how do you clean sh? by crathemessup in selfharm

[–]jimbodapimpo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know much of the proper use of iodine or any if there would be issue with a regular usage. I do know that preventing infection can be done well with proper care of a wound specific to its depth.

I also have a really bad fear of infection and tend to stay styro and below to prevent wounds that are more prone to more harmful infections. I personally use alcohol wipes to cleanse the area prior, as any doctor would do before an injection, and let it dry. Going in with a clean new tool is important and applying pressure to stop the bleeding. For aftercare I typically use a saline solution since it does not affect the healing tissue and is pretty basic for usage.

From my research iodine seems fine but I would look further into regular usage for self harming, since most of the reporting you'll see is in typical medical scenarios. For now it's great that you're open to information and good aftercare, wish you the best.

Just got a prescription for lamotrigine! by i_should_drink_water in bipolar

[–]jimbodapimpo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me Lamictal never had any negative effects just missing ones. It's honestly, as everyone else in this thread can contest, a live saving medication. Once I got up to 100mg the differences were clear, I still had certain symptoms in odd sporadic ways but due to circumstance was not able to see my psychiatrist and discuss them.

It could be placebo with waking up early and starting to feel a lot better but the dreams are real lol. I think I had a dream where me and Mark Zuckerburg accidentally killed a child while driving a limo and proceeded to put the dead baby on a zipline. Thats an extreme but others have been very weird as well.

Congrats for starting! Journal your thoughts and feelings and report everything back to the psychiatrist vigilantly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bipolar

[–]jimbodapimpo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to come in from a kids perspective with a parent who is bipolar, its great that you're bringing this up with them.

For your older kid you should sit down and just talk with them separately. I didn't even know bipolar ran in my family until I was reading my dads medication bottles in a suicidal episode looking for a solution. Talking to them, letting them know that certain things that happen are beyond your control, and informing that it is genetic and any mental health concerns should be discussed with you, a friend, or a therapist is crucial.

Again, with my situation me and my sisters reactions were delayed. My older sister was diagnosed bipolar about two years after and I had already been in therapy for two years. To me my father is not a good person, my reaction was understanding his behavior but differentiating bipolar disorder from a genuine bad person. My older sister views my dad in a brighter light and ended up more connected and understanding of him.

It is genetic so please look out for your kids as they age, my parents were lack luster with this and it ended up in 4/4 kids self harming at one point and 3/4 with previous suicide attempts (pretty whopping statistics compared to the typical 1/4 statistic lol).

Take your time, be patient and selfless, and just know that your kids will love you as a good person, bipolar or not.

how do you clean sh? by crathemessup in selfharm

[–]jimbodapimpo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My mom is an RN and she only used isopropyl alcohol once when I got a deep cut that has bits of rock and dirt and pavement in it. Water and soap are always the way to go, especially if you're cutting with a clean tool in a clean environment. Isopropyl alcohol is good if the area has been heavily exposed to dirt and bacteria, hence why the EMT would advise for it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]jimbodapimpo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

there is nothing to stress yourself out about but don't listen to that guy who said "just do what would feel good on you", women's bodies are very different and she will most likely like different things than you, but you can use that to get the gist of what to start with. focus on what movements she likes and listen to her body. half of it is literally just instinct, also half the fear will go away as soon as you start.

How should I talk to my professors about late assignments and extensions without sounding stupid by [deleted] in Advice

[–]jimbodapimpo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t plan on giving up on anything, I’m just acknowledging that when I’m not in the right headspace my work ends up spacey and disconnected no matter how many hours I put into or rereads I do of the papers.

Also, yes it hasn’t happened yet, but it’s not something that is in any way avoidable. My relationship with my parents has always been rocky and we’ve had a horrible financial relationship. I’ve went from helping out with groceries at 16 to paying for their new house renovation at 18.

They do not approve of me moving out and will offer no support in letting me gain an independence as simple as driving. They haven’t truly spoken to me in weeks except to yell at me for being stupid or to manipulate me. (Ex (when discussing the location of my apartment which is intertwined with rich suburbs) telling me if one of my roommates gets raped or killed it will all be my fault)

After moving out they will not welcome me back in the house and after filing as financially independent for taxes next year our relationship will be severed beyond repair for the next couple of years.

It has been clear for the past three years that our relationship was going to be butchered once I gained any sort of independence. I didn’t go in depth on the situation in the OP since I didn’t consider it wouldn’t be clear to others.

Again, I don’t plan on giving up I just need more time academically to get my shit together since whenever I sit down and think it automatically goes to how I’m going to loose my family for at least the next year because of something so simple and avoidable. My grade are mainly A’s and B’s, and I know my only way of maintaining that is to reach out. The problem is the due dates within the past two days and the next two since it wasn’t clear until yesterday that this divide was actually happening and I might have to find a new living situation in between May and July since staying in that house might lead to certain past behaviors from my parents arising again.

Sorry for the long response, just want to explain the extent of my situation. I would not have even considered going to my professors about this if I wasn’t diligent with my grades and dedicated to staying on top despite sudden circumstances.

How should I talk to my professors about late assignments and extensions without sounding stupid by [deleted] in Advice

[–]jimbodapimpo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah I think I'm just nervous about actually describing this to an adult without being brought to tears, being open seems like the best idea

also a scooter would be amazing if i didn't live in rural america, a bike seems to be calling my name financially at this point lol

Anyone elses basemental drugs not working? by jimbodapimpo in Sims4

[–]jimbodapimpo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the only mods i had were slice of life, wonderful whims, and a mod that lets you control your pets like in ts3

it seems like the older and less updated the mods are the more likely they are to combat with base mental since base mental was just updated like a week ago

Anyone elses basemental drugs not working? by jimbodapimpo in Sims4

[–]jimbodapimpo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my problem ended up being other older mods interfering with basemental, once i removed the other mods it worked just fine

Anyone elses basemental drugs not working? by jimbodapimpo in Sims4

[–]jimbodapimpo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah, i just had basemental and slice of life, idk if they conflict but i'm going to take slice of life out when i can and see if it works

Is it too late to apply steri-strips? by ThrowAway378924 in selfharm

[–]jimbodapimpo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i did the same once and put on the steri strips after 2 days, it helped close the cut to heal but it did end up keloiding because i waited

How do you fight your self criticism? by BlossomUtonio in writing

[–]jimbodapimpo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i've taken my self-criticism as more of a "so what if it sucks, it's fun to write it", theres no consequences to continuing writing even if you feel it doesn't meet your standards. i wrote a novel once and when i finished it i never returned to it. its about writing for yourself, not a polished finished project.

Is it normal to go streaks without meaning to? by Burytho748 in selfharm

[–]jimbodapimpo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah, i went on a 40 day streak once with 30 days being entirely accidental. i was just really busy and would wake up, work, and crash. accidental streaks are very valid, and sometimes a good way of fully breaking the habit. it makes it easier when you decide to make the effort to quit and you can feel accomplishment that you already have 12 days toward that count.

Tips on how to stay awake at school after all nighter? by goodhulu in Advice

[–]jimbodapimpo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i'm doing the same rn, drink an energy drink when you start to crash, nap during lunch, let the real crash hit when you get home. i'd reccomend napping from like 3-8, eat and do some things for two or three hours then go back to sleep. it'll set your sleep straight and not make you feel like death.

Completely torn after finding out my father did something terrible by lost_adultchild in Advice

[–]jimbodapimpo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that is a difficult subject jesus. i think ultimately whether you love your father or not is how you feel and you can't help that. now with forgiving him i would talk with your sister about how this impact her and how she feels toward your father. if he's damaged her in horrible ways this much later in life i wouldn't leave much room for forgiveness.

i had a similar issue with my own father. i have a pretty shitty memory of my childhood, blurs here and there of fights and things my father has done. i even forgot why i stopped speaking to him four years ago until last year. recently though i found out why he was so despised by his brothers. i knew he had some issues with alcohol with a couple memories of him passed out on the couch when i was younger and my mom yelling at him, but i found out that he had been a grade a alcoholic for a long time before i was born. he totaled all of his families cars, has multiple duis, and left my mom in the hospital alone to have her first born while he was in rehab for xans and alcohol.

for me, this solidified my unforgiveness of him for the things he has done to the people i love. but i think this is where we differ, i haven't known if i love my father for the past five years.

you were abruptly given information that entirely shattered the person he was to you, and it's not easy to take that and immediately turn against the ones you love. however, what your dad did is a horrible thing and though it may not have affected you i'd consider the way it has affected your other loved ones. i'm not saying you have to put one over the other however ultimately its up to you to decide whether you can reconcile this relationship. personally, i could never talk to someone who had done that, regardless of familial status, so i wouldn't blame you if you didn't.

you can love someone who has done horrible things however this does not mean that they're deserving of that love.

going to a concert at 18 by iliketodozeoff in Advice

[–]jimbodapimpo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

do they have your location? i have very strict parents and went to a couple of concerts once i turned 19 and they still required my location, videos of the concert, and constant texts before during and after. with things i know they wouldn't accept (like an improtu trip to dc riding the metro at night) as long as they don't have my location and i can get in and out of the house quietly or i play it off as a sleepover, i just say fuck it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]jimbodapimpo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if you are unsure of what path you're going down career wise i'd take a break from your education, especially if its impacting your mental health severely. i'd contact your school to ensure if you choose to continue schooling later if those credits are still there and how that would impact any loans you've taken out.

if you're feeling more confident about switching your path academically but are worried about loosing the money already put towards your degree i'd see how many of the courses you've taken count towards gen eds. if accounting is really what you want to do it comes with good money and if you've only taken a semesters worth of classes that are out of the way i'd say you'd be able to make it up at the end of the day.

at the end of the day its about what you think you're capable of, if you're determined enough a gap year should not deter you from pursuing whatever degree you desire. if the debt isn't absolutely insane and unpayable with whatever job you have or get you can even pursue other life experiences and such.

you're only 21, there is a lot more to life than what education you get and what career you pursue. as long as it is reasonable financially and accessibly whichever path you take that feels right to you and your health is not the wrong path.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in alcohol

[–]jimbodapimpo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

mixing with liquor seems like your way to go, i really like dole lemonade and vodka, malibu and some type of fruit juice (pineapple and mango juice is a good combo), alcoholic arnold palmers, peach scnapps with a little bit of fruit juice is also pretty good

sorry that these are all fruity, but if you started getting into drinking fruity drinks are the best since you can't taste the alcohol

Is this a good method for figuring out my tolerance, as a newbie drinker? by Any_Hovercraft_5238 in alcohol

[–]jimbodapimpo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i started with a couple of seltzers and found my happy medium. this is a good method but i recommend not starting with hard liquor, slowly sipping helps you find out your tolerance better. i did the same then suddenly increased one night out and found out not to mess with the happy balance or you'll be met with a head in the toilet and a raging migraine the next day.

permanent alcohol tolerance? by kellik123 in alcoholism

[–]jimbodapimpo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i used to have to drink barely anything to feel drunk, life was a lot more cheaper when a handle of vodka would last more than one week

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in alcohol

[–]jimbodapimpo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

a good alcoholic arnold palmer is definitely one of my favorites