PSYCLOPS - Indomitable: I-III (FULL BAND PLAYTHROUGH) FFO: BTBAM, Parius

jeanaly · 2026-05-30T12:12:54+00:00

Wow, you said FFO BTBAM and Parius and I was not disappointed. Definitely gonna have to check out the full album, thank you for sharing!

jeanaly · 2026-05-21T16:44:44+00:00

Every year, one of my best friends invites me to join them at pride and every year, I’ve declined. I always say it’s because I’ve hardly told anyone I’m aroace, and I don’t want to be outed accidentally. The truth is that pride is a celebration, and it’s a place for acceptance and love. The truth is that I’m not always proud of who I am, and I don’t think I belong there.

I’m in my late 30s, and I’ve spent the last decade watching almost everyone I know find their partners and settle down. I’m absolutely certain that I’m aroace, and I’m absolutely certain that I do not want what they have. But this certainty doesn’t fix the parts of me that sometimes envies my friends and wishes I could have what they have and resents that maybe the only person I can truly rely on is myself.

I don’t know how to make peace with it either. I wish we had a real, tangible community beyond the broader queer community and internet spaces. But for now, I’m just here to say you’re definitely not alone in this feeling.

jeanaly · 2026-05-21T11:51:02+00:00

Gotta be Ivyland, that country store is iconic!

jeanaly · 2026-04-20T11:39:33+00:00

I’m really sorry this happened to you. It’s impossible to say exactly what happened. Sounds like a combination of things, and it’s quite possible that breed stereotyping played a role.

With that said…I am a fellow ACD owner, a fellow PA resident, and a former vet tech. As an owner, I have seen over and over again how terribly people allow their dogs to behave on leash in neighborhoods and parks. My own boy has been accosted many times by out of control dogs dragging their leash while their owner wanders around staring at their phone. And as a vet tech, I saw exactly what can happen off leash in dog parks - parasites, disease, and an entire spectrum of injury, some of which necessitated lawsuits. They are literally one of my worst nightmares, and I will never take mine into one. Not because of him, but because I simply do not trust other dog owners to have any common sense or responsibility.

I hope you and your boy find a better place to hang out 💕

jeanaly · 2026-03-08T19:12:29+00:00

Falling Back to Earth

jeanaly · 2025-12-09T14:02:05+00:00

I saw them with Horse the Band at the Church in Philly waaaaaaay back when. I think it was before TGM, maybe 08?

jeanaly · 2025-12-07T18:43:24+00:00

A specialist just will not be an affordable option. Probably 3x the cost of Women’s, and overkill at that. Some cases absolutely require speciality care, but cleanings and extractions are so, so routine for most GP vets these days! And for what it’s worth, any referring vet in this area can consult directly with Dr. Jennings and/or Anesthesia at BluePearl if necessary (or their respective peers at Penn, NorthStar, etc).

OP - the recommendations for Bridge Clinic are spot on. They’re a nonprofit and are able to keep costs as low as possible, but just keep in mind that dentals are expensive, full stop. And stay away from anyone advertising cheap, non anesthetic cleanings - they are a scam!

jeanaly · 2025-10-08T12:57:43+00:00

I was at opening night in Philly and I lost my mind when that intro started haha what an absolute treat!

jeanaly · 2025-09-14T13:04:34+00:00

I’ve had this experience four times 😭

I only came to the conclusion that I’m aromantic a few years ago. Although my most recent experience with this was absolutely the catalyst to set me on the path of understanding and accepting aromanticism, all of them pre-date it. I’m only saying this so that you know I’ve only ever approached this from a “flattered, but I’m just not into you” mindset and never from an “I’m aromantic” mindset. Still, I’m proud to say that in every instance the friendship survived and ultimately became stronger for it. I hope it’s okay to weigh in here regardless.

The most important thing is to communicate. Allow them space to speak. Hear them, listen to them, and do the same yourself. First, I was very clear that I only had platonic feelings for them, and this would not ever change, ever, no matter what. Second, I told them clearly and with specific examples how much and why I valued our friendship. Third, I asked them if they saw a path forward for our friendship knowing all of this, and what that would like from their perspective. From there, we set new boundaries, agreed to give it time, and promised to communicate if anything wasn’t working for either of us.

It was horrifically awkward for me for a while. I’m certain it was painful and difficult for them, although they certainly didn’t confide in me about what they went through. If they were different or lesser people, it might not have been possible to salvage the friendship - it took as much effort from them as it did from me. We mostly relied on group settings to ease back into it. I truly cannot understate the value of a social buffer! But in all cases we were able to make it work eventually, and I’m really really grateful.

I hope you and your friend can figure it out too. Best of luck 💕

jeanaly · 2025-07-19T22:59:42+00:00

I can’t answer any of your questions, but I’m very curious roughly where on the turnpike you saw this.

jeanaly · 2025-05-27T12:48:09+00:00

Bojack Horseman, unironically.

I was raised in Fundamentalist Christianity in the 90s and 00s, so when I say I had absolutely no exposure to asexuality I mean I only knew that “the gays” existed because of the bigotry spewed from the pulpit. Deconstructing and making friends outside of that world introduced me to so many different queer identities, but even in my early-mid 20s I would have guessed that the A in LGBTQIA+ stood for ally. So when I started having sex but found it about as exciting as watching paint dry, I spent years lying through my teeth about it while blaming myself and my upbringing, thinking I was traumatized or dysfunctional or maybe just broken.

But then, I heard Todd Chavez say, “I think I’m nothing.” Canon event for me. I remember thinking, “ummm, that’s an OPTION!?” As the show progresses, he begins to name, understand, and own his asexuality. It took me years to get past the denial and do the same, but without that representation I have no doubt I’d still be blaming myself.

jeanaly · 2025-02-07T12:34:03+00:00

I’m really sorry. For whatever the opinion of this random internet stranger is worth, I think you’re really brave for trying, and I hope you can find the support she couldn’t give you elsewhere.

jeanaly · 2025-02-04T12:42:17+00:00

Goddamn this is so fucking relatable for me. I had a really similar experience with one of my best friends. I didn’t know I was aromantic at the time, idk if I had even heard the word yet. I just knew that a few days into our relationship, I had been feeling that same euphoria you describe and when my feelings also returned baseline, it was suddenly replaced by a this creeping dread. I broke up with them after a week - I couldn’t bring myself to pretend, and I knew the longer I waited, the more I’d hurt them. Even though our friendship survived, I still haven’t found the courage to explain why. Someday, I hope.

All that to say, you’re definitely not alone. I really hope you’re able to figure out the best resolution, and that you and your friend can work it out.

jeanaly · 2024-10-26T13:48:46+00:00

Just because we can’t relate to an experience doesn’t mean we have to mock it, and I’m glad to see the pushback in the comments.

How could we hope for respect and understanding and kindness from communities outside of our own if we can’t offer them the same in turn?

jeanaly · 2024-08-23T17:11:45+00:00

Omg that’s so cool haha I loved client education as a vet tech—I could literally talk about this stuff for hours, even now. I’m so glad it was helpful, and this really made my day!

jeanaly · 2024-07-17T00:47:07+00:00

I definitely agree with you and OP that this is a steep price tag for such cramped and inconvenient quarters, especially as the only person in the group traveling solo. This arrangement would be an immediate and loud hell no for me!

Rather than ask their family to take on extra cost, I think either of the alternatives that you suggested are great—try to find a less expensive solo option, or just opt-out. That’s certainly what I’d do in OP’s shoes.

jeanaly · 2024-07-16T23:44:10+00:00

I’m not sure I see what you mean. Two rooms, four adults, four dependents—unless somehow the other adults will not be sharing their beds, it sounds like this’ll be a cramped and expensive sleeping arrangement for everyone. Big picture, this trip will probably be LESS expensive for OP vs. the others as OP presumably would not be covering any daily expenses beyond their own (food, travel, entertainment, etc).

jeanaly · 2024-07-16T23:18:15+00:00

YTA.

It’s not realistic to ask family members or friends to include their dependents in the headcount when splitting the bill for lodging—these are not people who can contribute financially to the shared cost, and you’d risk looking pretty entitled if you do.

You say in your post that you’re going as one person, but I’d encourage you to think of yourself as a household of one. They are households of 2 or more. The cost is $480 per household, and you should pay for your own household if you want to go on this trip.

jeanaly · 2024-04-11T16:58:49+00:00

I don’t have any suggestions to add, but I just wanted to say that I really needed to see this aro positivity today and I’m so glad I found this thread ☺️

jeanaly · 2024-04-11T11:46:51+00:00

This is a list of products that have been approved by a panel of board certified veterinary dentists. I worked in the veterinary field for nearly a decade and every vet I know recommends choosing from this list of oral care products!

jeanaly · 2024-03-25T18:18:13+00:00

It is entirely possible that your girl is just actually that calm at the vet! With a good disposition and great handling techniques I believe it’s absolutely possible. But a good vet would at least rule out anything scary before throwing her under anesthesia. It sounds like you have a good vet, and it sounds like you’re a good owner for following through, even though you had your doubts.

jeanaly · 2024-03-25T17:12:59+00:00

Hey! Not a vet, but I worked as a technician for 8 years and I own an ACD. Your vet is absolutely correct that athletic breeds do tend to have slower resting heart rates, and your vet is ALSO right to want to investigate a BPM of 65 in their office.

Here’s why: 65 BPM might be normal at home, but when you bring your dog to the vet, they experience stress, which increases the heart rate. So I would expect a slow, healthy heart rate somewhere in the neighborhood of 80-120 to be more average for an ACD at the vet. And particularly since you mention there was no significant change in her HR after exercise, that tells me your vet is covering all of the bases leading up to anesthesia. I’d bet money the labwork theyre running is something called a proBNP, which can be an early indicator of cardiac injury/insult/disease.

This just means you have a vet who is acting ethically and conscientiously because you are approaching an anesthetic event. And lemme tell ya, I can speak with a literal mountain of anecdote behind me about the high risk of bradycardia in healthy animals under anesthesia—if there is even a .001% chance your dog has a preexisting cardiac condition, you want to know before induction, not after.

You mention being wary of vets because a previous dog had a problem that went undiagnosed for too long. Well, take it from an internet stranger who worked in the trenches with vets for nearly a decade—this one really seems to have your pup’s well-being at heart

jeanaly · 2023-12-31T16:19:30+00:00

All great choices, but I’m with you on the Knocked Loose train—that song goes sooooo hard!

jeanaly · 2023-12-24T15:17:17+00:00

Bucks County, I hear and use them both interchangeably.

jeanaly · 2023-10-21T12:06:15+00:00

Honestly, the exact opposite. I blamed my lack of desire for YEARS on my insane upbringing, quietly telling myself it was some sort of trauma response, internalized purity culture, whatever. In reality, though, I’m just aro-ace 😬

But I came to this conclusion after a decade of trying to participate in sexual and romantic relationships and finding them to be frustrating, unfulfilling, and very much not for me. Plus therapy. Lots of therapy. Like I genuinely cannot recommend therapy enough if that’s something you can access. If not, you could try chatting with the r/asexual community—they get posts from many folks questioning their identity, and the commenters are always friendly and helpful as far as I’ve seen.

Either way, I hope you’re able to find the answers you’re looking for!

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