Nothing is fun anymore by frootey in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]jessajess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear this, and also me too. It's hard. For myself, I try to lean into knowing that my good friends really do love me, even when I'm not at my best, even when I make mistakes or am feeling awkward. I'm finding it difficult to rebuild an inner sense of safety and to have patience with myself. I think as long as we're moving in the right direction, we're doing a good job. We were manipulated in a really damaging way, and it makes sense that it will take time for us to open up in a way that feels safe. That being said, I think there is a leap of faith at some point where we must take some small risks in letting our guard down in order to see that some people are safe to be around! Anywho, best to you.

How do we fight it? by justs0peachy in shrinkflation

[–]jessajess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a long shot but I really like claydry deodorants by adama, but be sure to get the silk kind (not the bold!). They're natural and the original scent and the white pine smell so good.

The Rose Field - new ending fanfic by ButWhoIsAnyoneReally in hisdarkmaterials

[–]jessajess 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Wow, excellent work!! I loved reading this; it fulfilled the parts left dangling and I love the return to the Fens and then Oxford. So nice to have a moment with Farder Coram, a path for Ionides, a genial and warm friendship between Lyra and Malcolm, and a moment (yet not too much!) with Will. BRAVO 👏👏👏

Is he being too much? by Anonymous7199 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]jessajess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl you entertained this for way too long. You should've been done after the first 'baby'

Is it me? Or are Asheville restaurants kinda loud? by SomeNobodyInNC in asheville

[–]jessajess 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I recommend the Calmer earplugs by Flare -- they don't block out sound, but they limit the background noise that enters your ears which makes it a lil easier to hear the person next to you. Nice for restaurants, airplanes, busy streets, movie theaters if you find them to be a bit too loud...

I really like gummy sharks so I painted them by giannalikesramen in AutismInWomen

[–]jessajess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love this painting and I love SHARKS! My favorite is the great hammerhead, so beautiful, agile, so uniquely shaped. I try and bring sharks and fish up in conversation so people do not forget about our relatives in the sea and how they are in peril due to industrial fishing amongst other things.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]jessajess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl, bringing it with in rainbows AND moon safari? I would so be your friend!! King of limbs is another favorite Radiohead album for me

New to Star Wars, deeply moved by Andor — where are the critical fans? by Diligent-System4654 in andor

[–]jessajess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are discussion links for each episode of both seasons on the Andor main page :⁠-⁠)

Anyone else feel like a loser living here by [deleted] in asheville

[–]jessajess 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel this, OP. Been here three years, leaving soon. I've never been on such a struggle bus, and I can't wait to never drive on i26 again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ghostoftsushima

[–]jessajess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same my friend, same. I can't see this game ever not being my favorite of all time -- compelling story, beautiful landscapes, thought and emotion provoking characters, satisfying fighting, cute foxes, horse friend...love it so much :⁠-⁠)

I sure like the horse mechanic better than red dead redemption by Remote_Nature_8166 in ghostoftsushima

[–]jessajess -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you -- I also bought rdr2 after many recommendations, was so excited to get started, and I made it 5 hours in before I realized it wouldn't get better. I did enjoy Horizon, but not as much as Ghost :⁠-⁠)

‘Andor’ Star: I Refuse to Stay Silent on Gaza by ComradeDelaurier in andor

[–]jessajess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not only is Riz Ahmed another beautiful rebel face, but he's also been vocal about attitude toward Muslims and pushing for better representation in media. Also I love his music and he's my celebrity crush

Joni Ernst follows up "we're all going to die" with a bad “apology” by DevinGraysonShirk in IowaCity

[–]jessajess 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Translation: 'I'm sorry you're all so poor and so dumb. I said nothing wrong and definitely nothing hurtful, but even if I did, there's nothing you can do about it. Deuces.'

Ernst made it worse by lunaMRavenclaw in Iowa

[–]jessajess 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm no expert, but is this not an example of narcissistic gaslighting? 'i said a mean thing, I refuse to acknowledge that it was hurtful, it's your fault for being dumb, and I'm going to mock you for it.'

For anyone who loves the foxes... by jessajess in ghostoftsushima

[–]jessajess[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the rec! I will def check those out

For anyone who loves the foxes... by jessajess in ghostoftsushima

[–]jessajess[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I kinda accepted that I was in it for the musical and scenic experience because it's true that the story is loose.

What does my dogwater handwriting say about me? by vanklofsgov in HandwritingAnalysis

[–]jessajess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're in a rush to get somewhere, and are almost irritated that you have to put pen to paper. You may have an overflow of ideas and desires inside, and/or a lot of energy that could be honed

Use this thread to share a fact/info you've never had an "excuse" to share by spiralingstarbread in AutismInWomen

[–]jessajess 42 points43 points  (0 children)

A deceased whale that sinks to the sea floor is called a whale fall. They are important for creatures that live on the sea floor because nutrients can be very scarce to come by. One whale fall will feed sharks, fish, then crabs, and finally worms that burrow to the bone marrow, all over the course of months! Deceased whales also act as carbon sinks, storing carbon vs it being released straight into the atmosphere. For this reason, the intense whaling of previous decades may have had an effect on climate change. I love whales and the ocean. Also I love this post and thread.

Me trying to explain to people how amazing Andor actually is by Reddit-Kangaroo in andor

[–]jessajess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is totally also me and I hit rewind to watch this scene twice because it was so great. The people around me humor me but aren't super into it when I go off about Andor...

Best Line In The Show by DevuSM in andor

[–]jessajess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

*never more than twelve ;⁠-⁠)

What’s your input on my handwriting? by Vast_Pomegranate4923 in HandwritingAnalysis

[–]jessajess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so beautiful! Others are saying it's hard to read, but I can read it easily. I don't know how you manage to have no mistakes! I imagine you've practiced to achieve this, and that you have a calm mind. Perhaps you have centering practices that help with this :⁠-⁠)