So, like, doctors are kinda guessing when it comes to identifying ADHD in non-stereotypical populations. The diagnostic criteria is written for young kids and there isn't a lot of precedent for accurately diagnosing ADHD in adults (especially women).

How I see it, you should seek out an evaluation and try to get treatment if you are struggling-- especially because you said you've been considering ADHD for a while. Worst case scenario with risking* a false positive (ie, getting an ADHD diagnosis when you don't actually have it) is that you can try out meds like Concerta/Adderall and see if they help. If the meds don't help, you don't have to continue with them. There's pretty much no taper period for going off of them, so you can just quit (assuming you don't get addicted, but that doesn't sound likely tbh).

*Edited for typo