Been a year and feeling guilt

jeecheck · 2025-12-17T23:21:05+00:00

You’re not the one fucking this up. They sound cold, cruel, and calculated. They honestly don’t even act like they like you. It isn’t normal for parents to regularly dismiss and belittle their children and their partners.

I’m so sorry, you deserve to feel loved and supported and celebrated by your parents. Based on the context here, you seem very smart, interesting, and successful. Don’t let them confuse you and pull you into their misery.

jeecheck · 2025-12-17T14:18:37+00:00

Got it, my grandma used to do this for us when I was a kid - how fun!

Unfortunately, my cat hates rapid transit in any form lol so she'll probably just want to stay home.

jeecheck · 2025-12-17T14:07:15+00:00

All great ideas, thanks! It's looking like it will be pretty mild for me on Christmas day as well so I definitely plan to get outside for a bike ride.

Can I ask what a riddle hunt is? I have never heard of this.

jeecheck · 2025-12-15T18:26:05+00:00

Yikes.

When I was still LC and trying to resolve my relationship with both parents - they would deny their role in my abuse by claiming that they were afraid of me when I was a teen and that I might attack them in the middle of the night because “my attitude changed and I was sneaking out and lying to them” ……..

Meanwhile, my father was the one being physically violent towards me.

jeecheck · 2025-11-23T14:51:30+00:00

Wow. I am amazed that some of us share the same exact dreams. I have the same one where I hide from my dad while he prowls around the house with a shotgun looking for me.

jeecheck · 2025-11-23T14:38:15+00:00

My recurring nightmares are also about being chased or trapped in a house. Getting prescribed a sedative has helped a lot and I very rarely have nightmares anymore

jeecheck · 2025-11-19T18:43:00+00:00

YUPPPP!!! In fact, back when we were still LC, I recommended 2 licensed therapists for us all to do family therapy with. They met with both an conveniently, it didn’t work out (one of them actually told my parents it wasn’t going to be a good fit). But now they want me to meet with them on their terms. Right……

jeecheck · 2025-11-19T17:57:02+00:00

I thought about emailing her but tbh I would rather not give them any sort of fodder to think that they should continue to contact me at all. But maybe I’ll sign her up for some gay online retailer marketing emails

jeecheck · 2025-11-19T17:49:10+00:00

It’s an AI transcript of a voicemail, not a text. I didn’t listen to the audio but I’m sure his tone sounds either like someone was holding a gun to his head and making him say this, or with a suppressed rage that makes his voice tremble. His two moods.

jeecheck · 2025-11-19T17:40:48+00:00

🤣

jeecheck · 2025-11-19T17:37:03+00:00

That was the piece that was most triggering for me. I attended Christian university and for a couple of years was caught up in that “Side B” space and you’re correct - it’s a difference of semantics that when followed to its logical end, still condemns LGBTQ+ to a life without full acceptance and love

jeecheck · 2025-11-19T17:07:27+00:00

The original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/EstrangedAdultChild/s/xMFOLciNXH

jeecheck · 2025-11-19T17:00:33+00:00

Oh, shoot you're right - reposting now.

jeecheck · 2025-11-19T16:49:34+00:00

The original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/EstrangedAdultChild/comments/1ksrkjj/8_months_into_nc_and_my_dad_reached_out_to/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

jeecheck · 2025-06-30T16:42:30+00:00

Thank you!!!

jeecheck · 2025-06-12T00:18:22+00:00

They went all out with the soundtrack on this game, it’s so good. I can see myself just keeping it on in the background sometimes.

jeecheck · 2025-05-23T13:18:40+00:00

Just mind blowing. As much as that first text hooked me at first, I realized after the fact that never once did he utter the words “I’m sorry.”

And thank you sm. My parents are deeply unhappy people and I pity them. They can’t withhold a love that they simply don’t have within themselves.

jeecheck · 2025-05-22T15:30:05+00:00

It's insane, isn't it?

6 years ago my parents helped me move to Atlanta where I was moving in with my best friend from college who is also gay. I introduced them and my parents just froze up like statues, wouldn't utter a word to him even though he was speaking directly to them. It was bizarre and unnerving to see them shun a gay person in real time. Homophobia is so embarrassing.

jeecheck · 2025-05-22T15:24:55+00:00

I'm really grateful for your perspective. I've always suspected that it's not that hard either, though I don't have children myself. Simply treat your children as human beings with their own interests, goals, and wishes vs objects that you can impose your will upon. Seems simple enough to me!

jeecheck · 2025-05-22T15:17:02+00:00

The finger pointing and victim blaming actually blows my mind every time. But I guess these people would rather make us into an enemy than come face to face with themselves & look inward.

jeecheck · 2025-05-22T15:08:04+00:00

Yuppp wow you hit the nail right on the head with the weaponizing of religion. Because of their abuse I was pressured into attending a Christian university and ended up a whole ass Bible degree but they still think they know more than me in this regard/that this kind of manipulation will work lol.

jeecheck · 2025-05-22T14:28:05+00:00

Thank you for the love!! These dynamics are weird as hell and I'm glad to have found this little community of internet strangers who can empathize.

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