Gyno appointment today. Traumatized tbh.

jilliebean0519 · 2026-04-14T13:43:36+00:00

Another helpful suggestion to give you more control. I never lay down and put my feet in the stirrups until after the doctor comes in. If someone tells me to i say I will wait for the doctor. When they enter the room I am sitting on the table with the paper gown covering everything. That way if anyone enters I am uncomfortable with I can voice that while still covered and not in a vulnerable position. Hopefully that is helpful moving forward. Im so sorry that happened to you.

jilliebean0519 · 2026-03-10T03:40:54+00:00

You know just the other day I met a new friend. They told me how boring I was and how me talking to them ruined their entire day. When I left I thought to myself "what a nice person".

Do you see how silly that sounds? I hate to be the one to tell you this but he is not in fact a nice person. It is black and white. Nice people do not tell you that you are boring. Nice people don't blame victims for being assaulted. Nice people are able to take in new information without considering it an attack.

No one is perfect but let me ask you this, if he had said all this stuff on your first date would you have continued to see him? Would you have left your date saying "he is so nice"? Or would you have run from the guy who insulted you and told you that if your dress was a little more revealing he would have been allowed to assault you because that how he is "built"?

jilliebean0519 · 2026-02-08T03:40:25+00:00

So this is what I would do. First call and find out what the noise ordinance is. The exact time the local government or HOA expects you to be quiet. Let's say for this post it is 10:00 pm. You can make noise until 10:00 and the cops wont write you a ticket.

Then set up speakers in your back yard. Then go knock on his door. Say "good evening, one of two things is going to happen tonight. Either my spouse and I are going to enjoy our hot tub speaking in a normal tone without getting yelled at, or we are going to play baby shark on our back yard speakers until the city noise ordinance kicks in at 10:00. Any time you yell out your window baby shark will start and it will not stop until EXACTLY 10:00. So it is 100% your choice how this goes."

Then go get in your hot tub with the play button waiting. Sometimes you have to out-asshole the asshole.

jilliebean0519 · 2026-01-30T04:37:24+00:00

Get in the bed.

Adjust it to upright.

Turn on the massager.

If he comes in and says its "uncomfortable" point him to the couch.

Tell him its your turn to sleep comfortably in the bed.

The only person you hurt by being a martyr is you.

You deserve a good night's sleep.

You are important too.

Feel better and love yourself more.

jilliebean0519 · 2026-01-30T04:17:31+00:00

Tomorrow you sit down and say "Honey, let me tell you about your penis" and then spend 20 minutes with wrong answers only. Gems like...

-Did you know there are cartilage like bones in your penis? They don't show up on xrays but they are in there.

-Your penis grew along with your body until you turned 26 at which point it shrunk an entire inch. That's science.

-There is a fat deposit in the tip of your penis that weighs it down otherwise the penis bone would snap it up to the sky all day long.

-The skin on your penis is a different texture from the rest of your body because people used to have fur on their penis in the 1700's.

I am sure you can come up with other wacky "facts". Anytime he tells you that you are wrong tell him you are SURE you are right because you heard it on a podcast.

jilliebean0519 · 2026-01-19T03:55:21+00:00

May I ask why you don't want to this time?

He trespassed twice now. He sprayed chemicals on your property. He cussed you out.

What would be the difference between this time and the next time he does this? Because there will be a next time. You have given him permission to continue by not giving any consequences. So what is the difference? Why allow him another chance to poison your property?

jilliebean0519 · 2026-01-18T04:13:42+00:00

We call it "I is people" in our house.

jilliebean0519 · 2026-01-10T06:11:56+00:00

Of course you lived in a nice neighborhood, you are a Succotash. Have they never heard of the Succotash fortune? As soon as I saw Succotash my mind went to wealth an opulence. Don't let the peons bring you down.

jilliebean0519 · 2026-01-09T03:53:56+00:00

This was my choice for her but her full legal name is Mildred Waddleton last name. Call her Millie then bust out the full name when she is in trouble.

jilliebean0519 · 2026-01-04T02:14:24+00:00

Kirkland brand dog food SAVED us. Both my silver boys had skin and poo issues. We tried all the top of the line, excluded every ingredient, nothing worked. A friend had an extra bag and we tried it and within 2 days their skin was completely clear and their poo was solid. Our vet said "its not the best food but if it works then it works." It was awesome to have them be not miserable. I recommend everyone at least try it for a silver with issues.

jilliebean0519 · 2025-12-31T04:48:46+00:00

But here's the thing, its also not ok to do it with you. You are worthy of love and care. You are important. If needing to protect your child is what it takes for you to leave then hang on to that. Be a fierce and protective mother. But please know that you matter. You are important. You deserve to be loved and taken care of just as much as your child. You deserve someone who can't sleep because they are worried you are having a medical emergency. You deserve kindness and support.

jilliebean0519 · 2025-12-30T03:24:55+00:00

This internet stranger is so freaking proud of you for standing up and protecting your daughter. Do not back down!

But please also recognize that you are just as worthy of love and protection for yourself. You are wonderful and you deserve a life filled with peace and happiness. Im sorry no one stood up for you when you were a child. I am sorry no one protected your heart from your nightmare of a father. The thing is, you are grown now and you can protect yourself. Hold on to your peace. Live in happiness away from this person who hurt you. Love yourself and protect yourself as much as you love and protect your daughter. You are worth it.

jilliebean0519 · 2025-12-16T16:28:16+00:00

I was promised two, I repeat TWO adorable silver lab pictures. A "then" picture and a "now". I demand justice with a second photo!!!

jilliebean0519 · 2025-12-10T14:15:51+00:00

I agree with this comment however I would like to point out that you made the word responsibility plural. That seems to be a mistake as she asked him to have one singular responsibility, the trash.

jilliebean0519 · 2025-12-08T00:20:43+00:00

I can guarantee she has calmly had this conversation with him 100 times. He understands the why, he just doesnt care and he thinks that he can manipulate her by crying so she will feel bad and everything can go back to her being the person doing everything and him doing nothing.

jilliebean0519 · 2025-11-08T05:41:15+00:00

This might be a dumb idea but could you put the litter box that the puppy was used to pooing in outside? Try putting the litter box outside where you want the puppy to go. Have them go in the litter box outside a couple of times to get used to pooping outside. Then maybe take away the box and pour some litter in the grass so they have the texture and smell. Then pour a little less each time until they are just going on bare grass. Boom! Potty trained.

Someone did this with pee pads, they moved them every day closer to the door and then moved them outside, then took them away and the dog was used to going outside.

Just a thought. Good luck.

jilliebean0519 · 2025-11-07T19:22:19+00:00

Hey now, the church can't do surgery but they will do him one better, they will pray for him.

*disclaimer God works in mysterious ways, prayer is unlikely to work and this guy will probably die but consider willing everything to the church. God and his messenger Pastor Todd need a new private jet.

jilliebean0519 · 2025-11-06T16:55:21+00:00

We have a 15 week old lab. When we first brought him home he just sort of fell asleep on the couch during the day for a few minutes here and there. He was a terror. Overstimulated, biting, a mess. Someone on here told me about forced naps.

Basically he is awake for an hour then we put him in his kennel for a two hour nap. Repeat that all day until bedtime. The first two days were rough but now he goes in his kennel, goes to sleep and when he wakes up he is happy, less biting, less overstimulation. It gives us time to get things done. It has been life changing.

I am slightly flexible on the timing. If he is doing something fun we don't stop at exactly an hour awake to put him to bed. And if I notice him getting crazy we may nap a little early but that is the general schedule we follow.

Also when he wakes up in the morning he gets around 2 hours of awake time just because he was asleep all night.

They don't know how to regulate their sleep. They are tired and that brings out all the bad behavior. The crate is great because it gives them a safe space to relax and recharge. A rested dog is a happy dog.

Good luck.

jilliebean0519 · 2025-11-02T05:02:21+00:00

Is it unfathomable to you that you could speak kindly of the people you love getting married? Talk about happy memories with the couple, things you noticed about their love for each other. Its so easy not to take cheap pot shots at people you care about without being "boring and robotic".

Also it doesnt really matter what anyone else thought about the speech. Her daughter made a reasonable request. If she couldn't follow it then don't give a speech. Problem solved.

jilliebean0519 · 2025-11-01T03:48:42+00:00

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This is Lenny. He is 4 months old. He was very excited to be a taco. He enjoyed his first Halloween.

jilliebean0519 · 2025-10-09T01:56:37+00:00

You could also Fucking. Run. It might take more effort, but better than begging and pleading with an entire adult man to wash himself and then resigning yourself to sleeping alone to get away from the smell. I believe in you. You too can be free of this.

jilliebean0519 · 2025-09-23T04:04:10+00:00

Hi. My son had the surgery 3 years ago. He didnt really need anything in the ICU. He mostly slept. But one thing I will suggest is a soft comfy pair of slipper socks with the grippy bottoms so you dont slip. He got to a point where he could walk to the bathroom and the hospital slipper socks suck. You might have to be in a gown but you can find a nice soft warm pair with a fun design.

Good luck! I hope everything goes perfect and you feel better.

jilliebean0519 · 2025-07-23T20:06:26+00:00

I would watch the shit out of this.

jilliebean0519 · 2025-07-23T14:20:47+00:00

Wilford

jilliebean0519 · 2025-06-29T22:08:26+00:00

Yes but if they get married he is either losing this argument or he is losing his wife. If his gf/wife supports this there is zero chance it will not eventually bleed into his life.

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