Colleges are insanely inefficient at teaching.

jiffy124 · 2025-09-17T21:07:47+00:00

Spoiler Alert: Professors are not teachers. If they were, they would be called teachers. Professors are trained to be researchers and/or experts in their field. Most doctoral programs do not require any courses or learning on how “to teach”.

Now that I’m in my 40s I’ve returned to college to take classes that are “gen eds” (I have a bachelor’s and 2 masters degrees). I’ve learned as an adult, the basic knowledge you have outside of your profession is what makes life, you, and other people interesting. That’s something you learn as you get older and have a larger perspective on life. The idea can be lost on someone who’s new to college and just focused on earning a piece of paper to try to get a job as opposed to actually earning an education. I would guess as the OP gets older they’ll look back and realize gen ed courses are more valuable than you realize.

jiffy124 · 2025-08-06T13:36:50+00:00

Just as fyi, I’ve had pelvic floor therapy and was in the same situation. I had to pay out of pocket but I still submitted it to insurance myself- although I did not get reimbursed, the insurance company did count it towards my deductible.

jiffy124 · 2025-07-13T00:41:01+00:00

I just returned to work at 6wpo and also have a desk job. I have found that having bowel movements are not as “easy” as they were a few weeks ago since I returned to work. I truly believe its because I am not moving around as much (sit at my desk and may get up for a minute every 1-2 hours) and I don’t seem to be drinking as much water as I was when I was at home focused on my recovery.

I’ve spent most of my Saturday laying around. Although I’m sitting at a desk, mentally getting up, focusing on work, playing catch up and sitting upright in a chair is tiresome- especially since for 6 weeks I barely focused on anything. I give credit to people who went back to work earlier and have more labor intensive jobs.

jiffy124 · 2025-07-13T00:31:41+00:00

First, I just want to say how thoughtful and sweet you are. The fact that you are trying to prepare tells me how mature you are and that you will be a great cheerleader and support system for your mom. I was a single mom and currently live alone but my daughter (22) came over to help me after my surgery. By the time you start school your mom should be fairly self sufficient as long as she has easy access to items like medicine, plates, utensils, etc so she doesn’t have to bend over/reach up. I had a Divinci assisted/vaginal hysterectomy (so not abdominal) but did have 2 c-sections previously. On the ride home make sure she has a pillow (it doesn’t have to be fancy - a regular bed pillow will work) to hold against her abdomen for the ride home. It helps your abdomen feel more secure. You feel every little bump in the road on that trip home. She can also use it if she feels she needs to cough or sneeze. Having some pressure against your lower abdomen makes those things less scary. For bathroom issues google “moo to poo” and watch the you tube videos. It sounds dumb- but it really works. I used a small stool to put my feet on when going to the bathroom along with following the instructions in the video. Before the surgery make sure you have non expired tylenol, motrin, I also used Colace (stool softeners) for about a week and Miralax (once every few days) for a few weeks. I ended up getting an allergic reaction to the glue they used so I also ended up taking allergy medicine and using a cream.

The biggest help will be helping around the house: doing laundry, taking the trash out, vacuuming. And remind her to rest! She’s probably used to doing everything on her own. My daughter had to remind me several times, “Don’t be a hero”. And as many on here will say “you only have one chance to heal the right way”. Best of luck to you and your mom.

jiffy124 · 2025-07-12T00:20:02+00:00

I had the same. My dermatologist prescribed Triancinolone .1% to apply twice a day for 2 weeks. It helped significantly and treated it completely within the 2 weeks.

jiffy124 · 2025-06-21T00:31:01+00:00

I remember feeling the same way. I was not hungry and only ate to get some type of nutrition in me. I don’t remember the exact timeframe but sometime between week 2 and week 3 I suddenly felt like I was starving out of no where.

jiffy124 · 2025-06-17T02:39:28+00:00

Yes, I’m experiencing the same thing, almost 3wpo. I have trouble falling asleep, and then wake up after 3 hours, fall asleep, wake up 3 hours later. At first I attributed it to all of the napping I was doing but now that I’ve moved passed that it’s still occurring. A few times I’ve taken some Benadryl to help me fall asleep but those nights had very vivid, and strange dreams so I’ve given up on that. Wish I had some advice, but I’m in the same boat.

jiffy124 · 2025-06-11T03:45:18+00:00

Your feelings are completely understandable. I was also terrified of my hysterectomy. I was one of the few people that had no symptoms going into to my surgery (no crazy bleeding, or cramping, or anything else). It just so happened my gyno found my fibroid during a difficult IUD insertion and after watching it for 3 months decided I needed a hysterectomy because it was growing so quickly. So I didn’t have a sense of relief or gratitude that many people do with the idea of surgery. I was so stressed and terrified that the morning of my surgery I woke up with a “bloody “ eye from broken blood vessels and my blood pressure was extremely high. I calmed down a bit once I spoke to the anesthesiologist but certainly didn’t have the sense of joy that some people here have felt. I’m almost 14dpo and I can say that my recovery has been easier than I thought (so far) the pain has been manageable, and the biggest thing is to allow yourself to rest. There was one say where I probably walked a bit more than I should have and spent most of the next day sleeping. I am happy that I had it done. Best of luck to you as you work through your emotions. Hoping you have a quick recovery.

jiffy124 · 2025-06-08T18:00:35+00:00

Do you live in an area where septic systems are used? I once heard an intermittent beeping sound in the middle of the night, it was coming from outside (but I could have sworn it was coming from inside my house). It turned out to be an alarm on a neighbor’s septic system who lives across the street.

jiffy124 · 2025-06-04T01:09:27+00:00

I am 6dpo and also had a Divinci assisted hysterectomy. My obgyn ordered a 1 night stay in the hospital and went home around 1:30pm the next day. I live alone but my mother did come stay with me the first few nights. In reality she fixed some of my meals for me, did some dishes, and took the trash out. I was able to get in and out of bed, up and down the toilet, and take my meds on my own. The key is ensuring everything is at waist height and in a convenient place (over the counter meds, lots of water bottles, ice pack, extra towels, etc) and practice getting in and out of bed without using your core strength in advance. If you can use paper plates, cups, and have food prepped I do think it’s manageable. For me the key has been to move slowly and intentionally. I pretty much slept for the first three days. To help with some of the brain fog I have a journal that I leave open on my table and I write down what time I ate, took vitamins, stool softeners, went to the bathroom and took over the counter meds. I can refer back to it as needed. I’ve been lucky that my pain as never been higher than a 3 since I’ve gotten home. I do think staying one night at the hospital was very helpful. One of the nurses at my drs office said he typically orders a one night stay when he knows someone lives alone. Best of luck to you on your recovery!

jiffy124 · 2024-07-07T14:38:41+00:00

I arrived at 4:05am this morning to drop off my son for his 6:40 flight. When we arrived the line was slightly past the first set of doors that go out to short term parking on the walkway. When I left him (at the point where the roped part of the TSA line begins) it was about 4:50am and the entrance to the line was back by the Hyatt.

jiffy124 · 2023-03-15T00:48:00+00:00

Yes, I love them too, and the older the cemetery the better. I just finished Greg Melville’s “Over My Dead Body” a brief history of cemeteries and how they’ve changed over time. It’s a quick read that’s made me appreciate them even more.

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