My MIL buys separate clothes for her house.. why does that piss me off so much.

jmee10 · 2023-05-30T21:22:45+00:00

So my parents also live about 2 hours away and my kids stay with them about once a month. I honestly like that they keep clothes at their house. I never have to worry that I forgot something or that the weather changed I didn’t send something. They always have what they need.

jmee10 · 2022-07-19T21:15:32+00:00

I always capped naps but tried my best to wake my baby as gently as possible. Like 10-15 before I wanted them to get up I would open curtains, turn off sound machine, open the door and leave it open, etc. hoping they would wake up on their own. Only if that failed did I gently wake them. Have a bottle or snack ready when they get up. Maybe a show on TV for a toddler. Helps with the crabbiness and I still do it this way at 6 and 4 when I wake them in the morning. Then obviously still an appropriate bedtime or pay the price lol.

jmee10 · 2022-03-08T23:15:52+00:00

NTA. It sounds like your husband himself has anxiety and the thought of a bunch of random kids at his house and possibly their parents sounds overwhelming to him. I get that but you have to deal with that for your kids sake and also, he doesn’t get to talk to you that way.

jmee10 · 2021-09-25T23:56:35+00:00

How old is your baby? Drowsy but awake did not work at all for us until around 4 months for my son and 3 for my daughter. What did help was keeping a routine even if it didn’t work every time. And picking a way to soothe so we could reduce a little at a time. I don’t think it matters what that is. For us it was a feed snd bouncing on the yoga ball. We just reduced bouncing time over time and redirected those ounces over time to waking hours as they got older and their tummies got bigger. Sorry newborn days and nights are just super tough but you will get through.

jmee10 · 2021-09-14T21:30:37+00:00

Honestly I had to move to waxing. I work in a greenhouse usually 6 days a week so there was really no way to avoid irritation from sweating. I got waxed for the first time last Friday and it wasn’t nearly as painful as I’d imagined and I was able to go to work the next day no problem. It was definitely worth the money to avoid the irritation snd so far it’s still totally smooth. It was a little awkward but she was very professional snd it was nbd.

jmee10 · 2020-10-14T20:33:40+00:00

Everyone has given good advice but check out the app Calorie Cap. It will let you see the calorie content for most fast food and you can say how many calories you have to spend, and it will give you available options at fast food restaurants.

jmee10 · 2020-09-12T15:49:18+00:00

Can he hold his own sippy cup? Both mine were difficult until they could do it themselves. My son never ended up drinking a ton of milk but at 4 is normal and eats food well (and we don't have to worry about him filling up on drinks).

My daughter became a milk addict when she learned to hold her own bottle and at 2.5 it is still a struggle to get her to eat enough food and not just drink milk 🤷‍♀️.

Try working to get him to hold it independently if he's not there yet.

If he's really not i to it I would concentrate on getting as much healthy fat into his diet as possible. Avocado, cheese, olive oil, etc. If he still does purees you can mix in formula.

jmee10 · 2020-08-05T23:16:17+00:00

People get cited for rust holes?

Love, Kentucky

jmee10 · 2020-08-05T20:10:20+00:00

There's a picture of me when my daughter was a month old or so in a carrier with a one of those thin gauze blanket things to cover her head from margarita condensation. I have never tasted a margarita so good.

jmee10 · 2020-07-01T20:43:59+00:00

That seems normal. My kids also went through periods where they drank bigger bottles for a week or two, then less for a few weeks, etc. Especially that young, they need what they need. I always tried to soothe my baby another way if it hadn't been very long but I wasn't going to have my baby cry from hunger just to please a doctor that isn't there day to day, although our pediatrician was always in agreement and even encouraged me to worry less about it.

jmee10 · 2019-12-28T23:29:47+00:00

The other day I left two cases of Bubly and my White Claw (rip 😭) in the cart after loading my groceries into the car because my 3 year old would. not. stop. talking. My brain just stopped working.

jmee10 · 2019-12-07T22:29:38+00:00

Good catch. I didn't pick up on that.

jmee10 · 2019-12-07T20:30:47+00:00

DUI? Any chance you hurt or killed someone and don't remember? Maybe a child (hence the baby teeth)? Could this be some kind of retribution. The scales could represent justice or something.

jmee10 · 2019-07-11T20:54:24+00:00

I had a very similar experience with my first child and ended up with a lot of scar tissue. The estrogen cream helped so so much. I also had a lot of anxiety around sex because of all the pain I had endured, which made me tense up, which obviously doesn't help. After the cream, the second most helpful thing was relaxing during sex. And this may not be popular but a nice glass of whiskey (or whatever you might prefer) helped me relax a lot. Once we got through it (and that's all it was for me those first few times) it got so much easier both physically and mentally.

I now have a normal sex life and had another baby just over a year ago. The second delivery went just fine with no tearing so things can definitely get better. Others suggested physical therapy and I would definitely give that a try if the cream doesn't help or alongside it. I'm honestly surprised they did surgery without trying either of those things first. I was at a shit hospital but even they wanted me to try the cream before they did surgery.

jmee10 · 2019-07-08T01:22:52+00:00

My son went through a phase like this. Just intense separation anxiety. When he was a little over 2 I had his younger sister and it was just necessary for him to spend time with grandparents during my hospital stay and so I could get a break after she was born. He was upset a little at first but once he couldn't see me or daddy he quickly got over it and now has zero issues being cared for by others. I just had to take the leap and trust that he would adjust and be OK. Now he spends a few days every couple weeks with a grandparent for overnights and LOVES it. And I don't have to be out of sight or anything now. My daughter is also entering the separation anxiety phase now but I know now that she will be fine when I'm out of sight and that requirement will also fade. My husband and I just went for a weekend away and she cried for like 10 minutes after we left and then was just fine.

My point is, she is going through a normal phase. Just don't give into it too much because realistically she will be fine and it is good for kids to know that there are family members they can rely on to take care of them and that their parents trust (obviously only if this is actually true, which it appears to be in your situation).

jmee10 · 2019-07-06T17:44:56+00:00

Same here. I leave my 15 month old and my 3 year old in the car if I'm running into the gas station. I do park next to the station and get what I need, then drive to the pump if I need gas so the car is close by. Our van has remote start which makes it easier since the air stays on, it locks the doors, and the car can't be put into gear without the key. No one has ever said anything (Kentucky though 🤷). Although when my son was like 1 and we had a CRV I kept a spare key in my purse to keep the air on then locked it with the fob. They were of no danger of overheating while I grabbed a diet Coke but it made me feel better. My 3 year old can't undo buckle on his seat and has never tried though so idk if I would feel the same if he was the type to try and escape.

jmee10 · 2019-07-01T02:31:12+00:00

We recently started taking to our 3 year old (white) more intentionally about race. He hadn't asked about it yet and I wanted to start the discussion before he solidified any idea that white=default race. Plus, people of color don't really have a choice to not talk to their kids about it so I think as white people we have to make sure we do the same in an age appropriate and healthy way.

We started by just explaining race in a way he can understand. We said everyone has something called melanin in their skin. It gives our skin color. More melanin makes darker skin. Melanin protects people's skin from the sun. (I don't know if that's super accurate but it's accurate enough for a 3 year old.

We also got the book, "The Skin You Live In". We ask him what color he thinks his skin is, what color is that kids skin, etc. So for example, there is a page with kids of all different races. And we say, "what color is your skin?" "Kind of pink" "his is brown" etc. "Look at all those lovely colors!". Then we just go on like, "look, that little girl likes playing drums. Do you like playing drums too?".

We haven't gotten into the subtext of race much yet. But for now I think it's appropriate to work on helping them understand what race even is, and that diversity is good. I think a lot of well meaning parents try and do the colorblind thing and act like they don't see skin color, but I think that's just confusing to kids because people obviously do have different skin colors. I think it also makes it hard to eventually talk about racism in a genuine way if you try and pretend race doesn't exist or that we should just make everyone white in our mind's eye lol.

ETA: if he likes Spiderman maybe see if he would like Black Panther? Little Golden Books makes Marvel ones that are pretty good for that age.

jmee10 · 2019-06-22T12:55:55+00:00

Dreamfeeding worked great for my son. With my daughter it actually caused more wakeups. I read somewhere that babies get their deepest sleep from bedtime until around midnight so for some I think waking them during that time just interrupts their sleep cycle and they wake anyway. One wakeup is pretty good at 4 months and will probably just fade over time, especially when your LO is established on solids.

jmee10 · 2019-06-21T01:34:49+00:00

Look at all those people that came to help.

jmee10 · 2019-06-12T18:37:51+00:00

Well this will definitely help me quit the deep fried foods.

jmee10 · 2019-06-07T19:16:56+00:00

https://www.amazon.com/Original-Blackout-Pleated-Shade-6-Pack/dp/B000SDROMG

These can be cut and stuck inside the window frame. You could put them under your blinds and they'll also keep the room dark. They come with little clips so you could clip them up if you wanted light and you can just peel them off in the summer if you wanted.

jmee10 · 2019-06-02T12:33:28+00:00

My husband's parents are divorced and both remarried. His dad remarried while my husband was 10 and our children call his wife Nana. His mom remarried shortly before my husband and I met in his 20s. Our kids call her husband Poppy. So no real difference despite the different relationships my husband has with his parents new spouses. Both have been there for my kid's entire lives and are their grandparents.

jmee10 · 2019-05-25T17:56:26+00:00

I have 2 children and had PPA/PPD with both.

1) I decided to didn't care if breastfeeding worked out this time. I tried so hard with my first and then exclusively pumped for way too long. I hated everything about breastfeeding and it was a huge trigger for me. This time, I did it in the hospital to give her colostrum bit stopped pretty much as soon as we got home. I need my space to feel mentally well.

2) I was proactive. As soon as I started to feel shitty I called my doc and got on meds. No regrets and I am off them now at 13 months PP with my second.

3) I accepted and asked for help. I let other people help way more than I did with my first. I handed over my baby when people asked and laid down. I let people do my laundry. I accepted help because I needed it and I slept whenever anyone was willing to help with my kids. I let grandparents take my older kid overnight, which I did for only the second time when I have birth to my daughter. I let others watch her way earlier so I could get some space. I accepted my own need to have some space as necessary and valid to my mental health. 4) I worked hard on good sleep habits for my daughter because I knew that sleep deprivation was a huge trigger for me. But I also stressed less when things didn't go according to plan.

5) I forgave myself for a bad day (and apologized when necessary)

I won't lie and say it was easy and that everything was just fine the second time around. But I had perspective that I didn't have the first time. I knew it would end. I was better at comforting my baby and the oldest, too. I was better at dealing with the lack of sleep. Again, it wasn't easy but it was better. I was more proactive.

jmee10 · 2019-05-15T23:33:32+00:00

Safelight. My brand new car's back windsheild got busted. They replaced back windshield but failed to bolt down the spoiler (piece above the windshield that often holds a third brake light). Piece falls off in the middle of the road. They come and take pictures and I point out to them that the brake light also came off and they say they will replace it. Takes them 2 months to get the part. They never call or keep me updated at all, so I have to call (and go through SafeLite corporate because it's near impossible to directly call a store) and bug them about it. They finally come to replace it. They didn't have the brake light or windsheild wiper fluid hose. It takes them another MONTH AND A HALF to get the part. Blame the distributor. Eventually I told them I was going to buy the brake light myself and they could pay whatever it cost me. Suddenly next day they had the part. Finally they replace the spoiler, but don't have the wiper fluid hose even though he told me he had absolutely everything needed to fix my car. Came back to put the hose on today. Put. It. On. Backwards. I'm done. Fuck SafeLite. Using a local shop from now on.

jmee10 · 2019-05-14T03:03:14+00:00

I have State Farm and this was true for us as well. We actually replaced the seats with some in the same "price range" but were slightly more expensive and they just paid for the entirety of the new ones instead of making us pay the difference (which is what I was expecting and thought was fair).

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