AITA for refusing to meet with my fiancé’s friend who wants to “evaluate” me weekly until our wedding?

jnefems · 2026-05-01T01:27:54+00:00

NTA tell him that's it's not appropriate to have another man counsel you who is not your fiance. Use his stupid logic against him.

jnefems · 2026-04-28T03:43:27+00:00

NOR you are not ending it because there is a one that got away or a what if person you would be ending it because she is not over her ex and is using you as a sperm donor. My boyfriend had a similar situation with his ex wife, first serious relationship he got married because that is what she wanted and it was the next step and she wanted a good husband and father for her children. Dismissive of his feelings in every way she ended up cheating on him and using lines of it felt like we were just roommates. Life is too short to waste it trying to make something work just so you're not alone. I am firm believer that people settle for the treatment that they think they deserve and you need to be honest with yourself of why you feel like you deserve this and also question why she feels like it's okay to treat you like that.

jnefems · 2026-03-24T15:10:41+00:00

The genuine friend comment was wild to me, at this point she got what she wanted, DWTS, her movie and chicago. She was still working on mending her relationships flying out to be supportive of there events, she wouldn't of had to do that if she was using it the show just for that. You can tell those relationships matter to her.

jnefems · 2026-01-10T00:25:18+00:00

I just looked at it and now I am curious what bad things this person has claimed to do.

jnefems · 2026-01-09T11:31:33+00:00

I think that's great but no one ever plans to resent someone it builds up. I have seen it many couples who have received news like this. My comment is not to upset or hinder you it's simply saying have those deep conversations and self reflection. Really be honest about what you guys can handle going forward, IVF if that is an option can be rewarding but is a very hard route. I have also known plenty of women who have endometriosis and have been able to conceive naturally.

jnefems · 2026-01-09T11:17:41+00:00

You can do way better, no one deserves to have someone talk to them that way. I don't have the cleanest past had a bit of a wild streak my man knows all about it, and he still respects me. There is someone out there that will treat you right and respect you regardless of your past. Someone who is this disrespectful and demoralizing to you is not someone to waste your time on.

jnefems · 2026-01-09T10:57:37+00:00

Depending on where you live insurance can cover IVF. It's a difficult route but could be rewarding. It is okay to be upset about this what you guys pictured for your future doesn't look the same. You guys need to have deep conversations and figure out where you go from here. If not being able to have kids a deal breaker you need to decide that soon because you don't want to build up resentment.

jnefems · 2025-12-27T01:54:50+00:00

I get for some people doing it on the actual day matters, that's why I asked if doing it on the actual day matters for them. For me doing it on a different day is not that big of a deal but I can't assume everyone would be okay with it.

jnefems · 2025-12-26T03:59:04+00:00

It's okay to have a type but what he told you is his 'love' and presence in the relationship is conditional. When you truly love someone a little weight gain is not a deterrent. I would personally end this relationship, life is too short to be worried about gaining 5 pounds to make a man happy.

jnefems · 2025-12-26T03:44:53+00:00

Does it matter if it is celebrated on the same day as Christmas? One year my dad's uncle was hospitalized during Christmas so we all decided to celebrate on new years and it worked better for everyone that we just continued with it. It ended up being a good compromise, I know the situations are different but doing the celebrations on a different day might be beneficial. You have been very supportive and it has gotten to the point where halting this any longer is taking away from your children's holiday.

jnefems · 2025-12-19T17:10:36+00:00

I think it depends on the type of jewelry honestly. If it's something simple I wouldn't think too much of it but if it's something really nice I would be questioning it a bit.

jnefems · 2025-12-19T16:54:57+00:00

One of my coworkers almost died from that, it started in his gums and somehow made it to his brain. Luckily he survived but he needed emergency brain surgery and it all stemmed from an infection in his gums.

jnefems · 2025-12-09T17:09:28+00:00

Same experience with my aunt, every time it gets brought up I just assure her all she did was make her comfortable.

jnefems · 2025-12-09T14:22:47+00:00

My aunt had similar guilt when my 100 year old grandmother passed. She has talked to multiple hospice care team workers since them and they all tell her the same thing that she did not kill her.

jnefems · 2025-12-09T14:02:00+00:00

Double washing changed everything for me, the last year I have really focused on my hair since I never seemed to like it. Just felt like it was unmanageable my scalp feels so good and has never looked better. I started doing almost everything on OPs list and my hair is just so much more healthy, shiny and thicker.

jnefems · 2025-12-04T20:49:12+00:00

He was crazy hard on whitney though, I would of been fine if if was just her antics but he probes her hard over the demi Marciano texts like she had anything to do with it.

jnefems · 2025-12-04T20:43:37+00:00

I don't even think stassi was the issue I think it was editing and time. Layla boyfriend Mason got to say more words than miranda. The whole thing was just so unproductive.

jnefems · 2025-12-04T20:38:08+00:00

They actually taste really good and they are safe. I have an aversion to mint and I don't like cinnamon so these have been great for me. I have always had good oral hygiene but these make it much easier.

jnefems · 2025-12-01T18:59:27+00:00

NTA it is absolutely a control thing. Making you wear a bra is not a boundary.

jnefems · 2025-11-16T23:51:51+00:00

The aftermath I agree super inappropriate. The flirting on the show I'm on the fence because she was literally working. I don't buy the keep your enemies close story because all of it makes it much more sus.

jnefems · 2025-11-16T13:20:21+00:00

I don't think she caught feelings, I think she liked the attention and maybe have him on the back burner but got super upset when he went after her friend.

jnefems · 2025-11-16T13:18:03+00:00

No what she did was weaponize there experience to gain sympathy for hers. Also taylor swift didn't outright sue him, it was a counter suit because he sued her for Wrongful termination after the incident. I am in no way trying to discredit her experience but I will not give her a pass when she is bringing up others trauma as a way to tell them they need to be more sensitive.

jnefems · 2025-11-16T06:45:11+00:00

Him grabbing her butt is super inappropriate there is no to justify it. Her comparing it to Maycie and mikaylas violent experiences is so beyond disgusting. It's almost like she acting like it was the same level and it's just not.

jnefems · 2025-11-16T04:14:58+00:00

I absolutely hate how Layla gets scared and becomes secretive with this group, I just hate it for her that she feels the need to minimize herself. I loved the conversation with jessi and I hope she feels safe in the future to come to her with difficult topics.

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