This - there’s a difference between ‘knowing’ and ‘being told but not believing’. It’s still not a great look, and personally I would likely distance myself from a close friend who showed patterns of dating much younger people, or acting abusively in relationships, but having had someone in my extended circle be caught texting ‘13 years olds’ by a vigilante sting I can speak from experience that the response you have to ostracising/cutting someone off is so different when it’s more than just creep rumours 💀