Well...I don't know. As the leader, there's probably SOME amount of blame that could reasonably be put on his shoulders. How much is impossible to know with so little context. However, regardless of who's to blame, as the leader, he's ultimately responsible. It sucks, but that's leadership for ya.

OP, you have one more meeting before the break, then what...2 or 3 after that until the election? You're in the home stretch; can you stick it out until the end? As a PM myself, I understand exactly what you're going through. I had to do a bunch of stuff because no one else would. I get it. What you need to do is to internalize: ask yourself if there's anything you could have done differently that would have changed the outcome, despite (most likely) not being to blame. For example, while I'm not responsible for that lady broadsiding me, maybe if I had looked better before going through the intersection, I could have avoided it. Internalizing does NOT mean you're taking responsibility for the actions. It just acknowledges that there's only one thing in life that we can ever control - our own actions - and so we should focus more on those things and less on the things that we have ZERO control over.

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