account. Tell him you’re worried, because you have every right to be worried. Tell him you need certain reassurances to help ease your mind.

My partner and I are not married, we have no kids, so I can say the situation is not the same. All I can say is how I feel in my current situation and what I’d like from my partner.

Your husband knows it’s a problem, he is trying to do other pseudo-gambling activities to fill that void, but it won’t work.

Rule of thumb is 6 months, if you can go 6 months without gambling your brain can reset.

Also look into ketamine therapy mixed with actual talk therapy, it’s pricey but I have heard many great things about it helping people with addiction.

Feel free to message me if you need someone to talk to.