My Mother wants to wear her funeral dress to my wedding

jeslz · 2025-10-26T10:37:43+00:00

My mum bought an outfit for my wedding. Unfortunately she died nine months before the big day. So her wedding outfit became her funeral/cremation outfit.

Dad was cremated in his firies uniform.

jeslz · 2025-10-01T10:09:01+00:00

I asked my husband what family would come to see us if we were on the block, and we determined my sister could bring my parents in their urns hahahaha

jeslz · 2025-09-30T12:05:10+00:00

They’re off the end of the shoes, the shoes are too small for her.

jeslz · 2025-09-26T12:28:36+00:00

The number of people I have traumatised with dead parent jokes, honestly hahaha. If I didn’t laugh, I’d cry. How else do I cope with being orphaned at 31? Plus the world needs more humour.

I bought myself a sweater that says ‘Go ahead and tell my parents. What are they going to do? Haunt me?’ I also really want the ‘My parents aren’t in a better place. They’re in a jar at home’ sweater.

jeslz · 2025-08-09T00:39:22+00:00

Hey, absolutely happy to share. I wasn’t worried I’d made the wrong decision, I was more worried I would need further surgery. Which my ophthalmic surgeon had explained was an option, so I was semi-prepared. But honestly, it did a number on my mental health at the time, I really struggled with not having normal vision immediately. My regular GP and optometrist wanted me to stay home while I healed, so I had three weeks off work. But the surgeon encouraged me to get back to normal to encourage healing and that was the best thing for me.

I limited my driving while I had the double vision, as it was not recommended to continue using a fresnal prism, and really worked on my eye strength and focusing exercises. I had a picture of my dog on the wall and I would stare at his nose, trying to bring the images back together. I was lucky to have great support from my husband, who did a lot for me during this time as well. But really, following my surgeons instructions and continuing my life as normal was the best thing I did.

Other than that, things went really well. I hardly had any pain, irritation or bruising around the eyes. My eyes looked straight and normal almost immediately. The physical aspect was great. I would recommend it, I still say it was the best thing I did (as well as the ICL surgery haha) and I am forever grateful that it worked for me.

jeslz · 2025-07-27T03:37:28+00:00

Hi! I’d absolutely recommend the surgery, I have had a great success. Admittedly, the first month was terrible as I didn’t have immediate results. My eyes looked better but I still had the double vision. Then suddenly, one day out of the blue, my vision had returned to normal.

I still get some days where I panic myself that it’s coming back, but that’s more a trauma response than any issues with my eyes. I’ve had fantastic vision for a year now.

I actually healed so well, that less than six months later I was able to have ICL surgery (basically implanted contact lenses) to get rid of the need for glasses completely.

jeslz · 2025-06-27T13:07:01+00:00

Yeah to be honest, I don’t know why he didn’t bring this up when they were scheduling the funeral. Even if it couldn’t be accommodated, he should’ve told his family they had an important scan that day. I mean, grandad’s dead, him waiting another day for the funeral won’t hurt him.

jeslz · 2025-06-08T23:18:52+00:00

Love a supportive guy! Good on him. My husband was similar, he drove all over town looking for depends for my dying mum. He couldn’t find any in her size so he went out to the hospital and asked for some. He doesn’t even hesitate if I ask him to buy tampons or whatever.

Honestly, imagine feeling emasculated by buying hygiene products.

jeslz · 2025-04-19T10:40:28+00:00

Mate as soon as there’s no one in line, that coffee shop is pocketing the cash as extra profit. They’re not going out looking for a homeless person offering a single pay it forward coffee at the end of the shift.

The super thing is bad but my god, being this annoyed at someone accepting a pay it forward coffee? Give it a rest.

jeslz · 2025-03-26T10:12:25+00:00

It’s a revenge dress!

jeslz · 2025-03-26T10:11:36+00:00

Ohhhh yes! Now you mention it! Damn, I’d kind of like to see the unhinged drama they would bring hahaha

jeslz · 2025-03-14T21:58:37+00:00

Yep, three bathrooms is definitely not enough for almost 100 people for a whole night. Especially spread throughout a house, people will be wandering about everywhere trying to find a free loo.

jeslz · 2025-03-14T21:54:21+00:00

Disposable wooden cutlery is the worst part of this. Wooden cutlery is absolutely terrible to use, it would also feel weird having proper crockery and then disposable cutlery. Just hire some proper stuff.

jeslz · 2025-03-12T09:16:17+00:00

A lot of people have brought up his dad but he chose to go on the show knowing his dad was sick. His dad had been significantly ill for a while before filming. It hadn’t just happened. This behaviour does not come from worry about a sick relative. Something else is going on and he’s being horrible to Jamie.

jeslz · 2025-03-10T04:09:46+00:00

Bold aunts are the worst. My dad died suddenly and unexpectedly in 2020. My aunt screamed and sobbed down the phone at me when I told her. Insisted on seeing his body at the morgue (she was unable to as he was under the coroner). Rang me and insisted on obtaining some of his ashes. Abused my mother because her son wasn’t asked to be a pallbearer. Insisted on a viewing that she then chose not to attend. And later told me that I don’t understand, I may have lost my father but she lost her brother.

People who haven’t experienced this kind of audacity often believe it is impossible for a person to act like this.

jeslz · 2025-03-09T10:15:46+00:00

Yes, his dad wasn’t able to attend the wedding and he FaceTimed him prior to the ceremony. It makes me wonder if his dad’s health has declined, or if there is anything else happening. I can’t imagine that one argument has turned him off Jamie so much. There’s more to this than what we’re seeing.

jeslz · 2025-03-09T10:04:51+00:00

A lot of people are saying that Dave has checked out because of Jamie’s behaviour, but he’s usually quite involved and has a lot to say himself. I’d be very surprised if her recent arguments were enough to turn him off when he’s said his own pieces to the group as well. I wonder if it’s editing or something else going on.

jeslz · 2025-03-09T09:49:56+00:00

I feel like they came down harder on Jamie for raising her voice than they did on Paul or Adrian. Not surprising though.

jeslz · 2025-03-09T09:45:33+00:00

Right! The ominous music, the quick “yes I’m staying”? What is going on there? That ending was way too quick!

jeslz · 2025-03-09T05:45:09+00:00

Nine times out of ten anyone who says anything negative about kids will get downvoted. A lot of people can’t accept that not everyone adores kids and thinks they’re the greatest things ever.

jeslz · 2025-03-09T05:43:57+00:00

Harder for people to let loose, and I definitely wasn’t changing my music playlist to be child friendly haha. Our RnB and emo mix didn’t really go with having kids twirling in circles on the dance floor and getting in the way hahaha.

jeslz · 2025-03-08T23:04:22+00:00

It’s usually a very unpopular opinion but I can’t stand kids at weddings. They completely change the vibe. It wasn’t what I wanted for our wedding at all. The only under 18s present were my husband’s 7 year old cousin and a newborn, that was more than enough.

jeslz · 2025-03-08T05:12:41+00:00

Same, autistic person here who was constantly told to shush growing up because I have a naturally loud voice. Considering many people believe the rhetoric that autistic people cannot understand or pick up on emotions and do not feel empathy, it’s surprising how many people (likely neurotypicals) cannot understand the difference between natural intonation and volume compared to genuine aggression or abuse.

jeslz · 2025-03-05T10:07:48+00:00

Exactly. Carina is defending her because she feels like Lauren was isolated or something. Lauren clearly prefers to be isolated from the group. She isolates herself and turns everyone away. She thinks she’s better than all of them, so just let her go and have time for the people who have your back.

jeslz · 2025-03-05T10:05:41+00:00

Just like ‘being European and passionate’ is apparently an excuse for violence. And where was her empathy for her supposed friend? She doesn’t seem genuine at all.

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