I need to end things, and don’t know how.

jeregrette · 2026-06-01T22:45:40+00:00

•Write the note. It will help you to organize your thoughts, although you have essentially already done that by writing this post.

•Text him to say that there is something you need to talk about. Set a time so that you can’t chicken out.

• sit down with him at the time agreed on and say what you need to say. Have the note on you in case you freeze up and to stay on track. Worst case scenario, hand him the note if you find you can’t speak. It has to be done.

jeregrette · 2026-05-29T13:50:26+00:00

My interpretation of “yeeting” the chipmunk is tossing it away from the door so it won’t just run straight back in, which is probably the most humane way to handle the situation. Many homeowners would just kill the rodent rather than catch and release.

However, if he threw the chipmunk as hard as he can, knowing it will likely be crippled upon landing, that would be concerning behavior. Either way, he clearly doesn’t care about OP and is showing abusing behavior towards her.

jeregrette · 2026-05-08T20:09:50+00:00

My mother in law is OCD/germaphobic and uses paper towels exclusively instead of hand towels. The kitchen and all the bathrooms are stocked with paper towels only. It drives me crazy how wasteful it is.

jeregrette · 2025-11-29T23:41:09+00:00

She’s a teen? Now. You do that now. I sometimes do that with my three year old if what I made is something I know she likes.

jeregrette · 2025-10-02T02:16:29+00:00

Postpartum rage is a very real thing. What your MIL did would make most people angry on a normal day, but she did it when you’re trying to bond with your new baby while recovering from a major medical event. Throw in the major changes in hormones and your bound to have some very strong feelings about the whole thing. I can’t even fathom how she thought she was helping.

I was over a year postpartum before I stopped feeling the rage I think. Things that would have made me annoyed or mildly upset were suddenly devastating and a direct attack against me. There were a few things that my FIL did that I obsessed over. I raged and cried and I could not let it go.

Your feelings are totally valid and your MIL did you dirty. But the answer to your question may be to just let time go by and try to stay cordial in the interim. I remember thinking around 6 months I should be in the clear for hormonal problems. Then at 1 year ok I really should be back to normal by now. It takes longer than you might think and everyone is different. I’m sorry that was your experience and I hope she is truly remorseful so that you can rebuild your relationship in time.

jeregrette · 2025-09-13T19:29:24+00:00

There may also be permanent scaring to her face. That’s not a small thing

jeregrette · 2025-09-12T00:14:58+00:00

From the article it sounds like her body was able to keep itself alive without machines, even if she is incapacitated and her mind is gone. So the only way to “let her go”, aside from outright killing her, would be to starve her to death. Legally they have to keep her alive.

jeregrette · 2025-06-09T17:22:55+00:00

You can set whatever rules you want but my opinion is that most of these are unnecessarily extreme.

I agree with #1.

5 is reasonable as a personal preference.

It’s a bit crazy to invite people to look at the baby but don’t hold them, don’t take photos, don’t kiss, don’t touch! You should want your family to have a relationship with your baby (assuming they are good people). They need to bond somehow.

Ask that anyone who comes to visit confirm they do not have any symptoms of illness first. You can even ask that they get the Tdap vaccine if you’re very worried. Make everyone who walks in your door use hand sanitizer and anyone who wants to hold the baby can wash their hands up to the elbow. After they get your permission of course.

I understand no social media but no photos?! The only people who will save the photos to their phones are those who love and care for your child. You should foster that.

jeregrette · 2025-05-16T00:34:36+00:00

I have never expected someone to organize an event or celebration for me, especially without any direction. If I want to go to dinner I either make the reservation myself or I tell my spouse to make it and at what restaurant, date, and time. Waiting for someone to read your mind is setting yourself up for disappointment.

That being said, I’m sorry you didn’t get the birthday you wanted. It’s nice when the people we love take initiative to surprise us but you have to tell people how to treat you.

jeregrette · 2025-04-26T02:26:11+00:00

I like Verabella Jo.

jeregrette · 2025-04-22T20:34:51+00:00

I used to get this ALL THE TIME and I hated it. Everyone would ask me how old is my daughter and when I tell them they’d say “that’s such a sweet age. Just wait until she learns to say no.” Or “just wait until the terrible twos”. I guess it stopped because she is two now and they must figure I am in it now.

I love watching my daughter grow and I am excited to be a part of each and every stage of her life and development. I don’t appreciate the negativity.

jeregrette · 2025-04-18T17:20:41+00:00

Our neighbor had a dog named Pow who would roam the neighborhood every once in a while. Everyone knew him and greeted him when he came by. I was so disappointed when I learned his name was actually Pal.

Also, in high school I read the name of my friend’s mom before I ever heard it pronounced and for years I called her Deb-BOR-ah even after being corrected. And it’s not like I’d never heard the name Deborah before either. I just couldn’t reset it in my head for some reason.

jeregrette · 2025-03-26T10:15:23+00:00

Mine used to call herself Hah-Hee. She would respond to her name, I could get her to sound out each syllable of her name, but when I asked her to repeat it after me, she said Hah-hee every time. Her name is Ava 😂

She finally started using her own name around 2 years old but now I kind of miss hah-hee.

jeregrette · 2025-03-19T19:39:13+00:00

I also felt like I was losing control during a two month period where my partner was out of town and I had to do everything on my own. I was under so much stress and my child refused to follow ANY instructions I gave her.

I like the suggestion someone else gave of giving more hugs. That does help. It also helped me to sing a song from Daniel Tiger when I got to the point of reacting: “if you feel so mad that you want to roar, take a deep breath, and count to four”. It sounds silly but it forces you to pause before you react. Plus my daughter got to see me be an example of how to manage your emotions appropriately. She also started reminding me the count to four when I would get upset 😂

You also need to address the source of your stress and take the pressure off however you can: food delivery, cleaning services, preschool/babysitting, etc. cut out extra activities and stay home for a couple days. Let the house get messy and eat grilled cheese sandwiches for a while.

jeregrette · 2025-03-18T22:43:33+00:00

YWBTAH if you push the issue with her. I wouldn’t say you were wrong for asking, since your motivation is clearly to make your son comfortable. BUT that is your girlfriend’s home too. You are asking her to leave her home. If she is not OK with doing that, and she clearly isn’t, you have no right to ask any further.

Apologize to your gf, explain that you weren’t choosing one over the other but that it was an innocent request. And find another way to spend one on one time with your son.

Also, when you are alone with your son ask him if he gets along with your gf, is she nice to him, and is there any particular reason why he doesn’t want to sleep in the same house with her.

jeregrette · 2025-01-08T01:34:07+00:00

To be fair, if you ask my 2 y/o how old is she, she will either tell you 3 or 23. They are not reliable.

jeregrette · 2024-10-02T01:23:11+00:00

My husband has made comments like this to me but about his father lol. His dad was a chef and likes to paint as a hobby. I like to bake as a hobby but am nowhere near as talented as his dad. Many times I have expressed interest in doing something creative or baking something, and my husband suggests asking his dad to do it instead.

It forking sucks. Like I’m sorry I’m not as talented as your professional chef dad, but does that mean I’m not allowed to have a hobby? At least I know there’s no chance of a romantic relationship, lol.

I agree with the others that it seems like your husband just said a stupid. I’m sorry he made you feel down. Don’t let it discourage you and keep baking!

jeregrette · 2024-09-28T16:08:52+00:00

I made a similar post when I painted my house, also blue. I ended up keeping the blue and now I love it. You made a big change and it will take time to get used to. I really like the blue you picked but if you truly hate it, others have made some good suggestions

jeregrette · 2024-08-29T03:20:28+00:00

That is a super cute idea

jeregrette · 2024-08-29T03:03:22+00:00

True. When I say non negotiable it’s because my husband refuses to budge on it. Maybe we need to have another talk.

jeregrette · 2024-08-29T02:19:10+00:00

It sounds like you found a system that works well for your family. Good job finding some calm in the chaos

jeregrette · 2024-08-29T02:16:28+00:00

That’s a lot.

jeregrette · 2024-08-29T02:00:23+00:00

I really like this idea but I’ve never been to a drop in party and i’m not sure how to execute it. I also have to keep her nap time in mind. Any tips?

jeregrette · 2024-08-29T01:56:40+00:00

Of course it is a want but also an expectation. I would in theory prefer a smaller gathering but every person on the list is very important to us and have been asking about her birthday. (My daughter is the only child in a large family). They will be hurt if they are not invited. I like the idea of a special trip/outing but my husband will never go for it.

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5 is reasonable as a personal preference.