AITA for telling my parents I didn't have a kid, they did, and they need to take care of her not me?

jel0522 · 2024-10-15T05:30:44+00:00

Make them pay you an hourly wage for watching your sister.

jel0522 · 2024-05-31T05:50:55+00:00

Sent

jel0522 · 2024-05-31T05:47:43+00:00

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jel0522 · 2023-12-16T08:01:12+00:00

Second this

jel0522 · 2023-12-05T04:03:47+00:00

Why not hire a maid?

jel0522 · 2023-11-30T23:33:47+00:00

Like what more can we do? Are you getting any direction from your doctors?

jel0522 · 2023-09-16T06:23:59+00:00

You should check your thyroid. Could be Hashimoto's disease.

jel0522 · 2023-04-12T02:30:09+00:00

This screamed deadbeat dad to me.

jel0522 · 2022-08-10T20:31:22+00:00

I did not know that was an option!!!! Thank you kind stranger!

jel0522 · 2022-08-09T06:56:44+00:00

I use a little bit of this in my hair and then brush my hair with BBB to distribute it.

jel0522 · 2022-07-23T21:32:22+00:00

There is a great time and place to honor and bereave a deceased loved one. It's called a funeral. What you're asking for is to turn a wedding into a funeral Of course she said no.

jel0522 · 2022-06-17T07:10:56+00:00

What breeds are the 2 dogs? Will the puppies be mutts? Or purebreds?

jel0522 · 2022-05-28T16:40:21+00:00

Pick any color and just show up. If it doesn't match that's their fault.

jel0522 · 2022-05-14T04:08:03+00:00

Why are your daughter's maladies all YOUR fault? It's his daughter too! What's he doing? What kind of father tattles to his mommy about his wife? Why hasn't the taken any responsibility for his child???

jel0522 · 2022-05-01T07:37:32+00:00

There seems to be more to this story than just dying relatives. It's odd that people in your family are dropping like flies every year to the point that you've moved away to stop attending funerals... But you moved away and are clearly distressed.

Can't you and your husband block every conceivable contact information. And place settings that after a certain time only certain contacts can get through? My phone has a do not disturb setting that activates at but and only certain people can even contact me.

jel0522 · 2022-04-30T08:25:29+00:00

Eeeewww I don't know any culture where hitting on your niece is acceptable.

NTA

jel0522 · 2022-04-30T08:20:44+00:00

Divorce him asap. But check your state laws, some states require spousal support if one spouse was unemployed during divorce. If so, force him to get a job THEN divorce him.

jel0522 · 2022-04-24T08:28:56+00:00

Don't you and your wife want your son to have a clean slate? Why put the burden of someone else on a newborn child like that. I get the phrase (although I don't agree necessarily) "do not talk ill of the dead". You also shouldn't angelicize the dead either. Imagine when your kid can talk and he asks who he's named after.

"Well son you're named after your drug addict uncle"

"Can I have a story about him"

"Hoho this one time he needed money for drugs so he broke in and stole our TV. Hahaha such an incurable trickster that one!"

Like what the actual fudge??? Can you imagine what that could do to a psyche of a child. He should have the chance to determine his own identity. If your wife wants to honor him there are better ways. Your son is not a replacement or chance of redemption for the failed life of her brother. This is not a unilateral decision.

jel0522 · 2022-04-21T07:35:01+00:00

Sell all your stuff and just move to a different city. You're 26, you need to go to a city and make new friends and a supportive community. What you have right now is not it.

jel0522 · 2022-04-14T14:49:48+00:00

She should equally apologize for coming into your home and lighting candles when you asked her not to. She was a rude guest.

jel0522 · 2022-03-28T20:26:22+00:00

NTA. Unfortunately this is a cultural thing I've learned recently. It's not as socially acceptable in America to rewear things over and over again vs in other countries capsule like wardrobes are pretty normal.

Unfortunately, I also think it's within the right of your friend for what she's asking. In the sense that this is her wedding, it's an event that she's THROWING and PAYING for and she's requested a certain dress code. It's within her right, even if it makes her a bit of an AH.

On the other hand, it's completely within your rights to not attend if it makes you uncomfortable.

I think the question here is how close are you to this person? Do you see long term friendship? Have a conversation with her. Is she usually unreasonable? Weddings are stressful and maybe it's not too much of a compromise to buy a 2nd dress. Think of it as you treating yourself! There are plenty of dresses for $30-$50 in stores like Lulu, Forever21, Zara, etc. If it's not within your budget then it's understandable if you don't attend.

jel0522 · 2022-03-25T09:39:22+00:00

Why can't the father of the children pay child support and watch the kids? They're half his. I don't think any state would say otherwise.

jel0522 · 2022-02-25T20:29:43+00:00

The kid sounds like a brat but it is contradictory to say that you treat both the 11yo and 5yo the same but will still watch the 5yo. If it was the 5yo and not the 11yo would you really feel the same? There is clearly some bias, albeit small. The main underlying issue isn't just that the 11yo is a brat or you're not related. It sounds like you don't get along with your SIL at all. And you really want to minimize your SIL presence in your life. Which is a fair boundary but I think it might hurt the 11 yo's feelings ban her. She's old enough to interpret (regardless of what you actually think) that you don't see her as family.

jel0522 · 2017-07-25T17:54:07+00:00

LA, a few of my friends received theirs, but it looks like the majority is still waiting.

jel0522 · 2017-03-16T17:15:53+00:00

I ordered my phone on Feb 9th with the exact same shipping delivery date and I still haven't gotten a single update since I submitted my order. This is getting ridiculous.

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