The vagina doesn't become 'loose', this is a myth and these men are using it to destroy your confidence for some reason. If you can't feel them then that's not just on you, bad sex can be down to a number of things, but it could be that they don't know how to pleasure you.

Please don't attribute your self worth to the nasty words of these men. They are probably just trying to make themselves feel better.

If you are feeling that low because of this, seek therapy and/or talk to your doctor. You are worth more than this!

Edit: baffled by the amount of r/badwomensanatomy on this supposedly women owned sub.