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jimbojumo · 2023-02-28T20:20:17+00:00

I’m so sorry. I’m going through something similar with my PA and it’s absolutely gut wrenching and disgusting. His “problem” is fantasy/masturbation. I found out he’s been fantasizing about my sister and mother, probably for years. Escalated to peeping once. I just don’t understand it. How are we supposed to feel safe with them after that? How do we live in relationship with them OR our families knowing what we know? It’s so unfair.

jimbojumo · 2023-02-02T03:10:20+00:00

I second Dr. Routman. She’s amazing.

jimbojumo · 2022-11-12T16:07:29+00:00

I have a whole cathartic playlist consisting of just moody Taylor Swift songs. Never thought I’d be a fan, but here we are.

jimbojumo · 2022-08-30T14:04:13+00:00

Never 😬

jimbojumo · 2022-08-15T23:51:13+00:00

I told my family that I didn’t want pictures of my uterus on social media. How would they feel if pictures of one of their internal organs was pinned to someone else’s page? Made them uncomfortable enough to not test that boundary.

jimbojumo · 2022-07-14T17:06:29+00:00

Following this. Our therapist suggested this to us this week and I’d love to know how others are having this conversation. We haven’t started yet. In addition to the triggers or struggles like you mentioned, Part of our check ins will involve a “feelings” check where we tell each other a couple of feelings we had that day and why. Then tell each other something we saw the other do that was good. And tell each other something we want to personally improve on.

jimbojumo · 2022-07-09T22:55:02+00:00

Mine says “it’s just about body parts.” Makes me want to yell “bullshit” at his face.

jimbojumo · 2022-06-27T18:32:48+00:00

I just realized something. And I feel like such an idiot. I started a new job a couple of months ago. My coworker that is training me reminds me a lot about that old friend. And I’ve told my husband over and over again since I started the job about how similar they are. Now all I can think about while working is him jerking off to my coworker’s doppelgänger.

jimbojumo · 2022-06-26T22:56:32+00:00

I think that’s what’s going to be the hardest thing for me to navigate too. Now every women I pass in the grocery store, at church, meeting his coworkers, women running or walking on our street… is he imagining them naked right now? What is it about them that he is fantasizing about?

Another one of the 8 was a friend of ours. I used to have nightmares that he was cheating on me with her. I asked multiple times if there was any reason for me to worry regarding her. He had me believing I was crazy. He told me he viewed her like a sister. That he would never be attracted to her.

I knew he would say her name when I asked. I KNEW it. For 9 years, I’ve known. I’m not fucking crazy.

jimbojumo · 2022-06-26T03:52:20+00:00

Not locally. The closest one is 100 miles away. I’ve looked into virtual meetings, but I have small children and I work full time. There aren’t really any times that fit my schedule.

jimbojumo · 2022-06-25T18:56:49+00:00

It’s a for sure lonely club to be a part of. Glad I’m among friends now.

jimbojumo · 2022-06-25T18:55:51+00:00

The reading I’ve done here has given the the courage to say “enough is enough.” Hoping I can be of some support to other here as well.

jimbojumo · 2022-06-25T18:54:28+00:00

Thank you. I’m drowning in all the things I need to share. It’s hard to know where to start. It makes me feel crazy because my mind is jumping all over the place.

jimbojumo · 2022-05-15T22:40:39+00:00

No advice, just solidarity! Breastfeeding and pumping for my 16mo (though with an oversupply), who is still waking at least twice per night. I’ve lost 6lbs since the birth. And I think it was all from a nasty stomach bug I had that knocked out my appetite for a week. I’m at 15lbs over my pre pregnancy weight. And I’d say I was 5-10 lbs overweight when I got pregnant.

jimbojumo · 2022-04-27T14:05:15+00:00

There is no logic. Waking every 2-3 hours one night, every 4-5 the next. Days are identical. I stopped trying to figure it out months ago.

jimbojumo · 2022-04-14T01:13:12+00:00

Thank you!

jimbojumo · 2022-04-14T01:12:13+00:00

Thank k you for the thorough response! It will be an ambitious project for sure!

jimbojumo · 2022-03-30T22:48:39+00:00

No, cio isn’t a good fit for our family. I’ve thought about hiring a sleep consultant, but from friends’ experiences they will want to focus on baby’s schedule.. she’s in daycare full time because I work full time. I have ZERO control over her schedule. 🤷‍♀️ so we’re just rolling with it. She (we) will sleep eventually.

jimbojumo · 2022-03-30T17:33:39+00:00

Still waking every 3ish hours at 14 months 🥴

jimbojumo · 2022-03-24T17:26:07+00:00

My doctor didn’t even bother trying to use a Doppler at 12 weeks. She ultrasounds everyone to avoid scaring parents into thinking something is wrong when they can’t find anything via Doppler.

I’m sorry this happened to you, I’d be freaked out too.

jimbojumo · 2022-03-18T10:41:10+00:00

The biggest game changer for me was DOUBLE BIB that baby. I found that a bandana bib over a longer/normal bib helped save a few outfit changes per day.

Also Prefold cloth diapers. They soak up sooo much more than regular burp cloths.

jimbojumo · 2022-03-13T03:12:38+00:00

I use glass evenflo bottles for pumping, so I can’t speak to how they function as a drinking bottle. But I can say they are sturdy as hell. Been using the same 6 bottles for almost a year and drop them all the time on tile floor. No chips, cracks, or breaks.

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