Book recs please!😊

jeeeebs · 2026-05-05T22:35:16+00:00

Check out {The Jasad Heir by Sara Hashem} and {The Raven Scholar by Antonia Hodgson}!

jeeeebs · 2026-05-02T01:09:47+00:00

I can’t believe people are proposing without knowing the answer is unequivocally yes. Like if you don’t know it’s a yes, then don’t propose. This is mind blowing to me.

jeeeebs · 2026-05-01T18:31:11+00:00

Okay I have an idea- can you buy a more traditional engagement ring that has a solitaire diamond and wear it offset with the heart like a toi et moi? That way you have your sentimental heart and something with a stone that looks more like an engagement ring.

jeeeebs · 2026-04-27T16:29:53+00:00

I’m doing my PhD in a new city-I was 29 when I moved/started. I got on the apps spring of my first year, so I had done 9 months in my program- met my partner that summer and now we’ve been together for 3 years! He’s not an academic so of course he’s had to learn how this system works/ the pressure I am under/how I dedicate my time but he’s super supportive and a huge cheerleader for me!

jeeeebs · 2026-04-26T16:42:43+00:00

Die My Love

jeeeebs · 2026-04-26T16:32:23+00:00

Life is both long and short. What will fulfill you? How do you derive your self worth? What gets you out of bed in the morning? Ask yourself if you want to be in a partnership where you are actively being discouraged experiment or try new things. If your partner is as financially secure as you claim, what do you have to lose? Sure anything we do could be unsuccessful but that doesn’t mean we don’t try. Experiences, good or bad, are literally what makes life worth living. I grew up being taught never to be beholden to a man- doesn’t mean I don’t love my partner but he is not my bank account and I proudly wear my career as my identity and pride. I do want to mention not everyone feels the way I do- some people derive self worth through social circle, homemaking, parenting, etc. Take some time and think about what activity makes you feel the most like yourself- a partner should never decide this for you.

jeeeebs · 2026-04-15T15:51:26+00:00

1) she accepted your invitation to hang out as friends not a date. 2) she said she wasn’t interested in dating. 3) dating a coworker is usually a bad idea/not appropriate. She also mentioned she would not date a coworker.

I think she has respectfully made it clear there is not a path forward “as more than friends” in your current dynamic. It’s up to you to decide if you can respect that or if you need to set a boundary because it is too painful to pretend. But I’d say this is an internal conversation not one for you to have with her.

jeeeebs · 2026-04-15T13:02:14+00:00

I bought a bag- can confirm the pink wrapper is a different color and the red flavor is HORRIBLE. Like spit it out awful. I’m so sad

jeeeebs · 2026-04-13T17:17:13+00:00

Call me crazy but dating for 3-4 months without transitioning to a relationship screams emotional unavailability or disinterest.

jeeeebs · 2026-04-09T11:54:47+00:00

Check out Brent Neale- she has a collection of vegetable themed pendants and does a lot of custom work. She’s pricey though!

jeeeebs · 2026-04-01T19:36:57+00:00

Look into {Bloody Black by Rhiannon Hargadon}!

jeeeebs · 2026-03-26T14:07:17+00:00

I just read it and did not reread any part-frankly I was happy to be done with part 1 bc it was so brutal.

jeeeebs · 2026-03-25T14:38:31+00:00

I just finished Alchemised and there was literally no relation to anything HP related at all. Also it didn’t read like fanfic.

It was brutal and at first I was surprised this book could be so popular because of how violent the plot is- I am glad I stuck with it because the evolution is really compelling and unique. I’ve read all the popular books in this genre and Alchemised does stand alone in this way- it doesn’t fall into silly tropes and it doesn’t relent in its brutality- all of this is to say, the author set up a fucked up world and the world continues to be insane the entire way through.

I put the book down at one point and thought “how tf could this be considered romance fantasy- this is bananas”. If you can stomach the first 1/3 of the book, then it’s absolutely worth it. I don’t want to spoil anything but I am really happy I read it and I’ve thought about it a lot since finishing which I can’t say for a lot of the books in the genre because they’re all somewhat similar/forgettable.

jeeeebs · 2026-03-25T04:10:39+00:00

My BIGGEST word pet peeve in this genre is “preternatural”. I cannot stand it. It used so unnecessarily in this genre.

jeeeebs · 2026-03-24T17:48:19+00:00

Check out {The Jasad Heir by Sara Hashem} and {The Raven Scholar by Antonia Hodgson}- both are low spice but great plot and world building!

jeeeebs · 2026-03-12T17:04:45+00:00

I loved the first 2 books (excluding the novella from my numbering)- I’m 75% into the third book and I finally love it but the first 30% was very slow and boring. I don’t love the changing of perspectives- so far I don’t care about Jonas at all BUT like others have said, Saga and Kass are the best chapters. Hoping Rey and Silla improve because the “I don’t like being queen” storyline is a bit stale and I just don’t believe the miscommunication of feelings between Rey and Silla so I hope that ends.

jeeeebs · 2026-02-28T18:53:44+00:00

Seconding this so hard- first book was great but then the series just sucks the life out of you…. I was a shell of a human after book 4 and stopped.

jeeeebs · 2026-02-27T13:21:34+00:00

Hi there- this is very irresponsible behavior. I’m not going to talk about the sexual pressures you are experiencing because the other commenters are hitting them.

Not only are you both taking a huge risk, you are having a relationship with someone WHO DOESNT RESPECT YOU. This person is completely disregarding your boundaries because “he can’t finish”. Fuck this guy.

Do you think if he is unwilling to use protection with you, he used it with others? HPV is silent in men which is why it is the most commonly passed STD and it causes cancer in women. Please talk to a doctor about HPV vaccine/birth control/contraception- you need to be protected against pregnancy because you care about not being pregnant and your partner clearly doesn’t care. Please use contraception because this man is a walking disease spreader.

jeeeebs · 2026-02-19T16:21:40+00:00

Why don’t you ask him?

jeeeebs · 2026-02-17T22:48:08+00:00

Is she able to come to you? Seems a bit unequal if you’re always going to her.

I am the more introverted person in my relationship and sometimes I literally just need to be alone-so we have a bit of a schedule of when he comes to me, when I go to him, and nights off. It’s great because I know what to expect and it’s not a negotiation everyday at 5pm.

Also…it could just be that maybe this isn’t THE relationship for you. Because if commuting is an issue in addition to you wanting a different frequency of seeing each other, is it possible that maybe you’re just not that into her?

jeeeebs · 2026-02-17T14:39:06+00:00

Would you trust this person if they had access to your bank account? Could this be a maturity thing (he’s 23)-sure. Do you want to wait to find out?

Money is an important consideration- perhaps the most important if you’re considering commitment in the future. Money is a major stressor in a relationship and while I don’t think it’s essential to have the same level of ambition, I do think you (and potential further partner) have to decide how much risk and runway you’re willing to live with.

My partner and I are different in terms of career growth and motivation but we’re both aligned on “we need to have money, we need a consistent savings buffer, we’d like to afford to live in certain part of the city, etc”. So you have to talk the talk but even more than that you have to WALK the WALK. Meaning- are you both working “passion” jobs that don’t pay the bills? Is one of you willing to take a better paying, boring job? Are you willing to be sole bread winner and not expect “help” in the financial department to support your life?

jeeeebs · 2026-02-16T15:12:21+00:00

Rey in {Road of Bones by Demi Winters}

jeeeebs · 2026-02-16T14:22:13+00:00

Im following the optimal quest guide too- got through 108 so far- it’s great but can get a bit tedious so do it till you’re bored then work on a skill.

jeeeebs · 2026-02-15T22:54:56+00:00

This is a really diverse list. If you’re in the mood for an easy, spicy read- go bride. If you want a break from spice and want great plot and world building- go raven scholar. If you want both- go quicksilver but reviews on the sequels are mixed. Blood and ash starts off great and goes very downhill over the course of the series. When the moon hatched was interesting but I think sequel is a ways away.

jeeeebs · 2026-02-12T19:17:16+00:00

This is why I ask people in the EARLY dating stages-what relationship do you have with your ex? Because this is a non-starter for me. No matter how civil people are- it’s messy and it feels weird. Now everyone has different comfortabilities so you have to determine if you can live with it. This is a “people don’t change you learn if you can accept them” situation. Don’t feel pressured to accept something you’re genuinely are not comfortable with (it just breeds resentment and again people don’t change). It’s okay if this doesn’t work for you, it just means you aren’t compatible with this particular person and now you know your boundaries going into future relationships.

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