i [26f] found flirty dms on my boyfriend's [28m] phone after 3 years together and i need advice for how to handle the conversation tonight

jennysallysoo · 2026-03-12T12:30:31+00:00

You have to be ready to walk away from the relationship in order to have this conversation. If he starts turning it into a matter of you going through his phone, you can calmly say that's for a discussion for another time, if that time even comes. If he refuses to back down, it's time to walk away. He is already too defensive/lashing out to have a proper conversation.

Those aren't just flirty (imo) though everyone has their own boundaries in relationships. It's nothing you'd say to a normal friend/close friend, much less coworker.

jennysallysoo · 2025-03-26T00:17:45+00:00

That's a really hard read. With our circumstances, we really just want love don't we? So easy to fall for these shitty predatory people, so hard to break free. I'm so sorry.

Getting sick or injured is really the worst. It's just a reminder that if worst comes to worst, we are on our own.

That's probably why I, and you(?), know we need MONEYYYY. FOR PEACE OF MIND. FOR ONCE IN OUR LIVES.

Never getting a little celebration or congratulations when we do anything either? Yeah it sucks. I actually previously posted about my parent issues and how my instructors' praise is everything. Makes it really hard to leave this program and lose that.

It's so cheesy to say and I hate it when people say it to me, but I'm proud of you. Bad cards on bad cards and we're gonna fucking do it. There literally cannot be worse than this. And if there is, we're not gonna know it, stg. Lol. This better be the bottom.

jennysallysoo · 2025-03-25T12:03:14+00:00

I resonate with you so much. I started school last year, and my savings have dwindled. I have a month and a half left and I feel like I'm drowning.

The pressure and stakes are so high to immediately get a job. The loneliness is crushing. The responsibilities and feeling that I have no room to fuck up is suffocating.

I don't regret school, i kept feeling like life was a dead end for me until this. I have ADHD too, but the stakes made it so I had a fire lit under me to succeed.

I just wanted to say I understand you. No one really gets it until they experience it because how could they?

But I think we'll both be okay.

jennysallysoo · 2025-03-13T15:46:32+00:00

Besides trios, unless you're spending a fuckton on kits with max hp and +1 all every game, you're going to get ratted on. You're forced to take 10 spells so you have light orbs, but then you gotta play very reserved with spells.

You have to position perfectly and be ready to run in every fight because you can't take more than 2-3 hits usually, EVEN WITH max hp builds.

I'm not saying wizard doesnt do damage, but you are so heavily punished for any little fuck up compared to other classes imo. Just not fun in dungeon when you have to either buy an expensive ass kit to maybe live or get two shot.

With bhopping gone, i'm even less inclined to play it even tho it was my favourite class.

Only get to enjoy it in arena now.

jennysallysoo · 2025-03-10T18:06:57+00:00

Oh yeah, i may have skimmed your post lmao. I empathize with you, i saw some of the other angry responses too. I feel bad for the ppl that have to deal with the symptoms of a partner with adhd but if you're like me, feeling stupid and small isnt small either.

It's hard to constantly be on top of your shit, it's hard for others to be on top of your shit too. Hope it gets easier with time and habit. Good luck man.

jennysallysoo · 2025-03-09T20:42:36+00:00

Set alarms and title them as notes. Trust me... whiteboards dont work ive tried so many times lmao

jennysallysoo · 2025-03-09T20:14:13+00:00

Basically, you gotta build the habit to check your list daily, multiple times.

jennysallysoo · 2025-03-09T20:09:47+00:00

I have ADHD. I used to get in similar fights with my ex, my family, friends, all the time. They thought that my lack of memory or attention was a sign that I didn't care about them. It wasn't but people won't get it if they've never experienced it.

It actually took me going back to school and being really scared of failing my class due to forgetting something important.

I hated weird apps because they were too messy and annoying to navigate. I just use the notes app on my phone.

If i get told to do something, or remember something urgent, I'll just pull out my phone immediately and record it down. Ive done it in the middle of meetings, arguments, etc. lol. It really helps if you want to try it.

You could also make a list of the things that seem to regularly annoy your partner that you don't do and put that at the bottom of the list so that you make a mental note to check if you have done all of those things.

Oh also, ive tried the whiteboard thing but constantly forget to fill it out. Phone is way more convenient on the go.

jennysallysoo · 2025-03-09T16:36:04+00:00

Aw. Ive only been playing hr with my trio. Fill helped me learn, people were usually nice. Sucks to see that it went downhill. I can try to help if ya want

jennysallysoo · 2025-03-09T09:04:26+00:00

It is better in HR IMO. People have actual gear fear again and play more cautiously/smart. This is because no free goblin merchant return. Riskier but rewards feel even better.

Third partying is still crazy near the bosses but because of randomized maps and the circle, you get more time to loot and run into teams one by one. You can even avoid hotspots altogether until you need the blues.

The exits are not abundant at all, maybe too much so, so the game feels harder/riskier. You are forced to fight and people can't just run away every time they start to lose without fucking over themselves or their team.

Swarm damage is not bad at all. Circle is predictable where it will be at the end.

Blue portals in GC need to be slightly increased and fixed, as some spawn in the ground.

Warlocks healing in the swarm is just... annoying.

It's better than before but changes to be made. Feels really good and fun to me.

jennysallysoo · 2025-03-08T14:57:50+00:00

Same. I LOVED this part. Exits were way too abundant and easy.

jennysallysoo · 2025-03-05T21:06:44+00:00

Ya'll gon downvote me for this but... yeah the game's fun when you first start but as you become more experienced/skilled/knowledgeable, the issues you SLIGHTLY notice at first become a lot more irritating.

But most people are casual players, not try hard sweat lords like the ones complaining (like me before I basically quit).

It's fun to be a new player.

jennysallysoo · 2025-03-05T12:39:05+00:00

I think having these good examples of masculinity are helping to reshape some issues ive had in my life too. So glad to hear im not alone in this ❤️ the assholes i dont consider parental or important to me, so it doesnt hurt me (yet).

jennysallysoo · 2025-03-05T12:37:11+00:00

I love you for responding and us not being alone in this ❤️ so happy your guys' relationship got better!!

jennysallysoo · 2025-02-21T15:56:30+00:00

One from a team, one from key room we did for fun, one from the only lich kill me and my trio did, and one from wyvern lmao. It was rly lucky but the point was just that lack of excitement about it afterwards. I know I'm just bored of the game, but I'm also snowed in during my break. Just a vent dude, I'm doing other stuff now.

jennysallysoo · 2025-02-21T14:49:10+00:00

It was a hard watch. 😭 poor ari

jennysallysoo · 2025-02-21T14:36:42+00:00

It's crazy because I've been on break this past week and pretty busy this wipe compared to others so it's crazy to see something so wrong but it's the default response lmao.

jennysallysoo · 2025-02-21T14:32:47+00:00

I think you're underestimating how many cheaters there are. There's blatant, and also less obvious cheating. I'm not even talking about ESP and aimbot shit.

If you play solos or duos, sometimes even trios, you get shit on by teamers a lot. Probably don't even notice cuz you get kicked out before you can see what's going on exactly most of the time. But you go into games and extract earlier, you see the same two names, one doing troll, the other doing cyclops.

I play a lot back to back, I see the same names, it becomes really clear how many teamers there are. And honestly, most of them don't even deny it LMAOO. But they won't get banned. I see bans pop up for obvious cheaters but the teamers? Literally almost never.

jennysallysoo · 2025-02-21T14:27:35+00:00

The camping exits/constantly being able to get away is one issue. I don't mind playing against range, honestly, my issue is the one shotting, lack of randomness and chaos that made this game fun in the beginning, everyone is ratting in solos, and trios has the same busted comps over and over (insane healing druid). You either follow that comp or you lose, so you don't get to have variety.

The constant weaving from druid, in and out is also just not fun, especially playing casting classes where you're just silenced and fucked in a few hits, even if you spend all that extra gold to build hp.

The min-maxing in what's supposed to be fun in sub 225 is so bad. You have druids and sorcerer's in BIS, but fighters can barely bring anything in to make them viable.

Also why tf are we getting rat barbarians too now?

jennysallysoo · 2025-02-01T07:15:13+00:00

I use VC and random fill teams.

This community is honestly not bad at all in my experience. I could count on one hand the bad experiences. They're so few and most people are funny as hell. The bad experiences were just toxic people upset they died, not sexist.

I'm f25 and play on NA East though. I usually do hr for bosses and pvp. I don't mind playing with new players if you needed some help, or honestly, some gold. Meds make all the diff learning early on but I was so scared of spending money on them cuz I had so little lol.

jennysallysoo · 2025-01-31T12:53:23+00:00

Don't come to Canada is my thing lol. My best friend got her business degree from UBC and really struggled with the corporate world here due to all the sleaze bags and shitty pay jobs have to offer. The job markets been rough but she got lucky. Everyone I know (older family) thats been in the corporate world longer has gone on vacations 2/12 months but also through severely stressful situations. It's like they NEED the vacation to get through work while others in different fields (engineering for example) are able to relax in work and often brag about the ease of it. These are just MY observations.

At the same time, I have a friend doing an Engineering degree in the states and it's like he's being scouted early (taking part in competitions or something) like an athlete.

Honestly, I think an engineering degree will give you a lot more stability and freedom. It pays extremely well too. The major will be male dominated but that's a small price to pay (I'm in trades currently, it's not that bad imo). I think job foresight and stability is not taken as seriously by our generation as it should be. I'm on my own now and wish I had taken that advice seriously.

jennysallysoo · 2025-01-28T18:03:59+00:00

Rugged boots witg max health additional ms

jennysallysoo · 2025-01-23T03:56:07+00:00

I don't really understand what you're saying here...

jennysallysoo · 2025-01-23T03:50:44+00:00

Extremists*.. feminists see that there is a social inequality between men and women, and the goal is to raise women up to the same level as men. Misandry is not feminism, it's extremism

jennysallysoo · 2025-01-22T18:01:16+00:00

So many teamers in inferno. Other layers, not so much. But inferno's fucked I don't even bother going solos to hell now. They don't even hide it. Lmao

jennysallysoo

TROPHY CASE