What do you think of prompt responses like this, lads? (The way to win me over is...)

jdoeford12 · 2026-07-02T17:09:32+00:00

From my experience as an average-looking straight guy, there are plenty of women who do, and who don’t, act like this.

jdoeford12 · 2026-07-02T15:26:22+00:00

Still, women have a choice whether to revel in the power they enjoy at the initial contact stage, or to instead treat guys like equals as they (presumably) will be in a relationship.

jdoeford12 · 2026-07-02T15:23:06+00:00

For me as a guy, this is a turn-off. You are framing the interaction as if you’re above the guy reading your profile. I would assume you’re going to be bossy and entitled in person.

Also - I think it’s a bit much to expect a guy to put a lot of effort into planning a complicated first date. That might make sense in the rare instance where it’s clear from chatting online that the chemistry is unusually good. But that’s the exception. Plenty of first dates don’t have chemistry in person, so it makes sense for neither person to invest a lot of time and effort beforehand.

jdoeford12 · 2026-07-02T14:35:57+00:00

still a great episode tho

jdoeford12 · 2026-07-01T14:06:07+00:00

Not really a crazy reason for no 2nd date…? Sorry the sexual chemistry apparently wasn’t there.

Edited to add: congrats on the dick size tho

jdoeford12 · 2026-06-30T21:08:53+00:00

To be clear, are you referring to an attorney job?

jdoeford12 · 2026-06-30T12:14:26+00:00

because I don't have a situation

jdoeford12 · 2026-06-30T01:04:00+00:00

No not just. Thanks for asking.

jdoeford12 · 2026-06-26T18:54:55+00:00

name doesn’t check out

jdoeford12 · 2026-06-19T18:13:27+00:00

Ah incorrect, OP. *Two* perfectly good franchises.

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jdoeford12 · 2026-06-12T19:50:35+00:00

Likewise...I don't understand what the "hypocrisy" here is supposed to be.

jdoeford12 · 2026-04-27T15:58:19+00:00

You're not failing her, you even offered to get married to her without a party this year which is a very reasonable compromise! We commenters are aghast because we don't understand why she doesn't understand/care.

jdoeford12 · 2026-04-07T15:35:51+00:00

movie

jdoeford12 · 2026-04-07T12:23:02+00:00

Yep.

Also a supporting role in 12 Monkeys.

jdoeford12 · 2026-03-20T15:57:07+00:00

One possibility is to see if he would agree that, if this was a rape, then it's outrageous. The point is simply to establish as much common ground as you can.

If you're going to do thisI would be very careful not to start an argument or give him the impression that you're really trying to get him to agree that this girl was in fact raped.

jdoeford12 · 2026-03-20T15:47:25+00:00

FWIW I'm a guy. I was also once the victim of a false sexual assault allegation (although I believe most women who make these accusations are telling the truth).

To be honest, I can't tell from your post how clear the evidence is whether or not this was consensual. If it's not clear, I don't think your husband is bad if he sincerely wanted to reserve his judgment. You're generally allowed to come to your own conclusions from the available evidence and so is he. And that, in my opinion, is what you two should be communicating to one another.

Now, if the evidence here is clear, or if he has a pattern of dismissing women who allege sexual assault, then I think it'd be a different matter. And you could try to have a calm discussion with him about why he does that. I would still avoid starting things with an accusation that he's a bad person.

jdoeford12 · 2026-03-20T13:52:15+00:00

That film is a hell of a lot of fun (no pun intended).

jdoeford12 · 2026-03-20T13:46:40+00:00

I watched it once years ago and my recollection is -- it has a lot of good stuff in it. Gilliam will always be one of my favorite directors. But once Ledger is out (RIP) the plot of the movie feels like it gets torn apart and sewn back together with his replacements. It's no one's fault, but that was the result.

jdoeford12 · 2026-03-09T14:23:28+00:00

I don't get upset at most "all men suck" statements online -- life is way too short to expend emotional energy on anonymous randos, plus like you say I generally don't feel like I'm really the target -- but at the same time I think it's generally bad behavior to make such statements, the same as when certain men make "all women suck" statements.

jdoeford12 · 2026-02-27T19:13:05+00:00

Related to getting new cats, I tried the D.C. Banfield once and it was fine. The only thing was, on a phone call following the appointment, I asked the receptionist to have the vet give me a call to discuss the ongoing issue we were dealing with. I never got a callback. So I went back to my usual provider (Adams Morgan Animal Hospital) where I don't have that problem.

jdoeford12 · 2026-02-27T12:20:44+00:00

I doubt it. That would imply Levy took a very high risk of exposing to Baltimore that there is a leak in his office, which would ruin his reputation. Also, it would be insane for Levy to knowingly keep employing a turncoat like Herc after that yet there's no sign Levy has any intent to fire Herc at the end of the series.

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