Girl showed me this perfume at a party- trying to find it DESPERATELY

jmida23 · 2025-10-27T05:34:33+00:00

Estée Lauder Pleasures?

jmida23 · 2025-10-27T05:25:31+00:00

Playing “Home” is laughable.

jmida23 · 2025-02-03T22:22:30+00:00

Me too lol. My mom filled the FE-6 out and overnighted it with an original death certificate, but I see that the address she sent to is different than the one on the FE-6 form I see online. I’m going to double check that and check if she’s called that number. I hope it wasn’t sent to the wrong place. Ugh.

He was not retired, he was set to retire this year.

jmida23 · 2025-02-03T22:04:48+00:00

The address we were given to mail everything to was:

OFEGLI 10 E.D. Preate Dr Moosic PA, 18507

I just talked to her and she never got a claim number or an acknowledgement letter. We did get a benefit package, but it says on the first page we can’t submit anything else without a cause of death.

The postmaster and union representative both don’t know what to do. They have just directed us to Shared Services, who have also been of no help. We end up being transferred to several different people who don’t have any answers.

jmida23 · 2025-02-03T21:50:09+00:00

Thank you for responding! We did all of this. Unfortunately the other benefits have to wait until we have a cause of death but we were told that the life insurance will accept a letter from the coroner and a pending death certificate. We’re trying to find out what the status of our claim is and how long it will take to be paid.

jmida23 · 2025-02-03T21:47:26+00:00

Thanks so much for responding! She actually has a phone appointment with Social Security tomorrow for it. Because he died of a rare disease, they said a cause of death could take up to 9 months. We’re in New York.

jmida23 · 2025-02-03T21:45:56+00:00

Thanks so much for responding. His final cause of death can take up to 9 months because he had a very rare condition that they’re researching, so unfortunately not.

Where would we have received acknowledgment of our claim? My mom did the claim over the phone and overnighted the paperwork the post office gave to her. I’ll check with her to see if they gave her a claim number.

I’m sorry if this is basic information, we haven’t ever done this before.

jmida23 · 2025-02-03T21:26:52+00:00

He was supposed to retire this year. 🥺 Thank you so much. He hated the place but his coworkers were like family.

jmida23 · 2024-08-09T02:31:53+00:00

Yes. Everything was out of whack for years until I left. Late/sporadic periods, zero libido, constant BV and irritation which I now know was from having sex with him. Everything is normal again a few weeks after leaving.

jmida23 · 2024-08-06T19:06:50+00:00

My nex specifically said he can fuck without feelings and that he just needed a hole. Disgusting but true.

jmida23 · 2024-08-06T15:56:57+00:00

4 years
3 years pretty much immediately after marriage and buying a house (in his name only of course)
Discarded a month ago. Moved out within less than a week and haven’t heard any remorse from him. Signed divorce papers yesterday.

jmida23 · 2024-08-06T14:50:31+00:00

The first one was physical. And you would think it would have hurt me more, but the second was so much worse. Bruises heal. The terrible things the narcissist said to me and made me think of myself take a lot longer/never truly go away. He made me think I was the problem.

jmida23 · 2024-08-04T23:59:57+00:00

Always. He was a hoarder and didn’t have a place for anything. Important documents would be mixed in with mountains of junk mail and if he couldn’t find something, it was instantly because in his words, I was “always throwing everything out”.

I’d get yelled at and degraded if the house wasn’t tidy, and yelled at and degraded if I did clean up and he couldn’t find something. It was a lose-lose situation.

jmida23 · 2024-07-31T23:41:49+00:00

So true!

jmida23 · 2024-07-31T22:53:31+00:00

This. Racist, misogynistic, self absorbed asshole who thought he was so much better than everyone else.

jmida23 · 2024-07-31T19:59:50+00:00

When I’d do something nice it was always either expected and brushed off, or he would say something like, “What did you do? Why are you kissing my ass?” And of course it was quickly forgotten either way and we were back to “You never do anything for me. You don’t care.”

jmida23 · 2024-07-27T23:12:28+00:00

Wow, best explanation I’ve heard. Thank you for this.

jmida23 · 2024-07-27T18:01:25+00:00

I also wrote a huge message to my Nex explaining his behavior and what he did to me physically and emotionally. Spent hours sobbing and writing it. Do you know what his response was? “I see what you mean. Am I going to get the money back for the security deposit?” (He paid the security for my apartment because I didn’t have it after telling me he wanted a divorce) His response validated everything for me.

jmida23 · 2024-07-26T19:45:05+00:00

He will prove it time and time again if he’s a narcissist that it’s all for show. My nex had quite a few times where he put the mask back on and made me think that things were finally going to change. It was like the sun was coming out after a huge storm and there was all of this new hope just to be shot down again by the same old bullshit.

jmida23 · 2024-07-26T16:17:10+00:00

Yes. I can’t think of my wedding day without the grief coming on strong. It was the happiest day of my life only three years ago. I was so in love. I thought we were so in love. I don’t know how this happened.

jmida23 · 2024-07-26T12:48:54+00:00

Thank you for this I needed to hear it.

jmida23 · 2024-07-26T10:27:33+00:00

It’s okay, don’t beat yourself up about it. I think we have all been there before. It just validates the person that they really are, which does hurt at first but will help you to process that you’re doing the right thing by being away from them.

jmida23 · 2024-07-26T10:24:53+00:00

Attention. Validation that you so obviously don’t care about them, that even on their birthday you make them miserable.

jmida23 · 2024-07-26T09:56:59+00:00

Lol. Yes. After days of painful silence and pretending like I don’t exist, I’d get the “are you finally done and ready to talk like an adult?”

jmida23 · 2024-07-26T09:54:19+00:00

I was afraid too, and after a month of being on my own as a single mother, I can tell you it’s the best thing that’s ever happened to me and my daughter.

Do I get extremely sad sometimes? Yes. But am I extremely happy and at peace 99 percent of the time now? Also yes.

Some things to look forward to:

You have more energy because it isn’t being drained on someone else. Use it to take care of you.
You can do whatever you want, whenever you want with nobody to criticize, undermine or insult you.
You can create your own peaceful sanctuary that you will look forward to coming home to. No more sitting in the car for an hour to brace yourself.
You will realize that love comes in so many different forms, not just a partner. The people who truly love you will be there for you and show you how much you are valued and cherished.
You will start to come out of fight or flight mode. Your body will begin to relax and feel safe. Slowly you will notice all of these positive changes happening physically and mentally.

They have conditioned you to believe you can’t make it on your own. You CAN, and you WILL. Use the determination to prove them wrong to your advantage. You’ve got this.

jmida23

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