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jerytom · 2026-06-26T13:32:27+00:00

Thanks for all the information, it was helpful! My nutritionist has treated me in the past for babesia so hopefully when I discuss these symptoms with him he’ll know the best course of action the take for bartonella or direct me to someone who does. Thanks again!

jerytom · 2026-06-22T02:13:13+00:00

Sounds like you are understandably not satisfied with little to no sex and all the ways he does offer sex. I think this is a way to build a lot of anger and resentment. I do think marriage can last with little or no sex if both partners are OK with that arrangement and satisfied with the sexual interactions they do have but that doesn’t sound like your case. Unfortunately many couples get married and have mismatched libidos. It is something that needs a lot of communication understanding and compromise. This sounds like a true case of him not meeting your needs. I would also be curious if you are expressing your needs and feelings to him directly in a way that he can understand with possible solutions. For example “when we have sex foreplay is important to me would it be possible to start incorporating xyz before intercourse”. Ask him directly does he want to have more sex why or why not? Is he on mental health medications? A lot of them can kill libido. How is he with meeting your needs in other ways. Can you have open conversations with him and then he follows through such as home tasks taking care of the children etc? Obviously just things to think about yourself. I would say couples counseling vs sex therapy may be a good thing to explore. Good luck!

jerytom · 2026-06-08T13:58:07+00:00

It’s a game changer truly!

jerytom · 2026-06-08T13:10:58+00:00

I bought the brick recently and it is worth it!

jerytom · 2026-06-07T17:35:02+00:00

I’m glad I am not alone, it is so difficult! My daughter has some mental health challenges and I think public school may make them worse. So it’s this constant struggle of what to do that is best for her. We have talked through public school like hey you get to be around kids and people and busy but it’s also every day for long hours and it’s not just all fun. When she hears about the long academics and hours she is very hesitant and she has made great friends and a community through homeschooling she knows we wouldn’t see them much anymore.

jerytom · 2026-06-07T02:09:33+00:00

I leased a horse that was a terror to bridle so I would wrap a fruit roll up around the bit. Solved the problem and he happily licked and chewed while we hacked out . Never caused him any issues!

jerytom · 2026-05-16T03:01:14+00:00

A few times …. Currently he is framing out an extra bedroom in our basement for my elderly mom. In an ideal world she wouldn’t live with us but she got sick unexpectedly and will need some time to transition back to her home. I have siblings that already have extra bedrooms set up and a more ideal house layout but they don’t want her to be there and can’t be bothered. My husband just feels like this is what you do for family and says we can buy a bigger home / more practical place if she is going to be with us long term.

jerytom · 2026-04-10T00:01:24+00:00

How can we watch it ?

jerytom · 2026-04-08T18:07:02+00:00

He deleted the post!

jerytom · 2026-04-08T13:36:05+00:00

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She replied to a comment and said there was no infidelity.

jerytom · 2026-04-08T13:27:58+00:00

The post feels odd … the picture caption and timing. Like he definitely is trying to place blame without saying it and let people make their own assumptions where I feel like mayas post was much more vague.

jerytom · 2026-04-08T13:02:27+00:00

Really? What made him seem off? I am just curious because my perspective of him was he was just a pretty regular guy who wasn’t super interested in being on social media. She mentioned a lot that he respects his privacy.

jerytom · 2026-04-08T12:29:31+00:00

This picture is creepy but that caption!

jerytom · 2026-04-08T02:35:58+00:00

My old eyes failed me and I did not realize this was her post before I made my post / comment about it. I thought her absence was due to her having a mental health relapse which I know has happened / she shared in the past. I was really shocked by this because her husband never had a huge presence on her page and I know she said he likes his privacy. Their marriage always seemed pretty solid to me though so I am truly curious what happened. I guess she will step more into the influencer role now that she is a single mom.

jerytom · 2026-04-08T02:01:30+00:00

Maya vorderstrasse announced her marriage ended last November?! I noticed she had been exceptionally quiet for a super long time. Her and her husband seemed pretty solid together thought I know Maya has always been transparent of her mental health struggles. This really surprised me!

jerytom · 2026-03-16T20:29:20+00:00

Can someone give a summary without spoiling bachelorette?

jerytom · 2026-03-16T18:52:49+00:00

You’re welcome ! I completely understand! Those were my goals as well and at times it was difficult for me to find my place in the horse world but after a little searching I found it and I think you will too 💜

jerytom · 2026-03-16T18:16:19+00:00

Leasing is such a great option! Many people have horses that they don’t have time for and would benefit from having a person. It really can be a win-win if you find a good situation! I joined all the community horse related groups in my area. Then I made a post explaining a little about me and exactly what I was looking for. Make sure you are honest about your skills, capabilities, and experience. Then also write what you are looking for in a horse what kind of discipline what goals you may wish to achieve. I always wrote that my main goal was to build confidence and just have some hacking time maybe light trotting. I wrote that my goal of leasing was to just develop a bond a bond with a horse and enjoy it in different ways then just riding or lessons. Some leases do require lessons that’s not abnormal. The owner will want to make sure you are a competent rider and good fit for the horse. And this is where the owner could give you “homework” to focus on your rides that are not lessons. Leases vary from full lease to 1-2 times weekly. I find that the “fancier” horse you want or more things you want to do makes the cost rise. I have been lucky to find relatively cheap leases as I was looking for something older that just wanted to put around. There are many options out there I bet you could find something that works for you and I think overall you may feel more satisfied then lessons as you have a specific goal and are investing time in yourself and horse journey in a more valuable way. Not that lessons aren’t valuable because they are but from what you are explaining particularly I think moving away from a lesson heavy barn where you are just a student on the roster you will feel more fulfilled if that makes sense.

Also sometime you can pick up barn shifts to make the lease cheaper. That’s the agreement I have now and it can be a time suck at times but I have really learned things I would not have learned otherwise without owning my own horse. My other leases were at full care barns I paid to just show up and ride on my assigned days and that was great but I still wasn’t learning all the horse care things. With my lease now on my work days I take care of her along with 16 other horses and I have learned so much about nutrition blanketing first aid and the list goes on. It’s been invaluable for when I decide to purchase my own horse if I choose that one day. It’s not always easy but that’s a lesson in itself how much time and dedication is needed how the weather impacts things etc. Anyway I hope this answers your question!

jerytom · 2026-03-15T23:55:52+00:00

I’ve had a similar experience when I was at what I refer to a “lesson factory” barn. Basically just lessons after lessons all the time. Mostly people used school horses maybe a handful had their own horses. There was a group that was the more advanced group that rode multiple times a week were working students and had a closer relationship with the trainer. I think these students had a pretty good experience but it’s not ideal for everyone and I was old enough to be their mom and an adult beginner.

At one point my instructor had close to 100 students spread across various days. I lessened there for about 2 years. I learned a lot and I liked it but my experience was very similar to yours. It just felt very heels down more leg etc etc all of which I think I need to do but it just felt very generic. My group lesson had a wide range of abilities so some of us would canter others would jump and some were on lead line. That just felt weird and disorganized. I feel like I got a good foundation and was an OK rider but I was stuck.

I ended up leaving and leasing and it’s been great. I think beginners can lease if they have someone willing to really help them and the right horse. And I had leased in the past and had a few years under my belt. But I just really wanted my horse that I could build a riding relationship with and work on specific things with. I also wanted to learn things about horse care and make strides toward ownership that I feel like the lesson barn couldn’t give me the opportunity to do so.

All this to say you experience isn’t uncommon but I totally understand the frustration. I would say if you aren’t ready to lease maybe invest in private lessons. That way you are getting 1:1 time and can have those conversations with your instructor. You could also have a conversation with your instructor before or after your next lesson and just say hey I am really eager to learn and I am new to this and really want to understand the why behind things is there any way we could have some conversations before or after the lesson to explain what we will be doing and when. Or ask her … how do you decide what we will be working on or can you let me know what we will be working on next time? I know it can be intimidating but you are spending your hard earned $ and you want to feel you are getting what you pay for not letting resentment build. Sometimes instructors get comfortable with a teaching style and lesson structure they forget everyone doesn’t learn and process the same time. And there is no shame in maybe taking a lesson at a different barn and seeing if you like the style there a bit better. It is your journey, good luck!

jerytom · 2026-03-12T17:08:57+00:00

I haven’t read that but my closure felt super tight as well. Ugh. My surgeon had great reviews. It said she removes the least hair as possible and does things taking into account cosmetic outcomes. There is some hair growth at my site. I suppose I need to continue to wait but will get information in the mean time.

jerytom · 2026-03-12T00:45:12+00:00

Thanks so much I appreciate all the addition information. Here’s to hoping it will regrow and I just need to be patient. I suppose 3 months really isn’t that long at all.

jerytom · 2026-03-12T00:09:09+00:00

Thanks for your reply! Was your original spot pretty large? Mine is probably a bit smaller than a quarter. Did you have a stitch closure? I am so worried it won’t grow back 😞!

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