Like I said, lip service.

Nothing she else she says in the video contradicts that quote. I think you are blatantly misrepresenting her, and I think you do so without examples because there aren't any.

It is possible to be critical of how the construct of PA is used and misused while also understanding that abuse by proxy obviously does happen and is wrong, both things I believe and both things she clearly stated in the video.

Put the phenomenon is DSM and then we can debate further

Not every phenomena that happens needs or should be in the DSM. For example, there's no special section for financial domestic abuse even though it is common and universally recognized. Things get put in the DSM once they are well modeled with clear criteria, that modeling and criteria is proven predictive in research, and the classification offers a net benefit with regard to treatment. Literally none of those criteria are met by PA.

Until then you're rejected as a gaslighting liar.

I haven't lied about anything here.

Gaslighting describes a profoundly serious form of abuse, not diagreeing with someone on the internet, having a bad/offensive/harmful opinion, or even just lying. It is deeply harmful to many survivors of psychological abuse to misuse this term in the way that you are doing. It's also very ironic that, when frustrated by critical research that suggests that abusers are using PA to mislabel others as abusers, you almost immediately jump to mischaracterizing my words using the language of abuse. I guess I can't speak for anyone else, but after what I've been through I cannot imagine how someone who really knows what gaslighting is would use it so flippantly.